Things Most Of Society Needs To Learn:

things most of society needs to learn:

-99% of queer and trans people are not going after your children, we just want the queer and trans children to be safe and feel reassured that everything will be ok.

-men can be abused, SA'ed, raped, attacked, have eating disorders, etc. yes, more women have these things happen to them, which is terrible, but that doesn't mean we should erase male victims. that'll just make it so men never admit to having these things happen.

-language evolves. you are not being forced to say "people who menstruate" or "people with penises", etc. but its more considerate to people who are trans/gnc. with that being said, yes, you have a right to not use these terms.

-most people use pronouns, so saying "pronouns in bio" or "pronoun/neopronoun user" is not a dunk. and yes, neopronouns are new and we all know much like the Croods you think everything new is dangerous, but it doesnt really matter if someone uses them.

let me know if I missed other stuff, and I'll add it here:

@forgie-forg has added," Also! Note that medical institutions should be obligated to use 'person with a uterus' 'person with a penis' etc because not doing so leads to trans people being denied healthcare. Nobody minds what terms you use to personally describe yourself"

thank you, reminded me of the time I yelled back at my mother, called her a psychopath, and started hysterically laughing to try and make myself feel better, in a way.

Your trauma is valid even if you weren't a perfect victim. Whether that means you screamed back, slammed doors, or got argumentative or something else. It still doesn't mean you deserved abuse, or asked for it.

👍

will do

We should all deliberately post pictures of trans people and trans flags on every major Christian holiday going forward, just to piss off the "love thy neighbor" crowd.

sounds about right to be honest.

are you for fucking real?

Hey, I'm here again, a bit better, but I just found out that my parents set up a meeting with my school coordinator (? I'm not sure if this is the word in english) today, in 30 minutes, to talk about the one(1) time I used the masculine toilet (to inform that I should not be using it, I know it comes from a place of worry, but I did it just cause I got """confused""" as a boy) and ask about psychologists to send me to. Thw problem is: I live in Brazil, which is already bad since here the life expectation of trans people is 32 and (last time I checked) we are the country that kills the most queer people in the world, and I'm pretty sure in a conservative town. I'm a bit scared just by that, and that gets intensified by my dad saying, to my face, that he think being a boy is a phase, and my mom implying that she sees me as a masc lesbian (I'm gaybian with a preference that shifts, so no) makes me scared.

I just needed to put this out, thanks for taking the time to read it. I'm not sure if I want advice or just to say it, but thanks anyway.

-Leo

Hey kiddo, it's great hear from you again. I'm so sorry you have all that going on- and honestly I understand why you would be scared. Whatever happens, I'm here, night and day, and you can always come talk to me. I don't think you're confused or that it's a phase- and I'm so sorry you're around people who do think those bigoted things.

Please feel free to reach out anytime, I'm always here to listen and offer support. I love you and I'm so proud of you for being who you are.

- dad x

conservatives: facts don't care about your feelings!!!

trans people: so give us real facts.

conservatives: no! I only want facts out there that push my ideals of absolute ignorance and compliance, because everyone who doesn't agree with me is a horrible, hell-bound person!!!

transphobes & conservatives throw around the "80% of trans children desist" statistic, and it comes from the average of a few quantitative studies that did produce those numbers

and they're relying on people to not have the knowledge to actually dig into these things, analyze the statistics, and question the methodologies in a scientific way

if you're curious at all how to debate these claims when people bring it up, i've summarized a meta-review below:

the biggest, most glaring issue of these studies is sample size and participant selection -- Baer Karrington, MD opened up these papers and found that one of the 4 studies (yes, the 80% number comes from the average of 4 studies, as of 2022) had identified nearly 300 eligible participants and then selected 132 of them, and we don't know why.

it's normal to screen out participants for psych & medical studies for any number of reasons, but you have to be completely transparent about why you're excluding them - and the researchers never told us. we can't know if you deliberately or subconsciously chose people who would confirm your hypothesis, which calls into question the data you collected.

another study was unable to contact 24 of the original participants out of 77, and then automatically classified the uncontactable participants as desisters. this isn't good science. i'm hesitant to even call it science.

the third study didn't list how many participants were included, but the assumption is that it was 10 people.

the fourth study had 25.

and across all of this research into desistance, including dozens of non-quantitative studies, case studies, and interviews, the researchers give us different definitions of desistance

(wouldn't the most important part of a cohesive argument against childhood gender affirming care be a mutually understood definition of desistance)

included under the definitions of desisters are:

adults who decide to stop HRT for any reason. this includes children who underwent the puberty of their choice and then ceased medical intervention in adulthood, without ascertaining if the reason was that they were satisfied with their body post-treatment, or if they had or intended to de-transition back to a body reflecting their birth sex

people who may have initially begun as binary transgender but settled on a non-binary or gender expansive identity. one former trans woman is identified in the research as now going by they/them and ceased HRT, and the studies do not reach a consensus on whether non-binary identities are included in the transgender non-desisting category, or if it is considered desistance

children for whom medical transitioning is stopped at any point - with obvious difficulties around determining whether was initiated by parents or truly the child's wishes

people who never received medical intervention and no longer experience gender dysphoria in adulthood, regardless of whether they have socially transitioned, changed their name, or engaged in non-medical affirmations of identity

children who decide not to medically transition. yes, that's it. they have desisted by virtue of not seeking medical intervention for the way that they conceive of their identity

and the issue with qualitative studies is that doctors are specifically reporting on people who have come to them seeking their help, and while their stories are important, and desistance does happen, you cannot draw actionable statistics from a self-selecting pool of people

the bottom line is that we have a double digit number of subjects across four questionable quantitative studies that gives us the repeatedly quoted 80%, and this is supposed to predict how several million children around the world will operate - and that's not how science works