Feministdm - Cave Woman

Hi! Do you have/know any resources for aroace info I’m trying to figure out my identity and I don’t know where to look to find info that actually helps me figure out a label that fits with me

Of course! I have loads of links here for you to just rummage through; some have basic aro and/or ace info, and others go deeper into labels. I hope some of these help you! Stay safe 💕

1. The Internet Is Your Friend

The internet has tons of aromantic and asexual resources, it just takes a little time to look sometimes! Here I have found for you some aspec videos, youtubers, websites, and the like!

Aspec Videos and Youtubers:

Celeste M is one of my favourite YouTubers! As well as talking about gender and sexuality, they also make videos about physical/mental health, wellbeing, and lighter topics like cooking, cosplay and tutorials. I totally recommend them!

Aaron Ansuini focuses more on transgender related subjects in his videos, but he also has some good ones on asexuality! His YouTube also covers Disability, mental health, art and animation! He’s pretty awesome!

Yasmin Benoit is what a lot of people consider the “Unlikely Face of Asexuality.” An aromantic asexual activist and alternative model, she promotes visibility for the aspec community and LGBT+ people of colour. A love her so much and recommend checking some of her videos out!

Sexplanations on YouTube provides an A+ video on asexuality and asexual experiences. Personally, I found this video very insightful and engaging, and definitely worth checking out. They also do a video on demisexuality!!

Jamie is a trans, autistic, LGBT+ YouTuber I really enjoy! As well as talking about queer topics, he has fashion videos, lifestyle videos, pretty funny reaction videos, and some other things. This video taught me more about asexuality, as well as providing some well needed ace memes and serotonin!

Believe it or not, there are many great TED Talks on asexuality! Having such a variety of videos opens you to different perspectives and viewpoints on asexuality. This includes Yasmin Benoit!

Asexuality: my Story of Self-exploration

Asexuals need media representation | Yasmin Benoit |

Is Sex the Glue in Our Relationships? | Gaia Steinberg |

Asexuality | Lisa Zhang |

An insight into asexuality

Exist | Danica Brown |

Other awesome aspec YouTubers and videos!

Embly

Eleanor Wilkinson

Queer As Cat (@queerascat)

HeyoDamo

ChandlerNWilson

Echo Gillette

Nik Hampshire

Kaihugstrees

That Girl With The Curl

My Aromantic Asexual Identities

What falls under the Aromantic Spectrum? | Under the Rainbow

Shaz Capade 

Debunking Asexual and Aromantic Myths

My Life As An Aromantic

Coming out as aromantic | Everything you need to know

Legit Boring #33: Being Gray Romantic + Legit Boring #27: Discovering Asexuality

5 Asexual People Explain What “Asexual” Means To Them

Asexuality: The Invisible Orientation + Aromanticism: Life Without Romantic Attraction

Everything Asexual and Aromantic. Part 1, Part 2, Part 3

Aspec Websites and Pages:

Narratively

How I Learned to Love Being Aromantic

I’m just not interested in romantic relationships. Yes, that’s a real thing. No, there isn’t anything wrong with me.

This isn’t a website, but it’s too good not to include! I found this comic by page artist Kotaline Jones quite a while ago, and I still go back to it! It’s probably my favourite aspec comic. Each page is drawn beautifully well, and brought me much comfort and understanding. Kotaline is very talented, and I owe a lot to this.

Links to aspec pages!

explore the spectrum: guide to finding your ace community

Facts You Should Know About Aromantic People

Wiki Aromantic + Asexual (Sub-labels are easily searchable!)

Labels change, but feelings persist

Are you ready for Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week?

TREVOR SUPPORT CENTER; Asexuality

What is asexuality?

It’s time to bust myths about asexuality

Aromantic Resources

This is what asexual looks like

What Does It Mean to Be Asexual?

I’M QUEER AND ASEXUAL. IF THAT’S A PROBLEM, BY ALL MEANS, REVOKE MY MEMBERSHIP.

Other awesome aspec and LGBT+ websites!

Aropocalype.com

Aromanticguide.com

Arospecweek.org

Aromanticism.org

Asexualagenda.wordpress.com

Asexualityarchive.com

Aceweek.org

Aroacedatabase.com

Queerundifined.com

Minus18.org.au (Australian Based)

 Oulgbtq.org (Has loads of aspec resources!)

2. Connect With Others!

One of the best ways to learn is to connect with others! There’s many ways to do so, and you can make friendships out of it too *looks at the other mods 👀*

Social Media

Twitter, Facebook, and other social media platforms are great ways to connect with members of the LGBT+ community! Especially here on Tumblr, which is apparently 193% more queer than any other platform, haha! There are many Ask Blogs (like us lol) dedicated to help and educate people on aromanticism and/or asexuality, but a lot of the time can just explore! There are loads of aspec bloggers and group chats that will happily befriend you!

TrevorSpace

Monitored and youth-friendly, TrevorSpace is a social networking site dedicated to LGBT+ people and allies aged 13-24. There you can create profiles and engage with different people and communities. There you can talk about more serious discussion; such as topics concerning mental health, coming out, and discrimination, and well as light-hearted topics about passions and interests. It is a great place to meet new people, and privacy/safety is taken very seriously. You can also find resources and get involved with local queer communities through TrevorSpace!

Local Communities!

If you’re able to, look into LGBT+ Spaces near you! Pride Gatherings are a fantastic way to find and engage with fellow queers! It can be quite an amazing experience to meet other LGBT+ people, and it’s a great opportunity to make new relationships as well. Just remember to stay safe

3. Try Some On!

Labels are awesome in the fact that you don’t have to think they’re awesome! You can like em! You can despise them! You can have a love-hate relationship with them! The complexity of gender and sexuality is not as black and white as some people think, and it is 100% normal to be confused. When it comes to labels, it’s all down to what you feel most comfortable with. Labels are like boxes. And you are a cat. You can force a cat to go in a particular box, but they won’t like it. It will take time for the cat to choose which box, or boxes, it wants to sit in. They can change their mind later, and that’s okay. The cat may even scratch up the box they really like, but they will eventually settle in. Labels are ment to make someone feel more valid and comfortable. If its not, then you can change it.

I hope this helps, if anyone has other resources, feel free to add them!

- Mod Rowan

Hestia is goddess of the hearth but Hera is the goddess the household. Her domain is one of dusting, vacuuming, brushing teeth, washing dishes, balancing the checkbook, and sleeping at a reasonable time. She is the shoulder to cry on, the buddy with a truck who helped you move apartments, the encouragement to "just eat something today, no matter how small." She is queen of all that is unglamorous, but necessary.