Men Can Cry - Tumblr Posts

things most of society needs to learn:

-99% of queer and trans people are not going after your children, we just want the queer and trans children to be safe and feel reassured that everything will be ok.

-men can be abused, SA'ed, raped, attacked, have eating disorders, etc. yes, more women have these things happen to them, which is terrible, but that doesn't mean we should erase male victims. that'll just make it so men never admit to having these things happen.

-language evolves. you are not being forced to say "people who menstruate" or "people with penises", etc. but its more considerate to people who are trans/gnc. with that being said, yes, you have a right to not use these terms.

-most people use pronouns, so saying "pronouns in bio" or "pronoun/neopronoun user" is not a dunk. and yes, neopronouns are new and we all know much like the Croods you think everything new is dangerous, but it doesnt really matter if someone uses them.

let me know if I missed other stuff, and I'll add it here:

@forgie-forg has added," Also! Note that medical institutions should be obligated to use 'person with a uterus' 'person with a penis' etc because not doing so leads to trans people being denied healthcare. Nobody minds what terms you use to personally describe yourself"

tw: suicide and SA

it genuinely pisses me the fuck off that when I was 15, I got SA'ed, and because I'm male, no one, other than my friends, gave a shit.

i didn't say this, because I knew they'd try to send me to CPEP, which is a fucking hellhole, but I knew that the only way I'd actually get taken seriously was if I had said "I want to kill myself."

because those shitheads only cared about their goddamned jobs, and if I had committed suicide, they would've been held somewhat liable for my death.

this is the motherfucking reason male victims dont say shit.

because this fucking asshole looked me in the eyes and said,

"maybe you gave her mixed messages."

Just had a mental breakdown, so....I am going to write headcanons on how the beloved pumpkin husbands calm each other down.

•Schlatt is usually pretty calm. The difficulties are there only when he drinks too much. During this time he can either get frustrated, having an emotional breakdown or aggressive. This is why he and Quackity already communicated about it. Quackity usually just leads him to a quiet room and leaves as soon as Schlatt asks him to. The ram hybrid then usually yells and breaks something that is lying in the wrong place. It takes an hour or more for him to calm down and Quackity is then waiting near the door. He proceeds to ask how his husband is feeling and if he can enter the room. If the answer is positive, he enters. Mostly Schlatt is already sitting on the floor, heavy breathing. Quackity checks his hands and knuckles, knowing that he could have damage them, kisses him and leaves many kisses on his face, earning at least a weak smile. He whispers sweet nonsense in Spanish, it's strange, but it seems to calm his husband down more, so he doesn't question it. The following time would only contain cuddles and sweet whisper, that is interrupted just by some drunk nonsense or apologies, which Quackity tries to shush, gently cupping the others face, making sure to make his love know that everything is alright and that they can make it work together. Nothing to be sorry for. Nothing to be ashamed for.

•Whenever Quackity is having a bad time, be it because of bad memories, recent events, pain from the scar and nightmares, Schlatt tries to be as close to him as possible. He is not leaving. Even if he needs to get water or anything else, he usually takes his lover with him or even carries him. Quackity doesn't weight much, being an avian, so that's not a problem and it makes the young hybrid chuckle every time. In this case, it's more a situation of "listen and let him talk". Schlatt will ask what exactly is wrong and only let Quackity speak, giving only more questions, letting his duckling be more specific about anything that is bothering him. During that the ram hybrid will gently rub his back, give praises, because he knows how hard it can be for his husband to be that open about his feelings, make sure that Quackity stays hydrated and makes sure that his beloved knows just how much he loves him. No matter what happens or happened.