Very Specific Question, But Do You (or Anyone Else) Know Of How To Get Rid Of That Nagging Feeling Of

Very specific question, but do you (or anyone else) know of how to get rid of that nagging feeling of sharing everything you create?

I'm a writer, both in the fanfic sense and of my own stories. I'm also proship, but nobody I care about knows that fact due to be so severely anti to the point of me mentioning the discourse (to test the waters) gets a blatant "proshippers aren't human beings and should kill themselves".

I really want to write a small fic about a problematic ship (young child x older person) that I don't even actually like! I don't ship it, though I don't care if other people do. But I'm fascinated by the idea of it, the possible dynamic, because it's very popular in the proshipper circle of the fandom and it's been nagging at me. The problem is that I write and then want to share it. Writing for myself feels.... Wrong, almost? But I cannot share it with my loved ones. I had previously already suggested writing a similar idea to a very close friend and he was severely disgusted by it, asked me if I was genuinely considering writing it and I had to very quickly play it off as a joke.

And I know the next suggestion will be the proshipper side of the fandom, but sharing my work online for others I don't know to see makes me personally uncomfortable, which is a major shame.

(I'm not even going to touch the fact that your "loved ones" think people like you should kill themselves.)

But. A good way is to treat them like an assessment opportunity. Make a copy of each piece and use something like Google Documents to annotate and evaluate what you've written. Move all of the originals into a secondary folder.

Not only will this help improve your writing in the long run, but it somewhat changes the intent of the literature from something written to, at its core, be shared, into a personal resource.

There's also the option of making new friends. You don't have to go out and gather people up like a squirrel with a winter store, but even just one likeminded person whom you can get to know well enough to feel comfortable sharing your work can help sate that need to share and engage with someone about what you create. You can send your content to them privately, then, rather than uploading it for the masses.

But. I would just gently like to say that perhaps its not the need to share that you need to reflect on and try to negate. If you have to ask how to stifle yourself so that your loved ones don't think of you as inhuman meat that needs to be slaughtered, perhaps you're asking the wrong questions.

I'm sorry if this is annoying but I wanted advice and you seem very knowledgeable, I'm planning on starting a selfship account. All my selfships are teenage self insert x adult character, do you think anyone would be interested in my art?? I‘d like to share my work with others but I don't know if anyone would want to see it. I'll probably still post it even if nobody likes it, but I was wondering.

I can absolutely promise you that there are people interested in everything and anything. The literal wildest most outlandish shit yo can imagine.

Teenager/Adult selfshipping is vanilla beans compared to stuff I've seen.

Just use the appropriate tags, build a presence and you'll get traction fairly quickly.

The thing about "there needs to be space to discuss sexist tropes is..." isn't this just inviting people to look at servers for mlm ships and go "hm, I need to go in and harass people in this server for not shipping these boys with their canon love interests" or something. I have been in so many servers ruined for me because people came in and started yelling about m/m shippers and making me feel guilty about discussing the ships, even if they weren't talking about me individually.

No, but people will invite themselves into MLM spaces to do that regardless. (Also that's homophobia, not sexism.)

Homophobes will try to enter MLM spaces spaces regardless of the intent of the space or if they're welcome or not. Having spaces that permit critical discussions have no relevance to things like homophobia beyond the fact that these people will merely see it as an easier opportunity to be a dickface and will try their luck.

But again, they'd try their luck anyway. That's what bigots do. They're like diseases, invading spaces and trying to infect and destroy them.

Its on the people who run the servers to adhere to their responsibility to keep them safe, in those instances. This is why I always try to dissuade people from establishing Discord servers open to the public if they are not 100% willing and committed to actually moderating them and taking on that responsibility of safeguarding.

Hi there, really enjoying reading through your posts & adding a bunch of antis to my blocklist. It's upsetting to see how old some of them are, I can't imagine any self-respecting person over the age of 20 using the term "proshitter" but I guess this is the playground we're living in now.

I too love when antis try to sound off on my posts and make my tedious chore of blocking them so much easier.

Unfortunately, access to the open world of the internet means that people are exposed to far much more than they might be without it, and it allows them to breed this lasting culture of hate and stupidity. I just take great pleasure in laughing at them and knowing that the only people who just barely respect them are the people who think the same way as them. Which is not a compliment at all.

https://www.tumblr.com/myfandomrealitea/751296525323370496?source=share Screaming from the rooftops "WANTING THINGS IN THE PROPER AREAS IS NOT CENSORSHIP"

I'm not asking out of some kind of contrarianism, it's just that it seems like a good idea to get this spelled out, because I'm not seeing it, and I'd imagine others are not as well: Why specifically is it dangerous to go incognito into an anti-ship space or a pro-ship space if one is the opposite?

Because deceiving people and inserting yourself into spaces wherein you are overtly unwelcome has no positive or beneficial outcome. And there are batshit insane people on both sides who are known to go as far as doxxing, stalking, getting people fired, creating revenge pornography and so forth.

Absolutely nothing is worth that. No amount of fake friends or "gleaning information" or whatever other excuse you have is worth risking the sanctity of your life for.

For example, the anon who started this conversation is "incognito" in a server full of people supposedly their "friends," and yet they are constantly making it overtly aware that they think the kind of person anon (secretly) is is disgusting and immoral. How do you think they're going to react if they find out the person they're supposed to be friends with is actually the very thing they hate?

Even if their reactions aren't inherently dangerous they are certainly not going to be pleasant. It is simply not worth the risk at all.