Okay Because Neopronouns And Xenogenders Are So Fucking Cool. Honest To God I Think They're The Best

Okay because neopronouns and xenogenders are so fucking cool. Honest to god I think they're the best shot we have right now at gender abolitionism. Not terf gender abolitionism, but real gender abolitionism. Where we can decenter gender and its constructs as the most important basis for identity and like actually identify with things that are meaningful to us and give a sense of personal fulfillment.

I want you to look me in the eyes and tell me that a teenage gamer boy thinks being a boy is more pivotal to his identity than being a gamer. Obviously being a gamer is more important to him! Now, if someone took away from him the fact that he was a boy or attempted to undermine it, being a boy would become pretty fucking important to him. But hey, removing those external factors he might just identify as a gamer.

I feel like neopronouns and xenogenders are our transition (heh) state to that world. It reminds me so much of when they/them started to become popular on tumblr in like 2013 (i'm sure it was before then too, that's just when i got tumblr). Everyone flipped their collective fucking lid, cringe compilations were everywhere, and people cried the death of empiricism and western society. And now I get gendered as they/them, entirely unprompted, by cis people who don't know me.

So much of the criticism I've seen of these identities is that "they're just hobbies!", "that's just your special interest not your gender", or "that's just an aesthetic you like". and, YES!!!! That's the point! All of those things are equally as important to someone's identity and sense of self than arbitrary gender boxes we've made!

Gender abolitionism is a long term goal like any other anarchist principle. I personally like my gender, I like being called a man and referred to as he. Fuck anyone who says I can't. I'd also like for that to not have to be so important to me. I wish I could just be a writer, or someone who really likes the color green, or a gamer.

So what I'm trying to say is keep fucking with gender kids!! Make more of them, find pronouns that don't exist yet and use them with your friends. Have fun! Keep going! A better world will be made because of it.

when you can Tell someone vibes with the neopronouns you found but you Don’t Know Who

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using a headmate as target practice is Wonderful stress relief, by the by. highly recommend. - 🎶 (Jonny)

Just because your comfort character is in a system doesn’t mean you can treat them like that without consent.

My partner system and I both have communicated consent between fictives. If we see someone as a comfort then with their consent we are allowed to ask for them.

(Both of our systems have good communication and can typically switch easily and without pain, of course it isn’t always easy and neither of us get mad or upset about it. We are both lucky to have good communication systemwide and remember all systems are different.)

Communication is key and remember no is a final answer. “Maybe” or “I don’t know” does not mean yes.

-ENDOS/TULPAS DNI. NO SYSCOURSE.-

“Cringe culture is dead” isn’t about letting 15 year olds cosplay MHA. It’s about letting 50 year olds dance at clubs even if they’re “bad at it”, it’s about letting 10 year old’s wear random bits of clothes to make an outfit that’s “weird”, it’s about letting adult men experiment with artsy makeup looks even when they’re “messy”, it’s about letting teens scream music even if they “sound bad”.

“Cringe culture is dead” means letting people learn new hobbies at any age, experiment with their identity at any time, expressing themselves in ways outside the norm just as much as it means let 20 year olds play roblox. 

Cringe culture is just social norms being forced on people rebelling against societies value consensus, it’s keeping people in brackets that are easier to market to. 

Let cringe culture be dead in every aspect of life outside online spaces.

I want to cook with them. I want to get my hands dirty with flour and poke their nose while we giggle about how silly we look. I want to hug them from behind while they stir our meal in a pot and and sit together while we eat and praise each other for how well we did on the dish. It's the simple things that makes life with them magical.