My Maybe Unpopular Opinion Is That Damian And Anyas Dynamic Shouldn't Change In Significant Ways Until

My maybe unpopular opinion is that Damian and Anyas dynamic shouldn't change in significant ways until Anya actually views Damian as a genuine friend and not a shiny prize. Because at this point her motivation isn't exactly better than all the other girls' and Damian can probably sense that, it's just that he can't figure out her why.

This post is based on a pretty interesting discussion in a DA server I'm in where some fellow fans have criticized Endo's writing, mainly because there wasn't as much impact after the bus arc as people expected (which is ofc valid crit). I just want to share what I wrote:

Late to the whole convo, but I lightly disagree that the da dynamic didn't change *at all*, however it does seem as though there wasn't as much impact from the bus arc as hoped. However, we did get some subtle shifts that should be noteworthy, namely Damian actually getting jealous and shivering at the mere *thought* of Anya getting "stolen" from him. This has never happened prior to the bus arc and is now a recurring development. That and Becky now teasing Damian in addition to cheering on Anya, especially when comparing her very open hostility towards him earlier in the story. Not only is she friendly to him now, it seems like she has seen through his crush too. I don't think that Endo will change the dynamics too much anytime soon, especially because of how little time has passed in the sxf universe. Keep in mind that damian doesn't really have a proper role model who actively helps him unlearn the toxic mindset he quite literally grew up with; the closest he'd get is his mother wishing for him to be friends with Anya too, but that is only something he heard from Jeeves and not Melinda herself. But he definitely was reflecting on that in the cake chapter. I also think that Damian is in his "I'm too grown-up for this kiddie shit" phase, he probably thinks he's better than *everyone else*, not just Anya (like him scoffing at Bill). He really doesn't want to dance with anyone and is just annoyed with all this attention imo. But he's also jealous and doesn't want Anya to dance with anyone else, but ofc won't actually admit that because he's a brat. He's just a kid with many Big Feelings™ going on that he doesn't understand and doesn't even get the privacy to unpack, so ofc he's lashing out and acting even worse than usual. I wouldn't be surprised if he just runs away in the next chapter because he's just so fed up with everything and everyone. I feel like us fans keep forgetting that Damians boundaries are straight up being pushed if not disrespected, he's been saying multiple times that he doesn't want to dance and literally everyone is ignoring him as a person with feelings (except his friends who probs set the competition up in order to reject everyone on his behalf) Nobody but his two best friends actually care about his feelings on this whole matter, he's just a shiny prize to everyone else *including* Anya.

Anyway I think Endo is saving the big dynamic change for something far more significant such as the telepathy reveal 👀

Completely agree, Endo even stated why twilight couldn’t do the teary reunion with his daughter right then and there.

i’m shocked to see the disappointment surrounding twilight’s decision to stay in disguise rather than run to anya. like how are you not floored by how far he has come as not only a character but a father?

twilight abandoned his mission the second that he heard anya was in trouble. we know this because sylvia said in the beginning that he wouldn’t make it in time to help, so there was no point in sending him back (and, just to clarify, she was right!) but instead of agreeing with her call and carrying out the remainder of his task he ran to help his daughter AND brought backup. not because he wanted to save a group of kids, but because he wanted to save ANYA.

twilight rushed home only to find out he wasn’t needed. TWILIGHT, the top spy in WISE, was not integral to saving the day. can you imagine what that feels like for him? don’t you think he recognizes how that might make him look to wise? and then to see anya immediately jump into yor’s arms… well, he likely assumed he wasn’t needed there either. so he decided to make her favorite meal for dinner, because he grew up with no promise of food or shelter to make his emotional trauma a little easier. and, for the record, when anya heard his plan she immediately lit up! she wasn’t expecting a grand show of physical affection, she understood how much it meant for twilight to be there to look out for her in the first place!

a spy should never get attached, and here he is. caring so openly for his daughter that he did something he NEVER would have done prior to meeting anya. and btw, we didn’t get any insight into twilight’s emotions surrounding anya’s kidnapping. there’s no reason to believe that he wasnt as emotionally affected as yor just because he didn’t hug her the same way. yeah, i get that it might be a little disappointing to be 75 chapters into the manga and not have that one moment where everything clicks into place for him and he finally understands her role in his life. but it’s just not realistic to the progression of his character. twilight is a lonely, emotionally stunted man whose life has centered around violence since his childhood. you can’t expect him to outgrow that in the span of like six months with anya and yor.

Just like that camping chapter where I came like Damian ewen and Emile a whole lot more as individual characters and showcasing their friendship. There has not been a “filler” chapter where none of the content in it amounts to nothing, it’s always showing something that is better to be shown to not just build a better understanding of world but for the characters the relationships and how it ties back into the main message of the series and that is what I like about these chapters.

The new Spy x Family volume 11 cover makes me want to see more Ewen and Emile content or, in general, Eden kids shenanigans without it focusing on Damian or Anya this time. Just some SoL stuff with the Eden kids being kids without the whole moment revolving around Damian's crush on Anya or DamiAnya bantering. The other kid side characters are all so adorable in their own way. Give them some time to shine.

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It's kinda interesting how Damian, Yuri and Nightfall are all presented by the narrative. Like, if you're willing to look for them, they're given redeeming qualities, but the story isn't willing to sacrifice the main characters' standing just for the resolution of the former.

We see Damian bullying Anya, but then you see his issues with his family and how he craves attention from them. You're like damn I hope things get better for him but not at the expense of Anya's feelings.

We see Yuri, his obsession with his sister and how he's a threat to Twilight's mission, but you can kinda understand how a young person like him was brainwashed by nationalistic propaganda. You're like damn I hope things get better for him but not at the expense of Twilight's mission (which includes the Forgers slowly becoming a real family).

We see Nightfall and her blind obsession with Twilight, but then you see how she's been hiding her feelings because she knows she can't really have a happy life with him unless the cold war ends; she just has very poor control over those feelings. You're like damn I hope things get better for her but not at the expense of Yor's feelings and her place within the Forger family.

(No manga spoilers please)