I Live In Fear Every Time We Creat New Ocs Bc I Get So Attached To Them So Quickly And Im Just Like

i live in fear every time we creat new ocs bc i get so attached to them so quickly and im just like

please dont split please dont split please dont split please dont split please dont split please dont split please dont-

long distance relationships suck i need this man in my arms NOW wdym i have to travel for that

I don’t want a weighted blanket I want my boyfriend laying his full body weight onto me why is he so far away <//3

You’re not faking your system

Habits don’t change by accident, that’s the whole point of how habits work.

Sure, singlets have different personalities for different situations, but their gender, sexuality, favorite colors, etc, won’t change along with it.

If you made up your alters for attention, how come they’re thinking in first person inside your head where nobody else can hear them?

Denial is a totally natural part of the survival mechanism. Gatekeepers or other systemmates don’t want the host to know about the system until they’re ready. It’s a lot to take in.

You can’t fake a switch headache.

You can’t fake vertigo from height dysphoria/mis-match.

You can’t fake switching your dominant hand/leg/eye.

You can’t fake pesudomemories. Pseudomemories are just as real as “real” memories, under the hood. It’s all the same brain mechanism. They’re just as impactful.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of things in common. You already share so much.

It’s normal for alters to have a lot of differences between them. It’s normal to have different races, animals, etc. The brain creates what it thinks it needs at the time.

It’s normal for alters to change and evolve, just like “real people”. 

It’s normal for alters to have a shallow or undeveloped personality, especially for fragments who don’t front much or only have very specialized roles.

It’s ok if you can’t tell who’s fronting right now.

If your voices sound super different in your head, but indistinguishable to other people, that’s ok. You share the same vocal cords, and you might have a shell alter acting as a filter.

Mood swings are one thing. If you’ve “always felt this way and can’t understand why you said you felt a different way earlier,” that’s something else.

Roleplaying with your systemmates in a fictional setting is a safe and healthy way to get to know them and to let them express themselves, especially when it isn’t safe for you to drop your external mask of pretending to be one person.

You don’t need to identify with everything on this list, or even with most of this list. Believe in yourself.

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including the tags of this cause just < 3 - ✨

I love being part of a system <- guy who hates being part of a system <- guy who loves being part of a system <- guy who hates being part of a system <- guy who loves being part of a system <- guy who