Trans Man Lesbian - Tumblr Posts

y'all are really valid and i love y'all :3

i love you bi lesbians i love you pan lesbians i love you omni lesbians i love you poly lesbians i love you abro lesbians i love you gaybians i love you straight lesbians i love you lesboys i love you trans men lesbians i love you turigirls

'Trans men can't be lesbians!' Damn that's crazy anyways I am a trans man lesbian and anyone else who uses the label is cool as fuck

'Trans men are invading lesbian spaces!'

'Lesbians can't like men!'

'Lesbians can't be men!'

Just say you hate men and go💀

LOL some TERF (literally a TERF, if they weren't they definitely sounded like one) went to one of my posts and screamed at me about how 'homosexuality isn't about gender nonsense'... And only picked at the lesbianism part of the post. Typical, really.

Anyways, repeating myself here but: lesbians can be men, lesbians can like men, lesbians can date men. This does NOT mean every lesbian HAS to do these things. Being queer is all about the freedom of identity.

"I support trans people!" quick, are you normal about the concept of transandrophobia? Do you think it's just 'white men trying to be oppressed'? Do you brush it off as merely misdirected transmisogyny? Do you scoff at the struggles of trans men and go 'but trans women have it worse! talk to a trans woman and see how bad THEY have it!'?

Do you use a trans man's chest size as an excuse for constant misgendering? Do you hold transmasculine people to a standard of needing to be feminine so to not scare the women, but proceed to not take their gender seriously if they do perform femininity? Do you use your horribly veiled misandry as an excuse to make trans men feel unsafe in queer spaces?

Are you normal about AFAB transfems and AMAB transmascs? Intersex trans people? GNC trans people? Trans people who use xenogenders? Trans people who use it/its or other neopronouns? She/her transmascs and he/him transfems? Can you acknowledge that, sometimes, people are simultaneously transmasc and transfem? Do you accept transmasc women, transfem men, etc?

Do you invalidate the identities of trans women who have beards, or present 'masculinely'? Do you see them as predatory posers? Do you go out of your way to misgender trans women who happen to actually be predators, because 'clearly they were just men'? Do you shame trans women for exploring their sexuality?

Are autistic trans people not able to make decisions on their own transition, as far as you're concerned? Are our ways of expressing and seeing gender 'stupid' to you? Is the concept of autigender too 'insane' to you? Do you see our gender identities as simply jokes?

Can you survive being around a trans man lesbian or a veldian (link) trans woman? Can you support a multigender person who is both gay AND lesbian? Can you include transmasculine nonbinary people in your 'support' of nonbinary lesbians?

I've used the term 'conditional support' a few times, but it is very much conditional support if you explode over one trans person's identity, and then turn around and act all supportive of another's. If all it takes for you not to support a trans person is how they label their gender or sexuality, how they present, what their body looks like, etc, you are not supportive of trans people! Your 'support' is very limited and strict. You have one rigid idea of what trans people are 'supposed' to be, and anyone who deviates isn't valid or worthy, and that is NOT the kind of behavior an ally should exhibit. It is not the way you treat other trans people, and it is far from supportive.

looking at people who advocate for trans people labeling their sexuality and experiences however they want and calling it TERF rhetoric is wild. Do you not realize that queer freedom is the exact opposite of what TERFs want, let alone trans freedom? TERF rhetoric is claiming all trans men who are into women are lesbians because they're assumedly female, it is erasing the experiences of intersex and POC women because it doesn't fit their white, dyadic centric, and bio essentialist idea of womanhood, it's calling trans women men because the assumedly have dicks. TERF rhetoric is NOT someone saying lesboys are valid, it's not the validation of any queer identity YOU don't like and fail to understand.

Saying that trans men can be lesbians does not mean all woman attracted trans men are lesbians. That's ridiculous. "Well, you said members of this group can be part of another, so clearly you're saying all members of this group are part of that group now." Let me introduce you to the concept of individuality; one person's experiences with their sexuality will not match someone else's, even if they have similar gender identities. I know, it's crazy to think that there's diversity within the queer community (sarcasm).

also it's important to highlight the overall lack of choice. you can't control how your attraction feels.

a lot of the perception with male lesbians, specifically trans man lesbians, is the implication that Every trans man attracted to women is a lesbian so it’s misgendering. but that’s not what being a trans man lesbian is, it’s choosing the lesbian label. not every trans man attracted to women is a lesbian, but some are because they choose it. i’m not misgendering myself if these are the labels i choose because i’m using them in a way that reflects my own identity. ofc don’t assume every trans man is a lesbian bc that is misgendering but that’s not what being a trans man lesbian is

When will Gen Z stop feeling threatened by ftms for identifying with the lesbian community, calling themselves lesbians, calling themselves male lesbians, ftm lesbians, lesboys, etc. Go to a lesbian bar please.

Gender and sexuality is weird. Telling ftm lesbians to "identify as nonbinary" is weird. Some people just aren't nonbinary, they're ftm and lesbians. Who are you to tell someone how they experience their gender and sexuality?

Lots of people make the argument that "identifying as contradictory labels invalidates everyone." Other people's identities are not invalidating your own. Your validation doesn't depend on how other people who don't know you exist. There is no wrong way to identify or express your gender.

'trans men have the lesbian label forced on them when they're heterosexual' and 'trans men can be lesbians' are concepts that do coexist. The point here, for anyone who may have missed it, is that identity is up to the individual and not what someone else decides for them, which includes forcing a trans man to identify as straight when they don't identify as such. You cannot be willing to dismantle the expectations of sex and gender without the will to let go of your little rules to sexuality. Things just happen that don't fit preconceived boxes, get over it.

spot the difference:

'I can't be straight because I'm not a real man. I will forever be a biological female, and therefore a lesbian in my attraction to women.'

'I am a man, and I am also a lesbian. my identity is wonderfully complex; my lesbianism doesn't cancel out my manhood, nor does my manhood change the queerness of my attraction to women.'