Perfectionism Is A Self-destructive And Addictive Belief System That Fuels This Primary Thought: If I

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfect, and work perfect, I can avoid or minimize criticism, blame and ridicule, the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. All perfectionism is, is the 20-ton shield that we carry around hoping that it will keep us from being hurt.

Brene Brown (via fyp-psychology)

Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others.

Timothy Leary (via wnq-anonymous)

Once we nearly crashed into a tree because we were arguing over what music to listen to. You wanted to listen to some painfully hip techno shit that your friend had recommended, and it was giving me a headache, so we both kept fiddling with the radio, not watching the road. I grabbed the steering wheel at the very last second. When you realized what had happened, you laughed until you cried. At least I’m good in an emergency, I said, and you said: Sweetheart, you are an emergency.

Nicola Blank, from The Prettiest Girl in the Psych Ward (via medeae)

Perfectionism is very addictive because it is very seductive. It’s so great to think ‘There’s a way I can do things where I can never be held in judgment by other people, that I can totally escape criticism.’ But it doesn’t work.

Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability (via fyp-psychology)

Unless we love and are loved, each of us is alone, each of us is deeply lonely.

Mortimer Adler (via fyp-philosophy)

Tell me it gets better. Ask me about the dreamer that died. Give me a reason to not get comfortable in this skin. Show me the silver lining, the most attenuated form as it might be in. Remind me about the goodness in people, one that the dreamer could once so promptly and vividly recognize. Remind me. Of the strength she had, that they admired. Make me believe that this too, shall pass. Let me live, leave.

girl-in-blue (via wnq-writers)