The Ability And Right To Choose Is Not Exclusive To You.

The ability and right to choose is not exclusive to you.

If you think abortions are tantamount to murder, do not get one. But that is your choice. Other people have the ability and right to choose otherwise.

If you do not like piercings and tattoos, do not get them. But other people have the ability and right to decide what to do to their own bodies.

If you want to believe in a higher guiding authority and follow regulations by which to live under a religion, that is your choice. But other people are not obligated to comply with the regulations you have imposed upon yourself. Other people have the ability and right to choose how to live.

The ability and right to choose is for ourselves. It gives us the right to say I have made this choice for myself. Not I have made this choice and everyone else must comply.

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may i predict "ARE YOU CONDONING RACIAL SEGREGATION" bad faith takes ?

I'll take that bet for $700, Kevin.

How do I tell an entire indonesia based dnd server that the people behind Serverstuck (all of them only knew them from their pathfinder podcast & only aware of the homestuck homebrew module they made, not the entire server activities) aren't good people?

This is highly concerning because one wrong move in that homestuck server like having a character who's 25 years old dating a character in the 100s years old can lead to a ban for age gap

Even a mere 2 years difference between allowed kids age (13-18) can get someone banned

If they're the type of people to ban you for reasonable age gaps, they're likely not the type of people to listen to reason. You can certainly send them some information and resources on the situation, but it would likely result in you being banned anyway.

If you do want to reach out to them and inform them, I'd first create a back-up server of your own design and control and get it fully functional and ready for other members (and maybe even bring some members in) beforehand so you're not out on your ass with nothing if they do bring down the hammer.

(Or find a different server which suits your needs rather than building your own.)

You should always approach education in a milder manner, without superiority or aggression. Often the biggest mistake people make when trying to raise awareness of something or change people's views is stampeding in and acting shitty or snotty about it.

I'd gather a range of evidence from different sources, not just just one. Tumblr, Youtube, online articles, any official broadcasts or publishings, ect. This way there's no doubt about the information, bias, and there's a range of references. (So they can't just dismiss the information given because its a "witch hunting Tumblr post" or what have you.)

If you're concerned about being banned, frame it as bringing it to attention for the greater good of the server and the people within it. Banning such age gaps is often down to simply not wanting to appear to be a bad person or someone who supports bad things, so you can weaponize that to a fashion. But of course tactfully and carefully.

For example:

"I've been researching this topic for a long time now and I feel confident that its appropriate to reach out and make sure you as the mods and admins of the server are aware of—"

There are some days where I will absolutely happily chew through 3934849 fics of the exact same premise/trope/plot and then some days where I don't even want to touch a fandom or pairing because the Popular Trope Trap is so significant within it I simply don't have the energy or willpower to wade through it all to find something else.

I think maybe on those days my main issue is that there's sometimes not much variance within the trope itself. Coffee Shop AUs, for example. They're almost always meet-cutes or meet-awkwards. Its always some harried barista wistfully using hot drinks to flirt with an even hotter customer. Its almost always winter or Christmas and its an endless cycle of the same puns, dialogue and endings.

Give me the coffee shop that's a front for the mafia. Remember that post about the guy who went into the restaurant and it was so very clearly a mafia front but he got served anyway and had the time of his life? Give me that!

Give me the customer watching a "barista" in a three piece suit nearly lose an arm trying to froth a latte for the first time. A man who kills for a living slowly experiencing a mental breakdown as he tries to add a leaf decor to a cappuccino. Mr. Dark and Deadly dying inside as a gaggle of sorority girls rush the counter for 32 pumpkin spice vanilla two-pump caramel syrup extra shot whipped creams.

Give me the customer accidentally ordering the one very specific drink that is actually a secret code and getting a cup full of cocaine baggies instead. Or a man who joins him at the table with an expensive iPad and begins asking him all sorts of weird questions about how he wants his lawn mowed or his pest control problem handled.

Give me the poor barista who applies for the job not knowing its a mafia front. Who just thinks its some weird rich people business venture because nobody really buys coffee there but it never goes out of business and oh my god that is not a bag of coffee grounds that is a bag of so, so many drugs.

Teacher-parent AUs? Hey, guess what, my child is actually a werewolf but hasn't had his first change yet and we all just assumed he was born human except oops, he isn't, because he just suddenly became a little snacksized werewolf in the middle of detention and you're screaming and he's stuck in his desk chair howling and wow you are absolutely right when you say teachers do not get paid enough to deal with what they do.

Hi hello yes, I'm the private tutor you hired, what a lovely little family of... 5.... 9.... 15 children you have. I'm so sorry to hear you're single, Mrs. Henderson. I'm sure their father would be proud you're raising them so well. What do you mean there's no father? What do you mean you made them? What do you mean; 'would I like to see the lab'?

Just. Give me some flavor sometimes.

What is "comship" and "safeship?"

(I saw an anti tag their anti ship post with #safeship which doesn't make sense to me but I was afraid to ask them lmao)

Comship and safeship both have multiple meanings and modern usage.

"Comship" is shorthand for "complex ship." This is being used by both antis and proshippers but is currently being hailed as an "alternative to proship" by most people.

"Comship" is also shorthand for "comfort ship," although you may sometimes see it spelt as "comfship."

"Safe ship" is another term for "comfort ship." That one pairing which is just homey, always hits the feel good spot, ect.

*Some antis are using "safeship" as a way to mark their account as "safe for shipping" excluding proship or questionable/dark content. So essentially a place that is "safe" to "ship normally."

Seeing them being used together is definitely a contradiction; but its likely they were just using the tags for exposure and to generate interaction. Its a common tactic used by both proshippers and anti-shippers.

(For example if I make a post which is relative to both anti shipping and proshipping, and/or I want discussion from both sides, I will use both the anti-ship tag and the proship tag.)

*Some proshippers also use #shippingsafe or #safeshipper to indicate they are a "shipping safe space."

Since I've already swung a bat at the hornet's nest with that safe space post I'm about to drop-kick it on its way down:

Actually not every single space has to include you and that's okay and actually how the world works and instead of trying to barge your way into spaces not meant for you, expand on the amount of spaces that are for you.