So, I Got A Problem, Does Anyone Have Any Advice?

So, I got a problem, does anyone have any advice?

It's not that I worry about what people think of me, no, I worry about how people percieve me.

I will inevitably be percieved as something I'm not (this stresses me out), which (sometimes) causes people not to like me. I still remember someone telling me their impression of me was not great, but with forced proximity they realise I actually am great.

I don't want there to be forced proximity for people to start liking me.

But I can't control their perceptions. Sometimes when I know I am percieved well, I am hesitant to (drastically) change my appearance, fearing their positive perception of me will go away/change. It's uncomfortable.

But for confidence or something like that, I shouldn't care and it is pointless to, but I don't know how. Also, I can control it for a bit. I know that when I look a certain way, people will percieve me as such. So the phrase you can't control it, let it go, doesn't add up here. Of course, I can't totally control it, but I can for a bit.

Does anyone have any tips/knows what I mean?

Look i get when people say:

"ugh i hate when people talk about TEAM GALE OR TEAM PEETA, because that wasn't the point of the hunger games."

But you can enjoy the love story of Katniss and Peeta, while also comprehending the deeper meaning of it all.

Silly teenage-girl-ness does NOT mean shallowness.

He's so delusional🥰

Ah yes, the Renegades Trilogy. Or as I like to call it: Nova Artino breaking the law and hoping for the best and Adrian Everhart being in denial for 3 books straight

Not just America,in Europe too

Everyone that doesn’t have any connection with high schoolers learning about the chess epidemic is the funniest thing. Yes teens all over America are now obsessed with playing chess. This has been going on since last November. No we don’t know why.

i'm sure there's a right way to solve these.

"I just want someone to love me for who I am"

Then show who you are

This was my internal monologue about a second ago, because I realized that if I don't show my lovingly 'weird' side that I want people to love then i'd never know if they will. How do I expect people to 'get' me when I don't even show what they should be 'getting'. Sometimes when you do show it and people don't respond the way you want to, it can suck, but it can also mean making a friend / having a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are and with deep connections.

But what if I get my heart broken, is the climb even worth the fall?

I like to battle this thought with something very simple, amd maybe you would say you can't compare the two, I like the analogy.

If you're going to eat something you really love, will you stop eating it just because you know you will be dissapointed when it's gone?

You may try to stretch the moment and take as little bites as possible, but you know you will finish it.

It is about focussing on the present and enjoying what you have. When you eat something delicious, you don't continiously think about it being gone, but try to enjoy the flavour as much as possible.

Hell, make the climb worth the fall, while maintaining balance

And maybe just maybe, you won't even fall, it won't be all bad. The food analogy won't add up anymore because the you won't ever run out of it.

PS:

I know this is easier said than done, but I like to organize my thoughts and even with this weird analogy, I hope it helps someone and I hope I don't come of as pretentious because I have a lot to learn. Also I do get a bit unconfortable woth comparing a relationship to food but I hope that wasn't the messag ethat you got from it and more like living in the present blablabla. Still it matters, and so do you. Have a joyful day or night!