Hungry Bunny

hungry bunny 💜

Aww yeah. <3

I'll have to watch a playthrough of this one day too but-

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It's your blog, you should ramble. And if that information about dealing with anxiety is also on the internet anyways people will find a way to access it so don't worry about that. I think.

I think you've already seen some terms by now: comshipper means shipping things that would be complicated in real life and darkshipper means shipping things that would be deplorable in real life. In that case I don't actually mind if people put "darkshippers DNI" or whatever in their bio, they're allowed to not like dark subjects but it gets icky when they're attacking an *anti harassment* identity. That being said, most comshippers and darkshippers are proshippers, yes. And most of us accept them in the community. Which makes others think we allow these acts in real life apparently. As for the ship you mentioned, I don't know the characters so I can't give accurate input but it's no surprise to me that antis attack even vanilla (?) ships.

Funny how you mentioned pro/neutral/antis. If you make a poll you should probably include stuff like "neutral but proship leaning" or whatever too. So funfact, I've seen neutrals get criticized by both sides here. Antis criticize them for not being *heavily* against proshippers as much as they are. And proshippers criticize them by saying "you either harass people or you don't, what's there to be neutral about". I guess there's nuance in some related topics ("what counts as dark content, what counts as romanticizing etc" not "should harassment be okay?" type). Not to mention people who don't identify as proship because they don't want to be attacked and all that.

A lot of people especially proshippers talk about how fandom used to be so peaceful back then but I can't find proof of those times right now. /neu

What I remember/ know (reciting from memory, will take time to find sources, might have incorrect bits) is that a portion of antishipping has its roots in misogyny and that's got to do with how the proship label came to be as well. Also the antis I see novadays acting like a cult or how some political bigots treat minorities. The gay comparison from the previous reblog reminded me of that. Bigots years ago thought gay and "mentally ill" or "predator" were the same thing and tried to define queer terms to their own accord. It sounds a lot like what antis are doing to us now. Of course I acknowledge that the former incident was much more serious than the latter.

I hope you as the admin will be okay mentally while running this blog! It can be hard.

And also antis posting on here should probably know what's the actual meaning of proship before doing so. "Proship in my opinion means [something completely different]" there's no "your opinion", it's a word that already exists with an already existing meaning.

(Unless what one says is like "proship in my opinion means ship and let ship or anti harassment" because those *are* included in the definition. But you know they're not acknowledging what it is because being against "no harassment" makes them look like the bad guy, which they pretty much are sometimes.)

Thank you so much for your concern, but please don’t be afraid. I also run a side blog regarding mental health (apologies, I won’t link it as it has more information about myself there and I’d like to keep it separate from my psychology/sociology study.)

I have noticed that antiship people tend to have a “different definition” of proship based on who. Such as the en.stars fan base which considers a 16 and 18 year old to be EXTREMELY problematic and pedophilia. From a someone with a grass healthy relationship, those individuals seem rather grass deficient. The psychology and maturity is hardly different between those ages.

Anyway, I digress, unfortunately in order to understand someone when they speak, we must come to terms with the ways in which other people are defining words. For more information about such a topic, I highly recommend the book “How to Read a Book” by Charles Van Doren and Mortimer J. Adler. (PDF) So while there is a word that exists with a definition, it is like using the words gay, retard, and molest. The words have taken different meanings. Likely, the words people associated with them are: homosexual, a slur describing one of special needs, and improper sexual advances. Originally these words meant happy, to slow, and to disturb. Not only do words change but their perception can as well, such as me calling people homosexual is often met with dislike. Like it or not, this is at the very least something important to consider when making these discussions. (Sorry for the large block on this, I find the subject fascinating!)

Unfortunately, even with my brief interactions, I’ve been finding myself in a rather, perplexing position. I’ve been accused of harassing individuals in a tag and being a drama blog (though apparently being mistaken as not being op makes it better?) while mistakenly being accused of being proship (I state myself rather clearly in my bio.) I’ve sifted through dozens of blogs that were academically impossible to use in a healthy discussion since the tags or blog included threats, suicide baiting, amongst other deplorable words. This topic is interesting, but I’m watching a lot of unhealthy behaviours. I even blocked a fandom callout blog recently for existing in the sense of wanting to harass others. So, it’s interesting, but so hard to find people who are genuinely interested in having a civil conversation from that perspective.

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Sometimes I'm just minding my business then I realize one of those "freaks DNI" people have already blocked me. Even with my blog being *empty* for months.

How do they know?

My ask!

That anon might be right, maybe we need more positivity in the community. So here is some proshipper positivity and validation because I'm wearing yellow today!~

Minor proshippers are valid! The safety rules of the internet still matter but you're not being "brainwashed" for it.

Adult proshippers are valid! You're not a creep for being so.

Proshippers who have been here since the beginning of fandom are valid! Thank you for your service.

Proshippers who realized just yesterday are valid! Welcome to the community.

Proshippers who are ex antis, whether they used to harass or never harassed in the first place, are valid! Your actions in the past don't have to define who you are now.

Proshippers who are loud and vocal about it and posting about it are valid! Thank you for helping build community, be careful out there.

Proshippers who remain quiet and don't get into fandom drama are valid! Sometimes you just want the peace and quiet.

Proshippers who feel like they can't be themselves in certain spaces are valid! I'm sorry for your circumstances, hoping you'll find more acceptance soon.

Proshippers who are also com/ darkshippers are valid! Keep consuming your "problematic content".

Proshippers who only like peaceful themes in fiction are valid! You're not a "fake proshipper" because of that.

Proshippers who are picky with their "problematic" or non-problematic content and ships are valid! You still have your place here.

Proshippers who are paraphiles are valid! Your existence is not a threat, and you deserve support and outlets for yourself.

Proshippers who are/ were traumatized or mentally ill, whether that affects their stance or not, are valid! You deserve all the support you can get, not to mention com/darkship content *is* a healthy coping mechanism.

Proshippers who are not traumatized, or don't have trauma relating to the specific content they like, are valid! You don't need to be any certain way to be a proshipper.

And many more.

And thank you admin for running the blog, always remember to take care of yourself if it gets too stressful.

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