Youre Not Faking Your System

You’re not faking your system

Habits don’t change by accident, that’s the whole point of how habits work.

Sure, singlets have different personalities for different situations, but their gender, sexuality, favorite colors, etc, won’t change along with it.

If you made up your alters for attention, how come they’re thinking in first person inside your head where nobody else can hear them?

Denial is a totally natural part of the survival mechanism. Gatekeepers or other systemmates don’t want the host to know about the system until they’re ready. It’s a lot to take in.

You can’t fake a switch headache.

You can’t fake vertigo from height dysphoria/mis-match.

You can’t fake switching your dominant hand/leg/eye.

You can’t fake pesudomemories. Pseudomemories are just as real as “real” memories, under the hood. It’s all the same brain mechanism. They’re just as impactful.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of things in common. You already share so much.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of differences between them. It’s normal to have different races, animals, etc. The brain creates what it thinks it needs at the time.

It’s normal for alters to change and evolve, just like “real people”. 

It’s normal for alters to have a shallow or undeveloped personality, especially for fragments who don’t front much or only have very specialized roles.

It’s ok if you can’t tell who’s fronting right now.

If your voices sound super different in your head, but indistinguishable to other people, that’s ok. You share the same vocal cords, and you might have a shell alter acting as a filter.

Mood swings are one thing. If you’ve “always felt this way and can’t understand why you said you felt a different way earlier,” that’s something else.

Roleplaying with your systemmates in a fictional setting is a safe and healthy way to get to know them and to let them express themselves, especially when it isn’t safe for you to drop your external mask of pretending to be one person.

You don’t need to identify with everything on this list, or even with most of this list. Believe in yourself.

Please reblog and add your own!

Reblog to put one of these in your mutuals’ pocket when they’re not looking

the chances of having formed an alter from a comfort series when you were a kid is low but never zero - ✨

your system is valid if:

you switch a lot

you rarely switch

you don't have consistency in your switches

your switches are always consistent

you have high amnesia barriers

you have very little amnesia, if any

you remember your trauma

you don't remember your trauma

you want to pursue healthy multiplicity

you want to pursue final fusion

you have a lot of alters

you have very few alters

you have poor communication

you have good communication

feel free to add on! <3

endos + tulpas, this post isn't for you

*yelling into the void*

ALRIGHT WE GOT ANOTHER ONE...

Shoutout to the system hosts who:

➼ Are the original host

➼ Are the temporary host

➼ Are the new host

➼ Are a co-host

➼ Are a non-human host

➼ Are an introject host (whether that’s a fictive or a factive)

➼ Are also a protector

➼ Are also a persecutor

➼ Are also a trauma holder

➼ Completely identify with the body and body’s name

➼ Only identify with the body or body’s name partly

➼ Don’t identify with the body or the body’s name at all

➼ Knew about the system the whole time and have come to terms with it already

➼ Had no idea about the system before but have come to terms with it already

➼ Had no idea about the system before and are really struggling to come to terms with it

➼ Have good communication with their system

➼ Have okay-could-be-better communication with their system

➼ Have terrible communication with their system

All of you are valid. Being a host is hard work y’all, and you’re all doing a fantastic job at it! 💪 ❤️