Asexuallity - Tumblr Posts

Hi Tumblr, Happy Pride.

I hate doing it, but I’m going to rant so TLDR.

I identify as asexual. I’m comfortable and okay with this. It’s what’s true to me and I’m sticking with it.

I recently came out to my new boss and I was very relieved when she knew what I was talking about. Hell, surprised even. However, she pulled all the usual cards in questioning after that. I honestly am not upset with her, I love her so much because she’s been so great and wonderful, but I am upset with the questions that she asked. And deep down I think she was just curious. Her as a person and knowing her they were just innocent in nature. But they’re the same questions that every single person who comes out as ace gets asked and I hate that they seem to have gotten to even her.

“Did you have trauma?”

“Is it a germ thing?”

No. I’m just repulsed, thanks.

But I am I guess also a bit upset with her for seemingly trying to convince me otherwise?

“Well, there are other ways to feel good.”

“Hormones and biology take over after a while in the middle of that.”

And just. Yeah. I guess for some people. But not me. I don’t want to be a in a relationship where sex is the main thing. And I have told myself that if it’s too important for any potential partners of mine, then we would just have to split.

I am a hopeless romantic. I enjoy and adore seeing others madly, deeply, in love. I do. I crave that as well. I do like physical contact like hand holding, kissing, cuddling, hugging. But I don’t want to fuck you and I don’t want you fucking me.

I want to be able to share the same values, help carry each other through burdens, be there for one another and be treated equally. Teamwork is how the dream works. I want to be able to comfortably sit in silence with a partner and admire how a specific wallpaper’s vibe makes us feel and reflect on that, for example. Having the same interests and being supportive of each other would fantastic.

But I know being ace hinders all that a lot. And I have come to terms that if I die alone then it’s my fault. And I’ll live with that. It’s not my ideal way of going out but if it happens it does.

But I still hold hope for all you other aces. I cheer you on and hope you find a partner, if you desire, and you all live and love long happily.

You got this.