You Know What Really Bothers Me?

You know what really bothers me? 

The assumption that, because I’m asexual, I’m depriving my partner of sex.

I’m not depriving him of anything. He came into this relationship fully aware of my orientation and preferences and made the decision to date me anyway. Why should I be required to atone for my orientation? I shouldn’t feel guilty about not wanting sex any more than he should feel guilty for wanting it.

I don’t have to feel guilty because he isn’t getting laid. He made that decision himself of his own free will and I don’t owe him sexual favor to keep him interested in me. If he suddenly decides that the lack of sex is a problem, that’s his prerogative and he can end the relationship if he so chooses. 

That’s the beauty of a partnership. We both have choices in the matter and we both have boundaries to maintain. We’re both responsible for happiness here, not just the one of us without sexual urges toward the other. 

I think this type of misconception definitely needs to be abolished.

We happily accept that we can love more than one child, parent, sibling, teacher, friend or pet. When you think of it like that, isn’t the total exclusiveness that we expect of spousal love positively weird?

Richard Dawkins, The God Delusion  (via fyp-science)

Have a heart that never hardens, and a temper that never tires, and a touch that never hurts.

Charles Dickens, Our Mutual Friend (via wordsnquotes)

If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.

Deepak Chopra (via creatingaquietmind)

Unless we love and are loved, each of us is alone, each of us is deeply lonely.

Mortimer Adler (via fyp-philosophy)

Perfectionism is very addictive because it is very seductive. It’s so great to think ‘There’s a way I can do things where I can never be held in judgment by other people, that I can totally escape criticism.’ But it doesn’t work.

Brené Brown, The Power of Vulnerability (via fyp-psychology)