I Have Mixed Thoughts On Sex Work. I Love Sex, But I Hate Work!

I have mixed thoughts on sex work. I love sex, but I hate work!

saw this on twitter rn, if you ever feel discouraged about writing fanfiction, read this again

It really ticks me off when people treat the one line All Might said at the start of the series as bad as the way Bakagou treated Izuku since childhood, said line being this;

True it’s not brought up as much as other stuff, but I’ve seen it enough where I decided to make this post.

Just a warning while I’m not bashing Bakagou here I am going to be a bit critical of his past actions at the start of the series. Of course this whole post is going to be about his past treatment of Izuku which I understand can be a dead horse to many, so if you’re sick of the topic this is not the post for you. I misspelled his name to keep it out of his tag, but we all know how tumblr can be. You have been warned. This is mainly defending All Might’s actions.

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The trend of queer people (especially young ones) glorifying relationships in media where there is consistent abuse shown and the abuser never shows any remorse for their actions is kinda scary to me. Like no y’all, emotionally and physically abusing someone for literal years and then saying sorry one time is not the foundation for a good relationship and you should not be defending it.

Like if you ship something unhealthy/somewhat “problematic” and can admit that it’s bad, that’s your thing I don’t really care, I’m not assuming you can’t differentiate fiction and reality or anything. My problem arises when you see people criticizing that ship for being abusive and unhealthy and go “actually it’s fine because” when that’s not true. You don’t get to ignore the reality of the relationship in canon. If you want to say “I work off my own version of canon where those things happened differently” go for it. But when you try to paint abuse dynamics in canon as healthy and a single verbal apology or minority changed behavior as “redemption” it shows you aren’t separating reality and fiction, you’re saying that you genuinely either don’t know what abuse looks like or think that abusive dynamics are fine. And that’s worrying.

Apologies but I saw this and immediately thought of this.

I will not overcomplicate my plot

I will not overcomplicate my plot

I will not overcomplicate my plot

Wanna write believable character in love (and make the readers want to ship them)?

Make them behave slightly different around their crush (but not too different because we don't want to completely change their personality). For example, if they're very extrovert make them act shyer around their crush (and the complete opposite). Or if they're not really in touch with their feelings, make them be more open about them with their crush. If they usually are big brain proud people, make them act kinda stupid with their crush. If they're super tidy people, make them be more chaotic around their crush.

Make them slowly fall in love. Love at first sight is bullsh*t (just look how Romeo and Juliet ended). Readers are going to hook on relationships that take their time to be constructed. How long does it take to fall in love (and not just being physically attracted to someone)? If you want to write a healthy relationship give them scenes (or time) to know each other. I know it sounds weird, but make them live around their crush. Make them be vulnerable together, be real together, be sad, happy, stressed together. Make them talk about their feelings, about their past, about their worries. HOWEVER, this is NOT an excuse to make your characters be the "psychologist" and the "patient". If one of the characters has mental health issues, do not make their love interest to be "in charge" of it. If one of your characters has mental health issues and you want them to get better, make them go to therapy/psychologist/any mental healthcare professional.

Make those two (A and B) interact with other characters. As Passenger once said "Only miss the sun when it starts to snow". This is really simple and helpful because it makes you think "Why does A like B and not C or D?".

This may sound contradictory, but DON'T make them need each other, make them want each other. If they need each other, there's gonna be an attachment red flag. Tbh, I don't know how to explain this, but want > need.

Make them be honest with each other. Please, another red flag is lying, so don't make them lie. A relationship is built on honesty.

Make them have (at least) one thing in common. Could be based on personality, on politics, on taste, on goals... You decide! Maybe make both of your characters be interested in science, or the pursue of happiness, their music taste, an experience they shared...

This is a very personal choice, but try to avoid the enemies to lovers trope (unless you're Jane Austen). I just don't quite like when character A and B hate each other to the core (plus they insult or hit each other) and then it's expected from me to believe that they actually love each other. Maybe this would work with kids that at first hate each other then grow up, become friends and eventually lovers, but not with mature adults.

Feel free to add more tips in the comments :)