Dear Other Autistic People, What Defines A Friendship To You? I Don't Believe I Have Ever Had A Healthy

Dear other autistic people, what defines a friendship to you? I don't believe I have ever had a healthy friendship and I can not find anything that truly helps me understand how one would work out. Especially with how friendships are with neurotypicals, I just feel out of the loop and it is haunting me.

Thank you in advance for your answers!

Future spouse tarot event

Hello!

I think it's been a long time since I last held a tarot event, so here it is! In this event you'll get to know 5 random facts about your future spouse. However you'll need to follow certain rules in order to participate in the event. If you do not follow all the rules your ask will not be answered.

RULES

Be polite and respectful

One ask per person and no anons allowed

Must be a follower

Feedback is mandatory

You'll need to mention your initials and zodiac

Like and reblog this post and my masterlist/paid services

Any donation or financial help you can offer is greatly appreciated but not mandatory.

I always feel like I'm fighting myself between spending and saving money. Like one part of me wants to save and be financially independent, but the other part of me wants to spend it all on things I like and allow myself to feel good.

I don't understand why I only feel good when I buy something new and something that I genuinely like and want.

One thing that I absolutely hate is when a parent of an autistic child tries to compare their child to me. Or if I try to explain the reason I do something that their child does not do, it immediately goes to "well, I raised an autistic child, I would know x.y. and z"

Like okay?!?!?!?! But you didn't raise me??? Just because we are both autistic doesn't mean we are twins 💀

I just wish those parents and others would understand that WE ARE NOT THE SAME. WE HAVE OUR OWN PERSONALITIES. WE HAVE DIFFERENT COPING SKILLS AND INTERESTS. STOP COMPARING US BECAUSE YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND THAT OUR DISABILITY IS A COMPLEX THING. PLUS THERE ARE OTHER MENTAL ILLNESS' THAT INTERACT WITH THE AUTISM.

I was good and paid some of the electric bill off instead of buying Chinese food.... I know I will be thinking of what I could have had for the next two weeks 😫😫😫😫😫

One thing that I'm working on in terms of my autism and unmasking is communicating and speaking to other autistic people. I've unconsciously projected the "social" cues that I had to learn to blend in with neurotypicals with other autistic people, and that causes confusion and anger in myself and I believe the other autistic person.

It's been a real learning process and 'trial and error' thing which I hope will continue to help me grow 🙏🏻