Just Found Out My Qpp Has Been Waiting To See If Id Eventually Develop Feelings For Them.

Just found out my qpp has been waiting to see if I’d eventually develop feelings for them.

Our entire qpr. They’ve been holding out on a chance that I’d change.

It’s not on them at all. I just feel like a cunt that lead them on now fuckkkkk

I don’t know what to do

Every day my relationship with the word “love” and what it means gets more complex and more impossible to explain to the rest of you people

Like yeah dude im in love with someone. Not like that though. Not like the other way either. You wouldn’t understand

I truly believe that Queer-Platonic Relationships should go without a set definition. QPR's exist on a spectrum and they look different for everyone. Some people want somethings but not others. Some QPR's closely resemble stereotypical "romantic" relationships while others don't and that should be okay. Pushing guidelines like "doesn't include sex", "more than friends", or "require a deep bond" etc. takes away from the purpose of QPR's in the first place, to exist outside the guidelines.

Obviously, QPR's can be sexless, QPP's may define their QPR as existing somewhere between romantic and platonic, and some people do prefer a deep bond before getting involved in a QPR, but to make that the standard defeats the point of having a term that means to have a relationship outside of the standard.

I think that might have made sense? I am not too sure I just saw posts talking about people pushing hard fast definitions as to what a QPR is and decided to spit out my opinions on it.

QPRs are so awkward to form because most of the time its like.. hey have u heard of this type of relationship thats like custom but also dedicated and stuff? no? ok uhh do u want to be in one though? yeah ok? uh i love you, lets play minecraft together tomorrow ok bye

Update of this shit storm:

I’ve decided to end thing with my qpp, I’m uncomfortable with them waiting out for a chance my feelings will change

and also the fact that they can’t move when they’re hoping I’ll change

So yay! Tbh I think this whole experience has showed me that I’m much more aromantic then I previously thought

Because the stress of being in a relationship, even a qpr has been weighing on me significantly so yeah, I’ll keep y’all updated on this fucking mess

Just found out my qpp has been waiting to see if I’d eventually develop feelings for them.

Our entire qpr. They’ve been holding out on a chance that I’d change.

It’s not on them at all. I just feel like a cunt that lead them on now fuckkkkk

I don’t know what to do

"aros and aces can still love and have sex!" yeah but do you really mean that? can you accept the fact that some aroaces don’t want sex and dont do romance? or do you just want to use that as an excuse when you want two people to date despite one or both of them being actively repulsed by romance, or when you want two people to have sex despite one or both of them being actively sex repulsed? are you only saying that for your own benefit?