Keep Smiling - Tumblr Posts
Edit: Apparently I’ve already reblogged this. I suppose that speaks to how bang on it is.
How It Feels
Part II: Emotionally Abusive Relationships
Picture the shittiest customer service job you’ve ever had. Customers are constant and you’re so overwhelmed you can’t think about yourself at all. Your personal life, your bodily needs (you don’t even get a lunch break; when was the last time you had water?) or your emotions.
You’re expected to perform perfectly and to always keep a smile on your face, no matter what. You need to be polite and accommodating even if people are screaming at you, and even if people threaten you for no reason.
Your boss thinks you’re an idiot and is constantly condescending and patronizing. He explains your own job to you and implies you’re incompetent, but to avoid offending him, you can’t defend yourself, you can only thank him for his ‘advice.’ He can snap at any minute and fire you, and you need the job desperately, because he has all kinds of contacts and influences in the community and will make sure no one ever hires you again. He makes it very clear that he owns you, but would never say so outright.
You are not allowed to talk to anyone about how bad this job is, under contract. He considers it unprofessional and a threat to the success of his company, and has threatened to sue if any employees quit and talk about the reasons they quit. He has the power to make your life even worse than it is now.
But outside the workplace, your boss is known as a philanthropist. He is generous and charismatic, and everyone constantly reminds you how lucky you are for getting the job.
Now picture that feeling not just at work, but everywhere. This environment is your home. This person sleeps in your bed. They go everywhere with you, or demand you check in all the time. They know all your passwords. They look through your search history. They have access to everything you know and have and are.
You still have to be polite, accommodating, apologetic, understanding, thankful. You still have to keep smiling.
I can't believe I even have to say this, but my father's opinion of BTS makes me so mad. Like, he straight up said and I quote; "They are talentless cute boys who are being marketed correctly and molded into what they are now. They're only popular because of what is going on in Korea. I hope they're saving their money so they have something to fall back on when the popularity crumbles". All I could do was sit and feel like my heart is getting stabbed
Hey there Anon
First of, calm down my daughter xD
Joke aside, it’s not the first time someone has said this. Even my cousin sister said something along the same lines. The difference between them and us is that we invest our spare time on Bangtan and know a lot about their struggles and hardwork. Personally I think, any non-kpopper can make these assumptions. It’s their basic first impression. Give them time. Who knows, maybe your father’s opinion or even my cousin’s will change.
They aren’t talent-less. We know how hardworking Jimin is. We know that half of their music is produced by they themselves. RM wrote Singularity right after his discharge. Give these examples or try to show some of their stuff (your faves I guess) to your dad. He may rethink and appreciate. He’s your father afterall. He will understand :)
That aside, don’t let any bad thoughts get to you. As a fellow ARMY, I also go through this a lot. Just ignore all the negativity and enjoy BTS’s new album. HAPPY COMEBACK!
Keep smiling dear anon ♡
