If You Want Real Discourse, Ask Your Fandom If The Favorite Character Would Be An Anti Or A Proshipper.

If you want real discourse, ask your fandom if the favorite character would be an anti or a proshipper.

My new favorite act of warfare is going on Instagram and commenting babygirl on posts involving Billy Hargrove. As we speak I have 16 pending message requests from positively incensed white girls.

If your child is old enough to learn boundaries with people and appropriate behavior around people they're old enough and aware enough to learn boundaries and appropriate behavior around animals.

Its really that simple.

Have you perhaps ever wondered why an alternate AO3 using its open-access structure and code hasn't been created yet?

I mean, if you're so opposed to AO3 and its policies and its literal purpose, instead of spending all your time trying to infiltrate it and report it and push everyone 'icky' off of it... Surely, you'd instead put even half that effort into supporting and creating a fanfiction site where none of the stuff you oppose is permitted?

Someone had to make AO3. Someone had to design its policies and consult with legal teams and create a business structure and pyramid of duty. Its evidently possible to do so.

So.... Why haven't you done it yet? I genuinely am curious.

For all the discussions I see from 'antiship' people about AO3 itself and how it needs to be purged or removed or changed or what have you, I don't think I've ever actually seen even a fraction of discussions revolving around either supporting another existing website, or creating an entirely new one.

You cannot expect people to curate their own online spaces if you're too lazy to give them what they need to do so.

Tag your content. Use content markers and warnings. Appropriately warn for things and use trigger warning and statements.

You cannot expect people to be able to avoid your content if you're not giving them the functions they physically need in order to be able to. Its like telling someone who's allergic to peanut butter to just 'not eat any' then refusing to tell them which things have peanut butter in them.

This is just an FYI but no matter what issues you're an activist for or a supporter of;

Its okay to need moments or days where you simply don't talk about it.

Its okay to say; "I need to step back for a little bit to recharge and focus on the positives."

Its okay to tell someone you can't be their ear right now because you need to rebalance yourself and focus on your own wellbeing. Its okay to tell people you just want to enjoy this moment or this day and not focus on terrible, awful things.

Moments of happiness and peace are just as important as activism and engagement.