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how does it feel being related to a stupid tucute trannyfag? I bet youre a dyke or some other abomination. God doesn't make mistakes, but I guess he made an exception with you two freaks
Wow, I can't believe it took someone this long to ask me something like this. Well, since you're here, I might as well respond, but just this once because this is incredibly impolite.To answer the first part, not that different to when I thought he was my sister. It has been a learning experience, I will admit, but I don't like him any less for it. Him coming out has taught me a lot about tolerance and acceptance, and I now understand things thanks to him that I otherwise wouldn't. I love him very much, and the fact that he goes by male versus female pronouns doesn't change that fact whatsoever. It never has.To answer the second part, I'm bisexual. That's a perfectly ordinary and fairly common thing to be (as is being trans, which I am not). So I guess by your standards, I am an abomination, yes.Now I'm not religious or anything like that, but I specifically remember a passage in the Bible saying that it isn't your place to judge others. So I suggest that if you're going to use religion as an argument, don't pick and choose the parts you like to suit your own purposes. And if being gay or trans is a sin, then leave us to sin and kindly fuck off.
dykes......ily. you agree. reblog.
dykes......ily. you agree. reblog.
dyke power ⚢
I’m gonna say something that I think needs to be said that’s been missing from conversations about who’s “allowed” to reclaim dyke. It literally does not matter whether dyke technically means lesbian. Even if you think that’s what it means, It Does Not Matter and bi women can still reclaim it.
The whole concept of “misdirected” slurs only applies when the slur is misdirected to someone who is not actually oppressed in the way that people targeted by it are. That’s why tme trans people can’t reclaim transmisogynistic slurs just because they’re also trans, for example, and this also applies to other contexts like race and disability.
Bi women are not facing “misdirected” homophobia when they’re called dykes because bi women and lesbians occupy the same social position in regards to oppression. We both exist at the intersection of misogyny and homophobia, we both face legal and social violence and marginalization for being women who aren’t straight, and all other factors being equal we have no privilege over each other, we’re in the same boat. You may not like it, but bi women are targets of lesbophobia too.
Bi women are equally hurt by everything that hurts lesbians, whether it’s violence towards same-sex couples, societal attitudes that our relationships are gross and taboo and the shame and internalized homophobia that causes us, men’s entitlement to our sexuality, legal discrimination such as banning same-sex marriage or being fired/denied housing for being known to like women, etc. They feel the weight of all of that whenever the concept of “dykes” is used as a joke or a target of violence or they’re called that word themselves. A straight woman getting called a dyke can brush it off safe in the knowledge that it’s not true, she can hear dykes/lesbians get mocked and feel unaffected knowing she’s not considered part of that group, but a bi woman cannot because derision towards sexuality between women harms us all equally.
(And before I get idiots in my comments going “but bi women can be in a straight relationship for safety!!1!” so can gay people. Gay men and lesbians have often had heterosexual relationships, whether their partner knew they were acting as a beard or not, in order to be safe from homophobia. Having to use a relationship as a shield from bigotry rather than being in a relationship purely because you want to is 1. not a privilege dumbass and 2. available to all LGBT people so shut the fuck up if you think that’s a legitimate argument).
lesbian separatism is truly a rot in the sapphic community. the idea that a specific sexuality is morally better, has a higher claim to some parts of history, the outright hatred of bisexual sapphics in the name of ‘preserving lesbian history’ as if bisexuals haven’t been here helping build lesbian history through the entirety of it, and the blatant ignorance of well documented history supporting and advocating for bi dykes goes to show that queer people can perpetuate bigotry too.
bisexuals have always been dykes, we’ve always been stud, butch and femme, and if you think otherwise i encourage you to look throughly into bisexual history and dismantle your superiority complex. lesbians and bisexuals have so much more in common then we have differences.
at this point, if you're not actively against biphobia, i don't think i'll ever truly believe your support for bi women as a person who's not one is genuine. the blog i took these screenshots from claims to be an ally to bisexuals but then inevitably dropped this banger. /s
for anyone who says "butch" and "femme" are lesbian-only and not applicable to bi women!
(the quoted post in context: source)
“Just a tip for any blogger out there: When someone from their community tells you that there is a problem with your community downplaying, ignoring, or erasing their contributions to history, YOU DO NOT GO GET ALL YOUR SOURCES FROM THE COMMUNITY THAT DID THE ERASING TO PROVE THEM WRONG.
All this post proves is that lesbians are REALLY good at erasing the contributions of bisexual people in our shared queer women’s history.
I’m not even going to touch the first bit of “proof” from glbt.org since they don’t use any sources for their articles. But all the rest of these sources about butch/femme are from lesbians aka “the people doing the erasing”. Of course they are not going to give you accurate perspectives on bisexual contributions in history!
It’s like when you have a relative who watches nothing but Fox News and you try to talk to them about something that is happening that Fox News ignores or only covers in their skewed way and they keep insisting they are informed because they watch a lot of Fox News. *facepalm*
So let’s lay down some real knowledge about the history of butch/femme and hell, I’ll even throw in a bit about dyke even though that’s not what this post is about. It gives me a chance to brush the dust off my Bachelor’s degree (History and Women’s Studies major with a minor in LGBT Studies).
The word femme was first used by cross-dressing lesbian Anne Lister to refer to her bisexual lover Marianna Lawton. The word femme has always been for bisexual women because it was first directed towards us. We share it with lesbians because in Lister and Lawton’s time there was not such a clear-cut distinction between lesbians and bisexuals. There was only one group - what is often referred to as Same Gender Loving People. Lesbian, bisexual, and even gay were not separate islands in the queer sea like they are now. Think more like queer Pangea.
At that time, lesbians were not what we think of now – namely that identifying as a lesbian did not preclude sleeping with and having relationships with men. Bisexual was not a commonly used term at the time. It’s use was mostly limited to academia given that it had come from botany though it started to gain ground in psychology circles after 1900. Other terms for queer women like invert, sapphic, homophile, and tribades were thrown around just as easily as lesbian. However lesbian was the one that eventually took off.
But there is a danger of getting too excited about particular words in history – words change their meaning.
The word lesbian itself was originally used as a synonym for tribade or tribadeism, referring to women stimulating other women sexually by scissoring. Lesbianism was something one DID not something one WAS. You could be a lesbian when you were with a girl and straight when you were with a boy – all in the same evening if you liked! Clearly this not how we use the word lesbian in modern times.
Butch came to us much later then femme, in the 1940’s. There were lesbian non-monosexuals in all lesbian communities of the 1940’s when butch was easily paired to femme and took off as identity labels. At that time you could call yourself a butch lesbian and be non-monosexual (ie what we now recognize as bisexual). Again, the word bisexual had not yet come into common use outside of academia so there was no easy way to distinguish between a woman that had relationships with women exclusively and a woman that had relationships with men and women.
Sidenote: If this sounds cissexist, it’s because it is. If there is anyone in the QUILTBAG whose history is more mangled then bisexuals, it’s non-binary people. I have no idea what non-binary people were doing at this time period or how they fit into this puzzle, and if someone does, please let me know. I assume lesbians of this time slept with non-binary people because they were also sleeping with men, but I really have no idea how non-binary culture fit into pre-1960’s queer history.
The word dyke is a lot more ambiguous in it’s origins. No one is really sure where it came from and speculation runs WILD. I’ve seen everything from French pirates to Romans fighting Boadicea. Some say it came from hermaphrodite, a word that in the early 1900’s was used for transgender, intersex, and bisexual people. Yep, you read that right. Dyke might not have had anything to do with lesbians in it’s original term. However it was in the dictionary by the 1940’s so again, it came from a time when lesbian and bisexual communities were merged. And it’s VITAL to note that both dyke and butch were most commonly associated with working-class queer women and queer women of color.
It was not until the 1960’s that the word lesbian began to imply NOT sleeping with men AT ALL, i.e.being exclusively attracted to women. The decision to do so (and to treat bisexual women as not-really-queer) was very much tied up in second-wave-feminism. That history includes gross TERF Shelia Jeffreys’ manifesto which stated bluntly “Our definition of a political lesbian is a woman-identified woman who does not fuck men”. She made clear in 1979 that bisexuals were no-good gross traitors.
By the 80’s there was a firm split between lesbians and bisexuals, and lesbians decided to take all the history and act like bisexuals had never been there at all. It was easy. Everything already said lesbian on it. All they had to do was ignore the real history the words in our shared community and not teach it to younger lesbians about them. Now today bisexuals are constantly excluded from our own history and accused of stealing it by lesbians who frankly don’t know what the hell they are talking about. Hello bi erasure.
So any time you see the word lesbian being used or being applied to queer women before the 1960’s, you need to remember that many of those lesbians were what we would now call bisexuals.
This is why the claim “the terms butch and femme (and dyke) arose from the LESBIAN community for LESBIANS exclusively about the LESBIAN experience” is misleading as hell. Lesbian communities were shared with bisexuals from the very beginning. Our history is shared as Same Gender Loving People.
So it is indeed historically accurate to say, as feminismandflowers did: “bi women have ALWAYS been a part of queer women’s movements and always will be. we have always been a part of forming “lesbian” culture and always will be. and we will always reserve the right to reclaim words like femme, butch, and dyke, because these are also descriptors of our lives and our experiences of queerness.”
- Sarah”
(emphasis mine)
starting the new year off right by saying that i love calling myself a dyke because it feels more unifying. it feels more like a pro-feminist movement and it feels more like reclaiming power of community and culture than just calling oneself a just by the name of their sapphic orienation inherently would be.
i'm sure that, being bi, i'll probably get accused of "fetishizing" the term for an aesthetic while being denied my own experiences and right to belong. but i don't care, because it's my identity and i claim dykehood for myself without their permission. it's no wonder those who want to erase queer history would fail to understand why real dykes don't hate each other.
i AM a dyke. i love BEING a dyke. i'm not going to apologize to anyone this year for that, but i will honor the term by defending my sisters and siblings who identify with us.
heyyyyy sooooooo…………………………. i just spent a few hours making my own carrd on the topic. please spread it, either by reblogging or sharing the link elsewhere, if you can!! thank you!!
this blog respects bi dykes.
y’all are insane, I was talking about my bisexuality with my feminist history professor and referred to myself as a dyke and she didn’t leap over the table and slap me and say I can’t say that because I’m bi and not a lesbian. Like you do realize that people see all of us fruits whether bi or gay/lesbian as a bunch of fruits no matter the flavour, right?
