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; thank you so much ! I'll remove that post from my reblogs now, hopefully no one has donated. I appreciate it ! /gen

; if this is the case, what other term could be used by white / non-black people who previously used wlw ?? And does this go for mlm and nblw / nblm / nblnb or is it js wlw !?? /genq

i have a question for black lesbians!

hi!! i saw a post recently that said that the term ‘wlw’ is actually AAVE and should really only be used by black lesbians. as a non-black lesbian who uses wlw, i want to know if i should stop using this term and i don’t want to just rely on some internet searches so i’m here asking you! what are your thoughts on this? thanks!

if you’re not a black lesbian please feel free to reblog this but do not reply! i’d like to only hear from black lesbians!

; my parents seriously seem to act like it's a flex they grew up poor and went hungry most nights. Like, I am truly sorry for them but they've turned their past into a weapon to ruin my future ykwim ?? I get it, you had a hard and abusive childhood. Sorry that I'm not working three jobs ?? And starving ?? Would you like me to js, purposefully make myself suffer or smth .. It's so weird to me, like- the concept of " be grateful cuz I had it absolutely horrible and you're not suffering so !! Work harder !! Suffer !! " yk ?? Especially since neither of them care about " little " issues like low self esteem, feelings uncomfortable in certain clothes, etc, because they didn't have the privilege to worry about stuff like that !! :']

"when i was your age, i was working three jobs to help support my family" and "when i was in college i was sleeping on a mattress on the floor and living off of soup"

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO DO THAT. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO DO THAT. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT THIS ISN'T A CHARACTER-BUILDING LESSON, IT'S JUST BAD

I’m watching that documentary “Before Stonewall” about gay history pre-1969, and uncovered something which I think is interesting.

The documentary includes a brief clip of a 1954 televised newscast about the rise of homosexuality. The host of the program interviewed psychologists, a police officer, and one “known homosexual”. The “known homosexual” is 22 years old. He identifies himself as Curtis White, which is a pseudonym; his name is actually Dale Olson.

So I tracked down the newscast. According to what I can find, Dale Olson may have been the first gay man to appear openly on television and defend his sexual orientation. He explains that there’s nothing wrong with him mentally and he’s never been arrested. When asked whether he’d take a cure if it existed, he says no. When asked whether his family knows he’s gay, he says that they didn’t up until tonight, but he guesses they’re going to find out, and he’ll probably be fired from his job as well. So of course the host is like …why are you doing this interview then? and Dale Olson, cool as cucumber pie, says “I think that this way I can be a little useful to someone besides myself.”

1954. 22 years old. Balls of pure titanium.

Despite the pseudonym, Dale’s boss did indeed recognize him from the TV program, and he was promptly fired the next day. He wrote into ONE magazine six months later to reassure readers that he had gotten a new job at a higher salary.

Curious about what became of him, I looked into his life a little further. It turns out that he ultimately became a very successful publicity agent. He promoted the Rocky movies and Superman. Not only that, but get this: Dale represented Rock Hudson, and he was the person who convinced him to disclose that he had AIDS! He wrote the statement Rock read. And as we know, Rock Hudson’s disclosure had a very significant effect on the national conversation about AIDS in the U.S.

It appears that no one has made the connection between Dale Olson the publicity agent instrumental in the AIDS debate and Dale Olson the 22-year-old first openly gay man on TV. So I thought I’d make it. For Pride month, an unsung gay hero.

; as it's nearly pride month I js wanted to make a quick post ( I'm going to make a larger one + loads more on pride .. Plus some other things that are celebrated / honoured in June !! ) .. The most common thing I see when ppl are asking for help regarding their identity / anything LGBTQIA+ related is stuff like

; " can I use x and x ?? " or " is it okay to be x and use x ?? " etc ..

; and while it's lovely to see ppl being considerate of terms and not wanting to use conflicting terms that could misrepresent .. It's also important for me to js say:

; you don't need permission to be you.

; it's okay !! I promise !! There is no need to force yourself into boxes of what can be and what cannot, the whole point of exploring your gender identity and expression and your orientation is being yourself, not sticking with the " norm " of cishetallo !! So please, it's so important you don't make boxes for ppl who are trying to get out of other boxes. ( We aren't actually cats .. Not physically at least )

; this is no hate to microlabels, I use them myself even, they're useful and can make ppl be seen !! Totally okay to use those. But you also shouldn't stress yourself out trying to find the perfect ones that don't " conflict " and that " make sense " to outsiders, etc !! You're meant to be discovering things about yourself, not trying to squeeze and pull yourself into what will be digestible for others. It's fine to be considerate and it's great to see, but don't pull yourself apart js because you can't find labels that are common enough, work together, feel right, aren't too " obscure ", don't have bad origins, etc !! It's okay if your identity doesn't make 100% sense to others, it's your identity, it's okay to be " confusing " to others. You aren't responsible for educating the entire human population.

; and whether confusing means using lots of microlabels and xenogenders and neopronouns and being a neogirl who identifies with transmasc and is bigenderflux depending on who your with and your sexual interest is described as demisexual and graysexual but you also have a hard time distinguishing romantic and platonic attraction. Or it could be that you identify as a demiboy and a lesbian.

; however your identity is described or not described, it's okay !! Your okay !! You don't need to apologize or pull your hair out trying to understand everything in a digestible way for others to understand. It's okay to be yourself. I promise.

; so happy early pride everyone !! Now go, be proud of yourself and who you are !!

; I read this as " I take being a girl gentleman very seriously. Never forget that. " and for a moment I felt very.

i take being a girl gentleman very seriously never forget that