Just Found Out My Qpp Has Been Waiting To See If Id Eventually Develop Feelings For Them.

Just found out my qpp has been waiting to see if I’d eventually develop feelings for them.

Our entire qpr. They’ve been holding out on a chance that I’d change.

It’s not on them at all. I just feel like a cunt that lead them on now fuckkkkk

I don’t know what to do

people act like it’s a flaw that qprs are difficult to define and confusing to allos as if that’s not half the fun! y’know those memes that are like “are you a boy or a girl?” followed by “no” / “yes”??? qprs are that energy but for relationships and for some reason we’ve still got folks trying to pretend that’s not nifty as fuck

Every day my relationship with the word “love” and what it means gets more complex and more impossible to explain to the rest of you people

Like yeah dude im in love with someone. Not like that though. Not like the other way either. You wouldn’t understand

begging people to remember that queer-platonic relationships are not one specific type of relationship, it’s any relationship between people who choose to queer expectations around what platonic means. queer-platonic relationships don’t need long-term commitment, queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be prioritized over other types of relationships, queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be “pure” (aka sexless, we know what yall mean by that /neg), queer-platonic relationships don’t need to be anything in particular, that’s the fucking point.

that’s why, i’m gonna be honest with you, i’m very confused at what queer-platonic attraction as a concept could possibly be cuz every queer-platonic relationship is going to be different, including in types of attractions involved (or lack thereof). the only way i could make sense of it is like as a type of attraction that makes you want to diverge from social normal around platonic attraction, but that is just not the definition it has at the moment.

that’s also why i’m confused with any posts that talks about queer-platonic relationships as if they’re like.. one thing. one universal experience for anyone who has them. they are not.

i could fuck nasty with a friend for two weeks, never do it again and it’d be a queer-platonic relationship. i could (hypothetically, i actually could never) spend the rest of my life raising a child with a friend, completely sexlessly and romancelessly, and it’d also be a queer-platonic relationship. hell, i could choose to schedule completely silent cuddling sessions with people i barely know once a month like it’s a business meeting and it could still be a queer-platonic relationships.

anyways, please read up on relationship anarchy if you haven’t already 🙏

aromanticism is such a weird experience combined with everything going on w me.

i have a massive crush on one of my sysmates but i don’t even know what type of attraction it is besides it definitely not being romantic.

sexual? maybe. platonic? maybe. sensual? maybe. i don’t know.

but i have *never* experienced romantic attraction! woooohg.

i wouldn’t give up being aromantic for anything though.

My take, from experience trying to convey it to others:

Crush = I want a romantic relationship with that

Squish = I want strong emotional connection with that

Basically, a crush is wanting romance with someone and a squish is wanting platonic closeness with someone (qpr, or “just” unlabelled super close friends)

...Honestly, yeah, you're right, that might be the best way of summing it up, thank you very much for that!