I Hate The Idea That You're Depriving Your Partner Of Sex - Tumblr Posts

You know what really bothers me? 

The assumption that, because I’m asexual, I’m depriving my partner of sex.

I’m not depriving him of anything. He came into this relationship fully aware of my orientation and preferences and made the decision to date me anyway. Why should I be required to atone for my orientation? I shouldn’t feel guilty about not wanting sex any more than he should feel guilty for wanting it.

I don’t have to feel guilty because he isn’t getting laid. He made that decision himself of his own free will and I don’t owe him sexual favor to keep him interested in me. If he suddenly decides that the lack of sex is a problem, that’s his prerogative and he can end the relationship if he so chooses. 

That’s the beauty of a partnership. We both have choices in the matter and we both have boundaries to maintain. We’re both responsible for happiness here, not just the one of us without sexual urges toward the other. 

I think this type of misconception definitely needs to be abolished.