If Someone Says That They Dont Support BLM Or Pride, Because Everyone Should Be Treated Equally And Its

If someone says that they don’t support BLM or Pride, because “everyone should be treated equally” and “it’s not equal if they get special privileges”, are they racist/homophobic?   I just got into a big fight with my parents about this. My dad voted for Trump, is white & straight, and works in business. But he gets mad when I call him racist/transphobic/misogynistic, etc because he “doesn’t care what other people do” so long as it doesn’t affect him.  My mom is an independent, hated Trump, and is more liberal than my dad, but she has a lot of the same views as my dad. She doesn’t support feminists because she believes they’re all “men-haters” that would make fun of her for choosing to be a stay at home mom, she says “all lives matter”, and when I told her my friend was bi, she said she had to discuss if I was allowed to sleep over at her house anymore! Even though she came out like 5 years ago to me and nothing weird has happened. Wtf, Mom. She also told me that she’d be fine if I was a lesbian but she’d “prefer” if I wasn’t because it would be “easier” for her. And one time she mentioned that her aunt was never married or even dated, so I said, “maybe she’s ace or aro” and she said, “what’s that mean” and as I told her, she interrupted me and said, “I don’t have room in my brain to learn any of theses new words.” Huh, Mom. I don’t remember you saying that when I told you about a cool new animal or invention I told you about.

Is this a Gen X thing? Like, they just want to ignore anything that doesn’t affect them and they cannot deal with change? Because I’m pretty sure this is the mindset of a lot of adults I know.

Are you sad that June is over and you don't have a pride month anymore? Fear not, friends! There's a different pride month just beginning! lgballt

I’m having kinda the same problem with finding a travel/culture related major 😬

Global Studies sounds awesommmee 😍🌍

How the heck so you chose a major. I want to study in political science, international relations, psychology, or international business. I want to travel a lot but I know I will have to either make a lot of money or have my job relocate me to a different place every few years. I don’t like stress and don’t feel that confident in my abilities even though I have a 4.3 gpa right now and have done well in school but my social skills are sorely lacking. I just need a helpful hint. Thank you!!

OMG you are going to be totally fine! I’m excited! You’re how old? 17? 19? 23? You already know so much about yourself, which is going to be a huge advantage for you if you can also develop some self-confidence. I say this as a young, self-aware person currently working on my confidence-building. It takes time; it’s a journey, and over time you’ll continue to learn about yourself, your needs, and how to get what you want.

Some previous questions I’ve answered:

What should I major in?

What should I do with my life?

How important is my major?

What if I’m having second thoughts about my life plans?

Here’s what you’ve told me:

I want to study in 

political science, 

international relations, 

psychology, or 

international business. 

I want to travel a lot

I know I will have to either make a lot of money or have my job relocate me to a different place every few years.

I don’t like stress 

and don’t feel that confident in my abilities

I have a 4.3 gpa right now and have done well in school

my social skills are sorely lacking.

These are each separate endeavors, and I encourage you not to think just about your overall dream, but how each of these dreams are different and how they relate to each other.

Given your international and political interests, as well as your desire to travel, I wouldn’t recommend psychology as a major, but taking psychology classes as electives or as a minor could be perfect for you!

If you’re not already in college, I would recommend looking at “global studies” programs. These may help you put your interests together while helping you develop skills toward your desired career. Regardless of where you go to college, I would recommend studying abroad. Arcadia University also has a College of Global Studies; they also partner with colleges that don’t have global studies programs to send students abroad.

At most universities, international relations and political science are likely to be in the same college or department, which would allow you to take classes in both. International business is more likely to be separate, located in a College of Business. 

Try to reach out and email advisors, admissions folks, and faculty in those particular colleges/departments/admissions offices. I know that advice sounds wild, but so many people go into education because they want to help students like you. 

The more you talk to people who know stuff, two things happen:

You know more stuff. 

You feel more confident talking to people who know stuff.

I believe in you! Please do reach out if you need a confidence boost. I’ll be here waving pom poms for you on the sidelines.

Sex-repulsed ace culture is when your friends have sex-related conversations and you’re just sitting there wishing they’d talk about something else, cuz you can’t add anything to the topic and feel left out ;w;

Do you ever just…

Want to just BE somewhere SO freaking bad

But CAN’T yet

So you pretty much INHALE all the information you can 

Every Tumblr post, YouTube video, book, TikTok, website, etc.

So that it FEELS like you’re there

But not quite

But now you feel like you know everything there is to know about it

And you’re worried that you’ve ruined it for yourself

Because now maybe it won’t be as exciting or quite as good as you imagined it would be

When you finally get there

IF you finally get there

And you slowly run out of new places to absorb information about it

So now you’re back to waiting

And now you have to find something new to obsess over in the meantime

?

My Top 3 Favorite Books on My Bookshelf:

1. Cinder (The Lunar Chronicles) by Marissa Meyer

*Cyborgs. Fairytales. Royalty. Spaceships. Mind control/illusion magic. A race that lives on the moon. A revolution. Romance. Robots. + more!*

2. Gallagher Girls Series by Ally Carter

*An all girls boarding school for spies. Plus drama, mystery, and butt-kickery. Need I say more?*

3. Magnus Chase Trilogy by Rick Riordan

*Percy Jackson but opposite. Hates blue, from Boston, Mom’s dead, Norse Gods. He is also dead from chapter 8 on. (And there’s a ton of diverse characters! Genderfluid, Muslim, Latinx, Athiest, Deaf)*