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"Then you should understand people choosing the bear"

I'm a sexual assault survivor. When I was 15, a 55-year-old woman assaulted me and three of my friends at a party where she served a bunch of 15-year-olds alcohol. Way to go Granny.

And I don't hate women. I've stepped in to defend women against attacks from men in city streets or bars. I can't say if they're all sexually related or sexually motivated - they probably were.

But when we get to the question of this, I mean, like I do empathize for victims. I get that.

But the question isn't real. And we all know the question isn't real. It's hypothetical.

I was just at a store. There are hundreds or thousands of people at this Walmart, men and women walking around, doing their thing minding their own business. Not a single woman in there was shifty eyed, dysphoric or afraid of any of the men in that store.

I was just at a restaurant. I was at a bank. I was at a coffee shop. I was walking through a park. No one was afraid of men.

Replace any of those men with one bear and see what happens.

So, because we know it's hypothetical, let's have an adult conversation. Ready?

The existence of the question at all creates bias against men. I can trick you just the same way. I'd say, what do you think more Islamic men use to murder their wives with, guns or knives or rope?

The fact that I asked the question, you go, well why is he asking that question? Do they murder their wives a lot?

The queston is: safety, bear, man, alone. Right, those are the four real words in that question. It is embedding a bias against men. Every woman that has answered that question "bear" has stepped out in public since, has interracted with hundreds of men. The average woman will interact with 300 men per day.

Maybe they'd opted for the bear just cause they wanna mix it up. They're like, I'm getting so bored with the thousands of men that I see every week that maybe I just wanna see a bear.

I don't think you understand the gravity of this question. As a abuse survivor, I'm standing up against a false claim against the nature of men, where one in a thousand men - or maybe just a hair over one in one thousand men - will commit a crime of this nature. It's a very thin number of men.

And as a man whose family was responsible for starting World War I - you know, the assassination by the Black Hand, the Archduke Franz Ferdinand, my family paid for that assassination. We started World War I, which is why World War II happened. Because I'm so closely tied to that genocide, I've studied it.

And, Hitler and the Germans use the same type of questionings and comparative logic to wage war against Jews. I am literally trying to stop thousands of women who don't know any better but than to participate in a trend from creating this wave of propaganda against men.

Someone is trying to use this question against men, and women think it's a cool, dramatic way to say, "I'm afraid of men." But they're really actually not afraid of men. Cause they wouldn't go outside. They wouldn't go shopping. They wouldn't walk through the park. They wouldn't do anything. They'd be so actually mortified of men.

The question appeals to a logical fallacy called the Fallacy of Relative Privation. They're trying to say that because a single man could do more harm than a single bear, that all men are more dangerous than all bears on average. Regardless of the context of the interaction. That strips away all sense of goodwill or truth to the fact that women interact with 300 men per day on average. That strips away the truth that a woman, per male exposure, if you walk down the sidewalk and you see a guy, you have a 1 in 35 million chance of being forcibly [g]raped in that walk by on the sidewalk.

That Fallacy of Relative Privation strips all logic to the fact that men are, by and large, safe. But yeah, 81% of women will report being sexually harassed or assaulted. 43% of men just the same.

The number of people who will experience unwanted sexual contact, men and women, are roughly the same[**]. Men will underreport at three times the rate of women. Men are victimized just as much, but we're stigmatized against talking about it.

Both sides are victims, but men are not doing this campaign to smear women to try to damage the entire, like, gender of women.

Except for me, now. I'm doing what's called logical parallels. My whole argument for the last two weeks has been such: since women assault children, their children, their biological kids at 2.5 times the rate that all men assault women sexually, then women should lose custody of their kids until they stop it. Because, the phrase going around online right now is all men until no men. So, until no women, all women. Women do not deserve custody of their biological kids if any of them are capable of harming a child. Because children are innocent and honestly, all parallels aside, it's the abuse of children that is propagating people who are becoming monsters later on in life.

So, if anyone could make a decision right now to make the world a better place in the next 15 years, it's women not abusing their kids. It's already too late for us as adults. We're already screwed. We all have our trauma that we have to work through, and that's gonna be a dog fight. But if we wanna guarantee the world's gonna be a better place, let's stop abusing kids.

So, the reason why women are choosing the bears is cause it's not a real question and they won't have consequences if they answer in a dramatic way for effect.

Just like the 30-something percent of boys are like, well, dude, if like, there's no consequences, I'd totally take advantage of a chick. See, yeah, maybe people are bad people by nature, but people still obey the law. And that's why if 32% of college men would commit SA if there's no consequences, but then only one out of every thousand men will commit that crime, that shows how much people have discipline over their nature.

And you cannot say the same thing about a bear.

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** The following numbers are taken from the CDC National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS) from 2010, 2011, 2012 and 2016/2017.

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P.S. I'll just leave this here.

POV: Hefty

It was lunch time, and I was talking to Brainy, an old childhood friend of mine, then at some point my younger brother Clumsy arrived, and told us what had happened to him that morning which in short was that he had been besieged by a group of bullies, it made me furious and I told them how a girl is, we saved him and who said he had also glimpsed her in the garden of the institute, so he brought us the and as soon as Clumsy greeted a raven-haired girl tied in a ponytail.

when the girl turned around I was enchanted, she was really very beautiful, but she also looked very tired which in my opinion gave her a certain effect... I don't know what it is but I stared at her for a few seconds, but the more I looked at her I thought I had already seen her but I thought it was just my feeling until she introduced herself with a beautiful smile, she said her name come on I remember where she is at the time...

Flashback

A couple of weeks ago I was near a strip club, more precisely an alley, and after a while I saw two guys enter and I heard them giggling and it seemed strange to me so I thought: so I'm getting closer to the entrance of the alley and I saw the two boys surrounding a girl who told me that she seemed to be part of the club, which made me angry and I never tolerated injustice.

so he calls me with a determined step to two assholes who dared to touch a person without his permission, then it's obvious that people choose the bear instead of the man, then as soon as he finds me behind two I told him "leave her alone, now "the two turn around with at first a proud and arrogant look which as soon as I raise my eyes to meet mine, they become scary and so they run out of the alley with me behind me who throw them fiery looks of pure hatred.

then I turn towards the girl and I notice that she is without clothes, that is, she is only wearing underwear, I wonder what those two boys would have done to her, then I notice that she is looking for her clothes on the floor so, so as not to leave her without anything on, I give her the sweatshirt that I was wearing at that time moment and at first she was scared and perhaps confused by my gesture, she smiled when I handed her my sweatshirt and helped her look for her clothes, through all this we remained silent, then when we found the white top and the fake black leather miniskirt of the girl finally breaks the silence and says "thank you so much, I don't know what I would have done without your help" with a low and sweet tone of voice, then I enter a door of the room reserved for the staff , after a while I hear a friend of mine's voice clarifying me and I go back to him.

And flashback

"WAKE UP HEFTY!!" it was Brainy's voice calling me as he shook his hand in front of my face, so I made my friend move sharply and I realized that I was staring at the girl, whose name is Smurfette, because both her and my brother and the my friend stares at me with a strange and worried face.

"Sorry, what were we talking about? I was thinking about soccer practice later" I say using the first lie that comes to mind as I rub my head with the left boulder, " we met one of the bravest girls I've ever met!" Clumsy responds with a half-pout angry at me for not paying attention to the conversation.

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Hello people!!! sorry but I didn't have much inspiration but I had some inspiration for this chapter!!

and sorry if it's short, it's also because I haven't updated the story for a while 😭

Hawks: Hey Dabs, the bear or the man

Dabi: What?????

Hawks: Nah there was this trend wayyyy back in like, the mid 20s of like, whether you would rather see a bear or a man on the street at night

Dabi: Why would there be a bear on the streets at night

Hawks: Maybe it got lost from the forest or something dunno

Dabi: There are bears in this that aren’t squashed by gigantomania?

Hawks: What? I don’t- Ok but just like, as a hypothetical though

Dabi: I’m just saying, statistically, I’m probably seeing a man. Besides why is the man there? Why is the bear there? Are either of them dead? Can I make is so that they are dead?

Hawks: What even- That’s not the point!

Dabi: No no, I gotta know the context first, and I honestly don’t think it’s very realistic for a bear to show up in the middle of the streets

Hawks: Oh so there can be a freaking serial killer dressed like a kid on their first Halloween with a blood kink and an unrequited obsession with buff wholesome men on the streets, but not a bear that got lost from the woods?

Dabi: The streets I walk in? Absolutely

"bear or man?"

Men when women chose the bear: But I'm not a rapist! Why are you calling me a rapist?! I've never raped anyone! I'm not a rapist!! You know the bear will kill you, right?? I'm a nice guy I would never hurt you unlike the bear!! You misandrist!

If I get attacked by a bear and I survive if I told the authorities I wouldn't be told to stop talking about it because I might ruin the bears life

"Man or bear?"

Bear. No doubt.

Becuse when a human kills a human, it is deeply personal. there is a reason behind every murder. Bear would'nt kill me because of religion. bear wouldn't kill me because i was born a woman and said no. a bear wouldn't kill me because i'm queer. bear wouldn't rape so many girls at my high school and still walk the graduation stage. Bear wouldn't be protected because of its "potential" or "future." a bear doesn't torture. A bear doesn't kill thousands for strips of land or money. A bear doesn't see gender.

I would much rather be hunted by a bear because at least the bear is killing me for food or to protect their cubs. The circle of life! we all learned about it in the lion king! At least the bear doesn't revel in seeing me beg for my life. At least the bear doesn't get joy out of seeing me dead. At least the bear doesn't collect trinkets of its killings to look at whenever it feels sad. The bear is just a bear. a non-thinking, non-human entity that doesn't kill because of bias.

I will always choose the bear. At least the bear would see me as a human being.