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Because There's A Difference Between Civil Discussion On The Factual Nature Of Something And Telling

Because there's a difference between civil discussion on the factual nature of something and telling someone when their views are blatantly bigoted (i.e; "all gay people should die") vs telling someone to kill themselves because they wrote Stefan x Damon Salvatore fanfiction.

Harassment =/= any and every negative response or neutral correction to something.

I'll admit, perhaps "call out" was aggressive phrasing. How about we try; "point out." "Educate." "Initiate civil corrections and/or discussions." "Respectfully challenge a bigoted or incorrect statement with intent to correct it or explain why it is bigoted/incorrect."

If I say to someone;

"Hey, just so you know, this information in your post in incorrect." "Actually what you're saying is harmful transphobic rhetoric so unless its your intention to be transphobic, you should consider finding alternate statements or take time to recess and evaluate your opinion." "It might be better if you allow people with more knowledge on this subject to speak rather than speaking from a place of limited understanding."

That is not harassment. And that is the intention of my statement. I hope you understand now. My apologies if my phrasing in one paragraph prompted you to misinterpret the entirety of my post.

Anti-censorship simply means the inherent freedom of something to exist. It does not mean that it has the inherent freedom to exist without response.

I also genuinely can't get over you saying misinformation should remain uncorrected as long as the original poster is happy. Like. What a way to ruin any outstanding point you might've had otherwise.

(Also, likewise, I was not solely referring to fanfiction in the matter you seemed to imply. I am referring to all content as a whole, because harassment is not and has never been limited to just fanfiction, although its a frequent victim.)

It might help you, perhaps, to re-evaluate your understanding of harassment and what it entails. Harassment is a specific type of behavior with a specific type of intention, not just literally saying anything that isn't positive.

Actually there's nothing wrong with blocking or reporting people, deleting comments and refusing to respond/engage with hate and baiting on any level whatsoever. They are not owed your time or explanations. They are not owed your energy. You are not immature or incapable for choosing to refuse to engage instead of choosing to argue and expend energy.

Obviously if you're making uneducated, incorrect or bigoted content then yeah, be prepared for people to call you out and challenge your statements and views, but I'm talking in general.

Hate comment on your fic? That's cool, baby. Just delete it.

Someone's trying to bait you into arguing about your stance on something? Whatever. Its all groovy. Block 'em.

You got a clear visual that someone's just gonna keep coming back at you? Have a report button. Its free. I'll give you as many as you need.

You don't need to facilitate that. You don't need to see it. You don't need to spend your time trying to challenge someone who's obviously either in a bad mentality or is just a shitty person as a whole. You simply Do Not. You don't need to allow that person to have a space and a voice within yours. You don't need to allow them to be able to spew their bullshit for you and everyone else to see outside of their own little bubble.

Next time you get a hate comment on AO3? Wham, bam, its gone, ma'am. No thank you. Anon hate mail? Not in this household.

You have no obligation to facilitate any of it, and anyone who tries to force you into thinking otherwise is simply incorrect. Their action does not inherently demand your reaction. Plus, its objectively more hilarious to know that the sole outcome of their spitefulness and negativity is them getting even angrier because you're refusing to engage and refusing to feed their need for a response.

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Your analogy is flawed though, because the dogs are not raping children like proshippers do

I'd actually be so embarrassed if I sent this. I'm embarrassed for you reading this but like. Honestly. How do you actually sit there, type this out, look at it and go 'yeah I'll send it. That's good. That's good shit right there. That's A Point.'

Come off anon and say it again and I'll respect you at least enough to give it a proper answer ❤


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2 years ago

Objectively hilarious that a poll was so stupid even non-shippers banded together to make sure the poll option the "impartial" OP hoped wouldn't win won by 52% and counting. Even after they deleted it. Because it won.

Historical. Monumental. Hilarious. Wholesome.


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2 years ago

I think we need to remind ourselves again that viewer interpretation and headcanons are not always actual fact and that's okay. That's part of fandom and part of adopting canon as a source.

Likewise, nobody is "wrong" for their personal headcanons, because they're not fact. They're not supposed to be direct reflections of or representative of canon as it exists then. That is, in fact, the fun of it. Altering canon to embrace your own creativity and ideas. Having your own perspective on canon based on your own values, experiences, thoughts and assessments.

It is not an invitation to begin a dictatorship about how people can interpret or headcanon aspects of canon.


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2 years ago

Fandom analysis and "activism" are healthy and indeed important to a point, and will almost always relate to you or your beliefs on a personal level, but if you're at the point where you can no longer objectively approach a discussion or fandom as a whole, or you're at the point where you cannot separate fandom and your real life, you need to take a step back.

If you're at the point where you're spending the majority of your time relating to fandom doing nothing but complaining and getting in arguments and treating fandom spaces like warzones and protests, you need to take a step back.

If you're blatantly making up things that are non-existent in canon just to be angry about it, you need to take a step back.

And just to clarify; taking a step back in okay. Its not a bad thing, and its absolutely not meant to be an insult. Sometimes we just get to caught up in something we need breathing room to be able to readjust ourselves and realign ourselves, and that's a perfectly valid, normal, human thing. We often use fandom spaces as outlets, but if its reached the point where you have an unhealthy obsession with negativity in those spaces, its no longer good for you. Its no longer just an outlet, its a feeding loop of toxicity.


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2 years ago

While I deeply echo the intent behind this, this is actually exactly how we don't want to approach trying to get people to engage in a cycle of content interaction.

Shaming people, being aggressive and pointlessly threatening them will and most commonly does only result in people pulling further away from engagement. Its like when you get shouted at in real life to do something, or when those people on the street relentlessly harass you to buy broadband and insurance.

A lot of people on Tumblr don't actually know that, for content movement, there is basically no algorithm. At least, not even close to the way sites like Twitter and Instagram do. Tumblr has 5 ways of how content migrates and moves around the site, and they are as follows:

More to the point; demonizing likes against reblogs is inherently incorrect because the functions of liking something are as necessary and useful as features like bookmarking and favoriting on other websites. Some people have blogs dedicated to specific content but still want to show support for or personally save other content, and short of bookmarking every post page or keeping it forever in your saved drafts, liking is how you do that.

hey psa for followers if you dont reblog art (whether thats fanart, gifs, fanfiction etc) im going to beat you to death with rocks. you reblog stuff thats how this website works

literally liking it does nothing. in fact its worse than just scrolling past it bc its acknowledging the art and saying you liked it but couldnt be assed to reblog it. get over yourselves 😭😭😭


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