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By the way if you're creating a space like a private group chat or a Discord server it is absolutely your responsibility to make sure that space is safe.

It is your responsibility to moderate it. To regulate the behavior displayed within it. To take action when people create harm. You cannot just create this space then wash your hands of any responsibility for what happens within it.

I keep seeing so many teens making servers and chats and groups and then whining that they're getting bullied for not doing anything when people use them to cause harm and upset and I cannot stress this enough.

You are responsible for shutting that down. Or for sourcing someone to do it on your behalf. You have control of that space. You are not just an innocent bystander.

"Anything goes here, if you're offended just leave" is absolutely not an excuse for blatantly allowing things like harassment, bullying, racism, homophobia and other targeted hate.

Discord in particular is incredible for available resources for preventing things like this. There are literally hundreds of server bots you can deploy to auto-moderate and manual moderation is as easy as two little clicks.

If you feel you're responsible enough to be in the position of power of creating a space, you are responsible enough to ensure it is not used for harm.

And if you're not?

Well.

That discord server post made me remember the stark difference between Serverstuck (a minor populated server) and Degrees of Lewdity (strict adult-only server)

Serverstuck has the worst mods and owner I've seen because they're all Antis and abuse the rules by excusing anyone who are close to them & punishing others who are strangers, lying to people on why some got banned, and allowed sensitive political topic go unregulated

Degrees of Lewdity, despite filled with people who has crude & cursed-level sense of humor, has strict mods & owner, write the correct information on why some people are banned or muted (they even allow users to request to be ban from the server for mental health reasons), and immediately shut down any conversation of sensitive political topics that cause infighting between members

I feel safer in a server for an adult game development than a "minor friendly" homestuck rp server

While I do welcome servers that have a mixed age range, I don't think I've ever or will ever join a server moderated or owned by someone who is either/both an anti or a minor.

To run or moderate a server you need to be impartial, objective, socially aware, able to appropriately manage conflict and relatively socially seasoned. I've personally found most minors often lack or are incapable of most if not all of these qualities.

(And that's not me hating on minors or calling them ignorant. Some of those qualities are just things you learn or develop with age and time. Some adults never learn them at all, even, but they are qualities you need if you're going to, essentially, be in charge of other people.)

Sephiroth's Server Safety Tips

Always do a thorough check into who is advertising the server, who owns the server, and other members before joining a server where possible.

Once you've joined the server, immediately use the search function to look for key words related to topics you want to avoid, possible past conflict, bullying, ect.

Immediately check the server rules. Its a red flag in itself if the server doesn't have any. Also, 'just be nice' is not a rule. Servers should have clear, clean cut rules and regulations.

Don't be afraid to message server owners, moderators or users privately and ask questions. They shouldn't get offended and if they can't or won't answer questions about basic rules, server safety protocols, ect, you should reconsider joining.

Don't be afraid to ask around other people to see if the server is known or has a reputation, either. If a server is based on a specific fandom, for example, search through that fandom for any past mentions of the server or ask other fans if they've heard of it.

Genuinely curious why so many people demand entitlement within spaces to be negative and miserable and focus on upsetting things.

"I just want advice and support and a place to release my emotions!"

Okay but do you have to do it in a Pokemon Discord server? Do you have to talk about genocide in front of my fruit salad recipe? Why do my horny thoughts about mpreg Stucky need to be interrupted by you complaining that everyone you know sucks?

Not every single space is obligated to cater to you in terms of providing you with a "negativity space."

i agree with your "some spaces should be drama free" thing fun is a human need entertainment needs to be valued just as much as anything else with no fun, mental illness can sprout or get worse can't pour from an empty cup let people engage with politics when they are able to forcing it causes burn out and misery which is no help to energy its why anti behaviour is so toxic bringing politics into things that are supposed to be fun, and upsetting everyone including themselves

We've placed such an obligation on addressing and trying to fix or hold ourselves accountable for the negative aspects of things that we've essentially barred ourselves from unadulterated happiness and positivity.

I probably sounded like an ass to the person who mentioned "fandom politics" as a reply but it was just such a blatantly unnecessary comment that really proved my main point. People are so hammered into the belief that if we don't constantly force ourselves to acknowledge something that we are The Problem or making The Problem worse.

Even if the source content has problematic or questionable aspects, you are simply not obligated to acknowledge it 24/7. You are entitled to enjoy it either way. You are entitled to at least one space regarding it where you simply don't have to think about it at all.

The thing about "there needs to be space to discuss sexist tropes is..." isn't this just inviting people to look at servers for mlm ships and go "hm, I need to go in and harass people in this server for not shipping these boys with their canon love interests" or something. I have been in so many servers ruined for me because people came in and started yelling about m/m shippers and making me feel guilty about discussing the ships, even if they weren't talking about me individually.

No, but people will invite themselves into MLM spaces to do that regardless. (Also that's homophobia, not sexism.)

Homophobes will try to enter MLM spaces spaces regardless of the intent of the space or if they're welcome or not. Having spaces that permit critical discussions have no relevance to things like homophobia beyond the fact that these people will merely see it as an easier opportunity to be a dickface and will try their luck.

But again, they'd try their luck anyway. That's what bigots do. They're like diseases, invading spaces and trying to infect and destroy them.

Its on the people who run the servers to adhere to their responsibility to keep them safe, in those instances. This is why I always try to dissuade people from establishing Discord servers open to the public if they are not 100% willing and committed to actually moderating them and taking on that responsibility of safeguarding.

I wonder if some of the controversy over the idea of vent channels is less about being able to discuss topics and more about throwing the topics out as bait. People want to vet other users by gauging their reactions to the topics, to make sure they have "the right opinions."

Because there's no other reason I can think of for why people in half-a-dozen servers need a vent channel in every single one. It's not that they want to discuss the topic. (That compulsion would be met with one server.) It's that they want to discuss the topic with different groups of people. Because they require an echo chamber where they know everyone is on the same page as them. (Or they self-destructively want to debate if they find out someone does not agree.)

Which is ridiculous because if you're in a space for a fandom, all that should matter is that a person likes that fandom and you like their opinions as relevant to it. I think it's a chronically online take that a person should have the same outlook on every single topic as you. I can be friends with coworkers while never bringing up controversial topics (mostly because it's actually against company policy). Sometimes, all you need is a vibe check.

Yes, there are big issues that could make or break a fandom friendship you have with someone. But since it is not relevant to the fandom, maybe just assume they agree with you on every level and judge them based on other, immediate behavior. Or assume they hold every single "wrong" opinion and determine if you could live with that. However, as relevant to strictly fandom discussion, it really doesn't matter. At all.

I honestly have nothing to add to this. You're right.

im using a concept with my therapist called "emotional vomit" just things you say and do when you are in a state that you don't want to have to deal with after you are finished - I have a password protected side blog for that shit so afterwards I don't have to do any clean up when I feel better cause if you emotionally vomit on other people you would get the same disgusted reaction as if you actually vomited on another person when there is a TOILET RIGHT THERE

Emotional vomit paired with reflection exercises and discussions is actually a very common technique used in therapy to help promote self-reflection, understanding and the ability to manage your emotions and actions better in the future.

Its also something you can do at home, or you can ask your therapist to do of your own accord. You don't even necessarily have to only write things down or record yourself when you're in a high-emotion state. You can do it as and when.

I know a lot of excuses reasons for people wanting things like vent channels in servers is because they may not necessarily have that easily accessible outlet in their daily life, or because they feel they need outside input and sympathy for their suffering, but recruiting online strangers to be your unpaid therapists and emotional dumpsters is just overall iffy at best.

I need more fun, smaller discord servers to join. I miss having online friends, but I don’t like the big groups where you can’t actually bond with anyone, you know?

servers names for discord servers (spanish ver.)

adora

amore

sol

solsticio

piel

andrómeda

terraza

veneno

pétalo

etéreo

desamor

paz

delirios

servers names for discord servers (spanish & english ver.) !

english ☆〜（ゝ。∂）

asap

fifty

beam

look

velvet

dracula

zoo

jelly

24/7

deja vu

spanish ☆〜（ゝ。∂）

sombra

favor

alma

hostil

misterio

amor

ahogados

lamentos

neblina

soledad

Holaa ! me ayudas dandome ideas de themes no quemadas porfa

themes for discord servers - themes para servers de discord ! ★ 〜（ゝ。∂）

subway surfers

animanga

any city (berlín - parís - tokyo -buenos aires - new york)

beach

shifting realities

aya takano's art

any game (roblox - genshin impact - minecraft)

kwangya (sm)

melanie martinez core

high school musical

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i mean i kinda have it but not really?? it’s just a fuck-a-round and find out server tbh

legitimate fucking lifehack: discord server literally just for yourself to keep track of stuff over devices. links. reminders and checklists. all neatly divided into categories. search function and dates. why didnt i do this earlier oh my god.