I Hate Those Daenerys Is Going To Sacrifice Herself/die Theories So Much It Genuinely Makes Me Tweak

I hate those Daenerys is going to sacrifice herself/die theories so much it genuinely makes me tweak and I have never been the type of person to get upset at all over fiction or any type of media, but this irks me so bad because not only is Daenerys my absolute favorite character of all time, it’s upsetting how the female character is always the one who has to die for others sakes and never achieve anything for herself. Yes, it’s her destiny as AA to fight the Others, but that doesn’t mean that she has to die doing it. Like, seriously, after we got F&B and saw how many Targaryen women struggled with misogyny and being passed over for the throne, it feels upsetting to me if the one who is supposed to break the wheel will never have a chance to do so. I do love Bran but I do not see him fit to sit on the throne, not to mention how young he is and will be at the series end unless George does a massive timeskip, and after the whole world is in shambles after the Long Night, who is more fitting to sit on the throne and help mend things and lead the people forward? A well experienced ruler and fighter who will bring along a new age of change, or a child with no such experience? Perhaps it’s just me being salty but I just really want the best for my favorite character who I believe deserves to have her shot at having a home and being able to rule and change the world together with the other characters. Especially after the end of GoT, which no I don’t ever believe that George will go that route, but with how everything happened in the show, it looked like Westeros was a completely and utter mess and there was nobody capable left to pick up the pieces, Bran’s ascension to the throne was so random too and didn’t even feel satisfying or like a good conclusion (not that those two incapable idiots could ever produce a satisfying ending, but yeah). What are your thoughts on this? I just feel sad that fellow Dany fans are literally enthusiastically waiting for her death in the upcoming books as if there isn’t a better destiny for her :( The female character who managed to rise to power and become a ruler in her own right dying or giving that up to the men in order to “settle down” leaves such a bad taste in my mouth and doesn’t look like the subversion George has done with her character at all.

I definitely agree with you anon, Dany dying/sacrificing herself really doesn't seem to fit with her story. Yes, Dany certainly would be willing to die to save the world, but that doesn't seem to be where GRRM is writing her.

Dany's story is saturated with life; which is pretty ironic since she's been called "Daughter of Death". She's closely tied to themes of fertility (mother of dragons, helloo), rebirth (Azor Ahai, entering the pyre), and survival/endurance.

Dany's story shares very little similarities to characters who have been set up for death. For example, Robb. Dany may share some superficial similarities to Robb, but the signs of Robb's impending death are not shared at all. GRRM always sets up the deaths of his major characters from their introductions. That hasn't happened with Dany; if anything we see a set up to her surviving.

You're so right about how people are foaming at the mouth for Dany's death. Her dying after everything she's been through and everything she stands for is just...no. It feels so gross and has some really concerning undertones.

The woman who actually fought for change and made a massive upheaval in the status quo, who genuinely cares for all her people, who understands the responsibility of ruling, who demonstrates incredible wisdom, who only wants to make the world better dying for the sake of the story is just wow.

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Talking with @thelustybraavosimaid.... what do Jonsas think ASOIAF is?

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But here's the thing... Humans (and ASOIAF characters) are deeper than the colour of their hair.

There's more to a person than what colour their eyes are. To that end, Ygritte and Sansa don't even share a hair or an eye colour. Sansa is auburn with groomed and styled, highborn, socially approved hairstyles. Meanwhile, Ygritte has bright, fiery, tangled, ginger hair. The conventionally beautiful Sansa has blue eyes. Ygritte has grey-blue eyes which are noted to be too far apart with a pug nose and crooked teeth. Ygritte's singing voice is described by Jon as deep and husky. She's short, small, and skinny. Meanwhile, Sansa is described as tall with a womanly figure. When Jon mistook Melisandre for Ygritte (likely because Mel was messing with something like a glamour), he was startled because Melisandre and Ygritte are so different. He did not fall in love with Melisandre at that moment or at all -- instead, he was unsettled. What is connecting Ygritte to Sansa here? Or at all? Sansa shunned Jon on the basis of his bastardy, refusing to regard him as real family because of it. Ygritte couldn't give less of a f*ck about Jon's social status. Sansa bullied Jon's most beloved person in the world (Arya), who actually shares canonical deeper connections to Ygritte that go beyond a hair shade. Why on earth would Jon connect Ygritte to Sansa Stark.

Arya Stark and Daenerys Targaryen + parallels

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"I shall pray as well. On the morrow, come with me to Baelor's Sept, and we will light a hundred candles for our gallant Knight of Flowers." She turned to her handmaid. "Dorcas, bring my crown. The new one, if you please." It was lighter than the old, pale spun gold set with emeralds that sparkled when she turned her head. AffC - Cersei VIII

With Jhiqui's help, she wound the tokar about herself correctly on her third attempt. Irri fetched her crown, wrought in the shape of the three-headed dragon of her House. Its coils were gold, its wings silver, its three heads ivory, onyx, and jade. Dany's neck and shoulders would be stiff and sore from the weight of it before the day was done. A crown should not sit easy on the head. One of her royal forebears had said that, once. ADwD - Daenerys I

“Irri, bring the green tokar, the silk one fringed with Myrish lace.”

“That one is being repaired, Khaleesi. The lace was torn." - Daenerys VI, ADWD