Men Can Be Victims Too - Tumblr Posts

See all this? Solid points.

“Those poor boys”

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

being kind to her was not my consent.

hugging her was not my consent.

blowing kisses was not my consent.

awkwardly laughing it off was not my consent.

i never said she could do that to me. but i was still blamed. why?

because i'm a man, and shes a woman.

things most of society needs to learn:

-99% of queer and trans people are not going after your children, we just want the queer and trans children to be safe and feel reassured that everything will be ok.

-men can be abused, SA'ed, raped, attacked, have eating disorders, etc. yes, more women have these things happen to them, which is terrible, but that doesn't mean we should erase male victims. that'll just make it so men never admit to having these things happen.

-language evolves. you are not being forced to say "people who menstruate" or "people with penises", etc. but its more considerate to people who are trans/gnc. with that being said, yes, you have a right to not use these terms.

-most people use pronouns, so saying "pronouns in bio" or "pronoun/neopronoun user" is not a dunk. and yes, neopronouns are new and we all know much like the Croods you think everything new is dangerous, but it doesnt really matter if someone uses them.

let me know if I missed other stuff, and I'll add it here:

@forgie-forg has added," Also! Note that medical institutions should be obligated to use 'person with a uterus' 'person with a penis' etc because not doing so leads to trans people being denied healthcare. Nobody minds what terms you use to personally describe yourself"

tw: suicide and SA

it genuinely pisses me the fuck off that when I was 15, I got SA'ed, and because I'm male, no one, other than my friends, gave a shit.

i didn't say this, because I knew they'd try to send me to CPEP, which is a fucking hellhole, but I knew that the only way I'd actually get taken seriously was if I had said "I want to kill myself."

because those shitheads only cared about their goddamned jobs, and if I had committed suicide, they would've been held somewhat liable for my death.

this is the motherfucking reason male victims dont say shit.

because this fucking asshole looked me in the eyes and said,

"maybe you gave her mixed messages."

PSA from Blobby. Something we should talk about more ❤️

Support for Male Survivors

Since today is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Men and Boys, here are some resources for male survivors.

Male Sexual Assault Survivors

- 1in6

- MaleSurvivor

- Jim Hopper

- MenHealing

- O’Brien Dennis Initiative

Male Domestic Violence Survivors

- National Domestic Violence Hotline

Finally did an edit of how me and Creepy would imagine Zenkichi's father who will be featured in the next Prison of Grief chapter! I tried to make his normal self's eye color match the ones on Zenkichi's sprite. More under the cut!

(tw: talks of various forms of abuse (namely child abuse and spousal/domestic abuse), mentions of victim blaming too along with neglect) Compared to Maki, who was more wrathful in nature, Junichi Hasegawa is more regretful in nature. Regrets on how different things could have been had he noticed or acted sooner, had he not been so cold and distant. Needless to say, he was basically Zenkichi in present day with a lovely dose of history repeating itself which was the LAST THING Zenkichi wanted. Unlike Maki, he wanted to keep Zenkichi. He had hopes that maybe the situation would improve. But it didn't, in fact, it got worse. As a result, despite legitimately caring about him... He ended up also resenting the kid, treating him coldly at times. In his case, it's because he felt like said kid being born worsened the abuse. He had tried to report his wife, but it all fell on deaf ears. He's also not home often which unwittingly gave Maki free range to further torment Zenkichi, especially since he resembled Junichi a lot. It did come to a head when he finally puts his foot down and had Zenkichi be put under his care after some difficulty but there are still scars no matter what. He disapproves of Zenkichi wanting to take up a law enforcement career. He feels like the young man is setting himself up for disappointment (which to be fair DOES happen) due to being exposed to so much of the darkest parts of society and human nature. He ends up doing something in a misguided attempt to stop him from potentially making a poor decision (and to keep him safe in a way), which leads to a confrontation and then a full-blown argument. Junichi ends up saying something that ended up hurting Zenkichi badly (like with him and Akane). Zenkichi finally snaps at that and after storming off to cool down, Junichi is left with more regret but rationalizing that he's doing all this for his child's own good. Zenkichi severs ties with him along with his mother before he leaves for good. As you can see, it's pretty obvious where Zenkichi gets his self-loathing from. He just didn't expect to unwittingly act like the very people he hated as an adult and that fact tore him up inside even more.

Reblogging in response to Andy's most recent post on ig

Juliet Simms!

If you follow my twitter you know I already spoke about her. For newer fans and fans who are unaware, we have proof Juliet is abusive towards Andy. About 2-3 years ago about there was a incident on a plane were Juliet was hitting Andy and saying he was hurting her. He obviously didn’t lay a hand on her and she was lying. If that isn’t enough she is saying she was drunk. If she was or wasn’t that doesn’t matter. You are responsible for your actions when you are drunk. You choose to drink. Obviously she should know how much it takes for her to get drunk if she is going to drink. We live in a world where men go to jail for abusing women drunk or not. When you first think of abuse you think of a man hitting a women not the other way around. Women cab hurt men. Surprising I know nobody remembers that… Juliet Simms doesn’t deserve Andy! She is an abusive bitch! ANDY NEEDS TO LEAVE HER!!