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buffy the vampire slayer ⇾ 1.01 Welcome to the Hellmouth
Into each generation, a Slayer is born. One girl in all the world, a chosen one, one born with the... strength and skill to hunt the vampires ...to stop the spread of their evil blah, blah, blah. I've heard it, okay?
O-o-our relationship? We’re friends. Good friends. Girlfriends, actually. Yes, we’re girlfriends.
This, but also, he didn't try to "rape" her. He thought (because she'd been doing so the entire fucking time), that she was playing hard to get. When he finally understands that she's really serious and means it, he stops and feels like shit. This is the problem with relationships based in dubcon and hot/cold dynamics. The line isn't very clear for either party, until it is, usually only after it's been crossed. If Spike were actually trying to rape her he wouldn't have stopped. Rapists don't just "come to their senses" when they see how scared the victim is. They, in fact, get off on that because it's about the control and power and not sexual or physical pleasure. It always annoys me when people say he tried to rape her because he didn't immediately take no for an answer. Did he sexually assault her? Yes. Was that entirely his fault? It's a gray area in this scenario because their sex often occurred during attempts to murder one another. Resisting her attraction to him (psychologically and physically, via assaulting him), then immediately kissing him, or opening his belt, etc, had been a fundamental part of their relationship since it began.
Conditioning someone to understand that you don't really mean "No," then getting upset when you actually do, and they ignore you, is obviously going to confuse them. This is also why Buffy isn't actually upset with Spike. She's upset with herself for the reckless and contradictory way she's been behaving towards him. She knows that she fucked with his head and she feels guilty about it even though she tries to convince herself he's a monster and that that's the reason he didn't understand he was crossing a line. Truth is, she knows she's just as much to blame, if not more, because she couldn't just be honest about wanting him and turned it into a convoluted and unnecessarily complicated thing. Spike would have tried to woo her and do everything the romantic route if he thought she'd allow it. Look at how he treated Dru and that was without a soul. If he thought Buffy would let him openly and honestly love her he would have been acting very differently. He was trying to play things by her rules, but she kept changing them without being clear what they were.
I'm not one to victim blame, but in this particular scenario they are both victims because she was abusing him physically and emotionally, and using him while knowing that he was in love with her. She even tries to invalidate his feelings because she doesn't want to accept them as they would (and later do), make her feel like she's being a selfish asshole towards him. Spike knows he deserves better, but he also feels like he doesn't after all the fucked up shit he's done for the greater part of a century. He's settling for what he can get because to him it's better than having nothing and he knows she'll never love him. That's why when he survives and is revived he doesn't go and find her the way he searched the ends of the Earth for Dru every time she left him. He decides it's best if she thinks he died a hero. It's a much cleaner, nobler, and romantic ending than an eventually messy break up, and the poet would absolutely choose that route.
In summary, Spike didn't try to rape Buffy. She blurred the consent lines from day one and the second he realized she was serious and it wasn't an act he backed off and apologized. The only reason she reacted that way is because she'd been wanting an excuse to justify mistreating him to absolve her guilt and jumped on the first one, which unfortunately for him happened to be a damn good one. Buffy isn't the type to have told someone that tried to rape her that she loved them. If she actually believed that was what happened, and that he had sincerely attempted to force her, she would have staked his ass no questions and gone back to business as usual.
Everyone was reaching so hard to hate on Spike in season 7 that it spins back around and makes them look like they have no real moral compass
Xander's all "I don't care if he has a soul now, he'll always be an evil thing because he tried to rape Buffy." So did you hyena boy but everyone forgave that as soon as you became your old self again
And Giles' acting like Spike needs a chip just in case he goes evil at some point. Anyone can go evil, there were 7 seasons of nice people going evil and Giles wasn't advocating that the whole world get chipped
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BUFFY THE VAMPIRE SLAYER | 7.22 “Chosen” Original air date: May 20, 2003
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