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GUYS GUYS GUYS WE'RE GONNA HAVE AN AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY!!! IT'S BEING CREATED NOW !! IM SO EXCITED AHHHHH

Someone needs to say this:

The aromantic spectrum is about a natural lack of attraction. Anything else is NOT arospec

You feel attraction but don't want to act upon it? NOT arospec

Fear of intimacy or commitment? Avoidant attachment style? NOT arospec.

You went to traumatic events and now don't want anything to do with romance? NOT arospec just traumatized. Heal that and you'll have your attraction(s) back.

And if you ask me I'd say that demiromantics are more allo than aro. Alloromanticism is also a spectrum, you know?

Gatekeeping is a good thing, otherwise words just lose their meanings and true aros will pay for it.

This is valid for asexuality too but I'm not asexual and I don't give a damn about them. Maybe some angry-ace will talk about this someday.

In the community's attempt to uplift loveless aros, we have created a very rigid idea of what it means to be loveless and, by proxy, what it means to be aro in general. I know people who constantly feel not aro enough or loveless enough, and it's all because they don't adhere to the love negative views the community seems so obsessed with leveraging. Sometimes I fully expect to hear an accusation of cooties get thrown around with how mature some of y'all be acting.

As an aplspec, loveless individual who has been scarred time and time again by those who claimed to love me, trauma is NO EXCUSE to push out love and/or romance favorable aros. Again, in the attempt to not leave out loveless voices, we have created a rigid standard of what it 'means' to be loveless... and that HURTS loveless people! If you have the audacity to call this out in any way, you'll get some self pitying asshole in your notes putting words in your mouth and being otherwise aggressive. I've seen it happen multiple times to ONE group of people. You'll be told you're throwing your community under the bus for speaking out, have your words cherrypicked and the rest glossed over, and told that 'erm actually, this thing I've been told is actively harming members of my own community is not bad and you're just a meanie bigot!'

Please do better in realizing that your language is already a weapon.

I'm usually the one who blocks and moves on, but seeing as the situation is apparently STILL happening despite the fact that this person supposedly blocked us and everyone else involved, clearly blocking isn't enough. My circle is having their words twisted and used against them, and since we're all blocked we cannot defend ourselves aside from separate posts. Since I wasn't originally involved, I have no clue if the person will start misconstruing MY words as well, but this drama has me in too much of a chokehold to ignore it now.

This whole thing started from a post about how 'love loses' is harmful. THEY went into the notes to have a tantrum.... need I remind you all of that? This cowardly, sniveling fuck is hiding behind a 'block' that they actively choose not to respect. We have sources that allow us to be aware of what they're doing because quite frankly none of us are too happy with their defaming twists on the situation, and since THEY won't let it go tabs have to be kept. I think I can speak for everyone involved when I say this: please fuck off. I'm tired of hearing about my circle being hurt and harassed over something none of us fucking started. Grow the hell up and leave us alone.

*sigh* Alright. I must address the fiasco that has been going on lately.

To summarize, a friend of ours made a post calling out the harmful nature of the 'love loses' phrase, and started getting hate for it. A larger creator (the coiner of Unitypunk to be exact), was one of the people who got their panties in a twist about this post. Icarus saw this and, since the maker of the original post is our friend, got upset and took it upon himself to stand up against the mindless hate drone that showed up on our friend's blog. This caused the person, who we will identify as @/xxlovelynovaxx, to go off on Icarus, as well. This ended in us getting blocked. They blocked us, because they are so genuinely livid about someone calling out the bullshit phrase they put on a pedestal.

Now, this is so petty and childish that I wasn't going to get involved, but we have since learned they are cyberstalking a system within our circle. This is a huge claim, I know, but rest assured that we are not pulling this out of our ass:

Here is a post detailing the situation further (link)

And just going on Nova's blog will show you all you need. They feature screenshots of Anarchy's tagging system during their public tantrum (we know this, because Anarchy has been notified by someone who remains unblocked). Nova is/was actively lurking on a blog they blocked over petty shit, and perhaps they are doing that with us, as well.

Now, this isn't a call to get them deplatformed (though I am of the opinion that someone so childish should not have any leverage in communities), nor is it a call for mass reporting. It is, rather, a need to bring their behavior to light for what it is: harassment. This anger towards being told 'love loses is harmful' is completely childish, and they are making people feel unsafe in their own spaces due to their need to die on the 'love loses uwu' hill. That is absolutely unacceptable.

That is all, for now. No doubt this post may make a debut on their blog, if my theory is correct and they are also lurking on our blog as well.