I Had A Nice Nap Then Woke Up To Remember Some Of Yall Drove A Sweet Supportive Deeply Caring Man Off

I had a nice nap then woke up to remember some of ya’ll drove a sweet supportive deeply caring man off the internet. Do you think Ashley Johnson would be marrying him if he was genuinely a not good person? The Queer community is very important and close to her heart. It’s the same for him. I trust not only her judgment but him in his actions, his own care. “Don’t forget to love each other” is a statement he made that’s on a LGBTQ positive t-shirt for a reason. Look at how he guides people through really hard topics on Between The Sheets. Marisha would have never done that interview without him, she said so herself. She knew he’d be her rock holding her hand. The same goes for Matt’s interview which was also a tearjerker.  The pretend asshole character is a freaking character! That’s the bit, that’s the joke. Because, he’s as far from that as you can get and he’s striving every day to be a better person. That’s why it’s so over the top with the silly insults. No one’s meant to believe any of that, and he’s been playing along.  On top of all that what he was accused of was not even said by him, he didn’t make any comments other than wanting a break from political vitriol because he wanted to work on being a better person.  Guys, I’m bitter, I’m gonna stay bitter for a long while.  

Oh, how much I love BFU.

for you fic-writing pleasure;

due to the popularity of this post, here is an updated, and apparently ever extending list of the characters the bois™ have created or absorbed into their alternative universe canon, or as @boogaraniac put it, the BFCU, 

C.C. Tinsley: technically real, but has become our favourite, happy-go-lucky, incompetent detective. according to fanon, he either works with, or is attempting to arrest Ricky G. may or may have not been murked by Dr Fear (intro’d in The Sodder Children)

Ricky Goldsworth: our main man. Smooth Criminal, “it’s all about the confidence, baby,” and while some people try to reduce him to just a serial killer, we all know he’s so much more than that. (intro’d in room 1046)

Banjo McClintock: art thief and wearer of fake mustaches. if you’re gonna steal something, do it right. probably admires Ricky G., but is definitely afraid of him.(intro’d in Gardner Museum Heist q+a)

Dr Fear: another technically real person, but hey, this fandom writes RPF so really, no one’s judging. Shane posited that C.C. Tinsley’s disappearance had something to do with this real life monster - and we all know that if he did, Ricky came for his ass (intro’d in the Pennhurst ep)

Francesca Norris: fabulous, flirty and flaunting spy. Better Than You, And Knows It. (intro’d in Isdal Woman q+a)

Detective Holly Horsley: detective by day, crime writer by night. better hope you have nothing to hide, because this girl will find out. [another real person the boys ran away with, but since she’s still a very alive and active person, I can’ talk about her in good conscience without a shoutout to her super cool YouTube] (first appearance in Room 1046 q+a)

all of their exploits take place in the town of Asshole, Iowa (intro’d in the Ken Rex q+a), and if I don’t see a rise in fanfic set in the bois™ au, I’m suing all of you

Person: It’s september 1st

Me: oh, cool

Me, internally: Underneath these stairs, I hear the sneers and feel glares of my cousin, my uncle and my aunt. I can’t believe how cruel they are and it stings my lighting scar to know that they’ll never ever give me what I want.

I know I don’t deserve these stupid rules made by the Dursleys here on Pri-

Broke: Thor doesn’t understand memes

Woke: No one understands Thor’s antique, spicy asgardian memes

Asking for Help and Obtaining Consent (Please read if you can)

I’ve noticed a trend in the fandom that I want to take a moment to address. 

This fandom is, in general, incredibly supportive. We love each other so much, and that’s so fantastic. We even have a code word for one another when we’re in trouble: Anxiety’s Room. And that’s great. 

Except here’s the thing. A lot of times, we’re using it wrong. 

If you’re in a bad place, reaching out for help can be the hardest thing in the world. And I’m so proud of everyone who gets past their initial fear of doing so and takes that step. 

But often, we’re missing one incredibly important part of the process: 

We must obtain consent from the person we’re asking for help.

Coming into someone’s askbox with a story of depression, or thoughts of suicide, or tales of an abusive situation, can be incredibly damaging to the person you’re sending it to. Even if that person has said before that they are willing to answer these kinds of asks, that does not equal consent all the time. Think about it like sex: consent to one time doesn’t mean you have consent all the time. You have to obtain permission and consent with each new encounter. 

Asking for help is the same thing. 

If someone is in a bad place, the wrong ask at the wrong time could be an incredibly dangerous thing. The other day, my fiance received an ask about a depressive spiral, and it went into a great amount of detail. As a sufferer of depression, this ask was incredibly upsetting to her, and she nearly suffered a relapse herself. Another friend of mine recently received an ask about suicide, when said friend is also suicidal. It put her in a much worse place than she’d been in before, because she tried to help when she really wasn’t equipped to do so.

I’m definitely not saying don’t reach out for help. I’m saying please bear in mind that asking someone who is drowning to rescue you from the depths is not going to help either of you. You’ll end up dragging each other down instead.

“But I really do need help. What do I do?”

The great news is, there are several things you can do to get the help you need without risking harming someone else! 

1) Ask for consent. Go into someone’s ask box and, before you start in about what’s going on, ask the recipient if they’re in a good place to help. Ask what their triggers are. Ask if you have permission to seek their aid. And if they say no, please don’t take it as an indication that they do not care about you. Respect their answer and look for help elsewhere.

2) Post to your own blog. Make a post that you are in Anxiety’s room (and tag with trigger warnings when necessary), and let the people in the fandom who are able to help come to you. If I see a post like that, even if I’m not in a place to help, you bet your bum I’ll reblog it and spread the word!!

3) Use the hotlines. There are a number of suicide and depression and self-harm hotlines, websites, message boards, and texting services available to you. If you’re in crisis and can’t wait for reblogs to get around, use them instead. That’s what they’re there for, and their consent IS a given.

I know we want to help each other. And by all means, if someone has given you unending consent to come to them anytime, please do! 

But please keep in mind that many of us suffer many of the same issues, and just because someone wants to help, it doesn’t always mean they can. Please, let’s take care of each other in both directions, so we never accidentally harm someone else. I know that’s the last thing any of us want to do. 

I love you guys so much. Remember, we are famILY!

TL;DR: Don’t go into someone’s askbox seeking help for triggering stuff without making sure they’re okay with it first. Get consent each and every time so we don’t accidentally hurt each other. 

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