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In the community's attempt to uplift loveless aros, we have created a very rigid idea of what it means to be loveless and, by proxy, what it means to be aro in general. I know people who constantly feel not aro enough or loveless enough, and it's all because they don't adhere to the love negative views the community seems so obsessed with leveraging. Sometimes I fully expect to hear an accusation of cooties get thrown around with how mature some of y'all be acting.

As an aplspec, loveless individual who has been scarred time and time again by those who claimed to love me, trauma is NO EXCUSE to push out love and/or romance favorable aros. Again, in the attempt to not leave out loveless voices, we have created a rigid standard of what it 'means' to be loveless... and that HURTS loveless people! If you have the audacity to call this out in any way, you'll get some self pitying asshole in your notes putting words in your mouth and being otherwise aggressive. I've seen it happen multiple times to ONE group of people. You'll be told you're throwing your community under the bus for speaking out, have your words cherrypicked and the rest glossed over, and told that 'erm actually, this thing I've been told is actively harming members of my own community is not bad and you're just a meanie bigot!'

Please do better in realizing that your language is already a weapon.