I Relate To A Lot Of The Things Ive Seen You Posted/ Said. I Really Just Want A Community That Doesnt

i relate to a lot of the things ive seen you posted/ said. i really just want a community that doesnt rip itself apart over harmless things. i wish i could be openly plural &experiment with my gender/identity without fear. radqueer sounds ... similar, but im scared to like,, go down that 'rabbit hole' (not saying its bad! just that ive heard there are some bad sides and it seems kinda extreme in some places, but i wouldnt know since i havent actually interacted out of fear) (dont feel pressured to answer or give advice for this!! just wanted to share me thoughts :3)

There are definitely parts of the radqueer community that are... unsavory in the least, so it's important to keep safe by avoiding more extreme spaces or navigating them with caution. As for me, I really only get bothered when the possibility of actual nonconsensual harm is happening, and while there are people in that community who claim things like saying children can't consent is ageist (????) there are also people who are just trying to live. It's a very nuanced situation, and as someone who has went out of hir way to interact with the community and poke around, I've found that there are swell people and the entire community isn't some evil kid grooming factory like people have claimed. That all being said, the safest place to start is transID. As far as I know, radqueer isn't just transID. It's basically 'live and let live' in every sense of the word, so while spaces are accepting of things like mspec les/gays/monos and lesboys/turigirls, alterhumanity, nontraumagenic systems etc, they also support things that people would consider bad, such as labeling paraphilias as sexualities, all transIDs including those who are transharm for whatever reason, etc. (I personally don't have much of an issue with these things. Again, as long as nonconsensual harm isn't happening, I don't give a rat's ass what people do). However, this varies from person to person though the general acceptance and letting people exist is consistent.

I hope this helped at least a little bit, anon, and stay safe when exploring your identity. There are radically inclusive spaces (not the same thing as radqueer) that can be infinitely useful for self exploration, but as I've noticed, if you have the audacity to be transID you will be crucified and/or pushed out of those spaces. Still, though, it may be a good place to start, even if you have to weed out the anti endo spaces in the mix of 'radinclus' servers and dance around the transID bush.

I love posts like these, they make no fucking sense unless you've played enough Warframe and then you get to go 'ah yes, the 8 foot long dragonfly you can do tricks on'

"OK, cool argument, bro"

*Kickflips 8 foot long dragonfly, hits a tree and fucking dies*

So a new term again

soft trauma-endo

just soft traumagenic but with added endogenic flavor

(Plus a traumaendo flag)

[ Image ID: A flag with five stripes that consist of the colors pastel yellow, light orange, white, blue, and dark blue from top to bottom on the right side of the screen. On the left side of the screen, there's the exact same flag with a light grey tint. :End image ID ]

And meanings this time

yellow & orange are representing being endogenic

white is representing plural community, uniting traumagenic, endogenic, and any other plural systems.

the blues represent having trauma, whether it’s related or not

the desaturated tone on the soft traumaendo flag represents the feeling of inadequate trauma

Needs ID

see I have the ugliest head shape known to man so if I shave my head it looks SO BAD in the back. I speak from experience. But uhh... OP's message still applies

the right hairstyle for your face is the one that makes you smile when you see yourself in the mirror btw.