'guys, Guys, You Don't Understand! I'm 100% Not Into Men AT ALL Cuz I Hate Them!!' Does Not Scream Security

'guys, guys, you don't understand! I'm 100% not into men AT ALL cuz I hate them!!' does not scream security in one's identity to me.

lesbianism does not mean hating men. yes, unoriginal post and even I've made a post saying that already etc. etc. But people really seem to not understand that not being interested in men doesn't mean downright hating them. It feels very try-hard: in their need to be vindicated within their lesbian identity, they go the extra mile and convince themselves that not only are they not into men, but they also despise men. it sounds so tiring to base your identity on hatred rather than who you are or are into.

can we please stop calling trans men “short kings” unprompted?

i know i am small, but the righteous rage i have acquired from this endless battle is bigger than both of us.

To other sex-repulsed people: Please understand that your repulsion towards sex is your own issue to deal with. Understand that sex is important to a lot of people (you don't have to understand why, just simply that it is), and understand that it's not okay to treat sex as a bad thing simply because it exists and you're repulsed towards it.

It's completely fine to vent about your friend talking in great depth about their sex life when it repulses you (and maybe tell them that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to hear about it) or for any reason for that matter, but don't talk about how much you hate sex in front of the people who find it a positive thing because you'll just end up being seen as someone who kills the fun. It doesn't seem fair, I know, but there are lots of places you can talk about this without upsetting people who enjoy it.

And to non-sex-repulsed people: Please understand that we need a space to air our repulsion to sex. If anything we say isn't directly aimed towards you specifically and it upsets you, then maybe consider that this space just isn't for you. Not everyone has the same positive feelings towards sex that you do, and we have just as much right to talk about how we dislike sex as you have to talk about how much you like sex.

And everyone needs to understand that it's possible to have negative feelings about sex —and to talk about these feelings— without it automatically being sex negativity.

'trans men have the lesbian label forced on them when they're heterosexual' and 'trans men can be lesbians' are concepts that do coexist. The point here, for anyone who may have missed it, is that identity is up to the individual and not what someone else decides for them, which includes forcing a trans man to identify as straight when they don't identify as such. You cannot be willing to dismantle the expectations of sex and gender without the will to let go of your little rules to sexuality. Things just happen that don't fit preconceived boxes, get over it.

Can we stop using "still lives with their parents" or "unemployed" or "doesn't have a drivers license" or "didn't graduate high school" as an insult or evidence that someone is a bad person? Struggling with independence or meeting milestones is not a moral failing.

Fat Butch Tuesday + Fat Tboy Tuesday

double whammy today folks! most of these pictures were taken by my lovely boyfriend (whom i have moved in with now!!). This is a reminder to the fat trans, intersex, butch, femme, and bear folks out there to take pride in your body. Appreciate how far you’ve come. Appreciate the queerness you carry, appreciate how beautiful and handsome you are. Fat people are so fucking attractive and i can guarantee that if I saw any of you on the streets I would be in awe <33