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What also bothers me about the whole Lila/Diego/Five bullshit is how it basically gives the message that married life sucks.
That once you get kids, a house, "boring" jobs and daily tasks, the romance goes to shit and your life is basically ruined.
Like...no. That was not supposed to be the message! Make them talk! Voice their problems with each other! Rediscover their passion for one another! Make them see how badass and adventurous their family life can be! Make them understand how lucky they are! How depsite of losing their powers and the thrill of what their chaotic life used to be, their new family life can be just as adventurous! Different, yes, but not worse!
I would love to see them grow as a couple. To see them overcome their pasts and embrace the change. To see them finally snap and realize they love each other. That it's still them against the world, but now it's also their family against the world.
But no, i guess it's better to make them fall apart and make the whole relationship toxic in the end 🤷🏼‍♀️ oh and turn Lila into a cheater...with her husband's brother. How truly epic...smh.
The Umbrella Academy: the concept of second love, finding yourself, a little controversy and loss
I've noticed a very similar concept recurring with characters in TUA, and I'd like to break it down for each character individually. I'll take them by their numbers.
#1 Luther
First Love: Allison
Controversial relationship (adopted siblings)
Partially unrequited love - he was never as important to Allison as she is to him + later manipulates him (a sign of toxicity)
Still, she's very important in the development of his story and they have some nice moments and she's important to his character development, though mostly it's about him agonizing over his love for her (he falls for Sloane all the more quickly in my opinion, as he thirsts for true love)
Second Love: Sloane
Romantic relationship, despite the obstacles their feelings for each other are very pure and they have some very cute scenes together
Luther has found in her someone who understands and accepts him for who he is
Found and lost thanks to the time jump (reboot)
#2 Diego
First Love: Eudora
Ex-partner
Partial cooperation
Tragic loss: Eudora's death - partially helps his character development
Second love: Lila
From his point of view, an initially casual yet intense relationship
Controversy: Their relationship is built on Lila's lies and manipulation (she was interested in him because it was her mission, kidnaps him to the Commission and later lies to him about "their son")
Even though they are later married and have three children together, their marriage is dysfunctional
Relationship loss: Lila wants a break because she is unsure about their marriage, later falls in love with Five
#3 Allison
First Love: Luther
(Yes, it's probably appropriate to mention Patrick, but he was never really in the plot, so I won't mention him even though they were married and had a daughter together.)
More of a childhood crush
She valued him most when she didn't have anyone else around
(See Luther's points)
Second love: Raymond
Her true love
He knew the truth about her and accepted her
Found and lost thanks to the time jump
#4 Klaus
First "love": Alcohol and drug addiction
An unexpected and controversial choice? Perhaps, but this "love" was very devastating and made Klaus do many crazy things
His eternal affairs can't be considered love.
Second love: Dave
The only man Klaus loved more than himself (his words)
Found and lost thanks to the time jump
Klaus got rid of his addiction thanks to him (which then came back thanks to him, but he was definitely able to help him from his "toxic love")
#5 Five
First Love: Dolores
His fantasy created through loneliness and trauma
She helped him through his years in a post-apocalyptic world
Despite not being a "healthy relationship" it had a place in Five's story and was important to his development (among other things, it foreshadowed how sensitive Five could be when he fell in love)
Second Love: Lila
His first true love
Lila was the only one who ever truly understood him and understood what he was going through + he had the happiest moments of his life with her (finally)
Controversy: she was still his brother's wife at the time, yet we know that, given the circumstances, she hadn't been with Diego for years (and wanted a break before that)
Love found through being lost in time and "lost" through going back in time
Tragic ending: erased from existence
#6 Ben
First love: Jill
One-sided crush (Jill didn't really know Ben existed)
He had partially distorted ideas about her
Jill reminds me partly of Dolores, since Ben as a ghost had very limited options
Second Love: Jennifer
A fateful yet devastating love
Feelings affected by other circumstances (Marigold and Durango)
Tragic ending: death
#7 Vanya/Victor
First "love": Leonard
A relationship built on a foundation of manipulation and lies
Yet Vanya herself mentioned the feelings she had for him, even if they were based on lies
Killed by Vanya, part of the reason for the apocalypse
Second Love: Sissy
Her/his true love
Controversy: A married woman with a family
Found and lost thanks to the time jump
Part of the reason for the apocalypse (Harlen)
#8 Lila
First Love: Diego
Their relationship had a very toxic foundation, from my perspective it was also based on Lila's rebellion against The Handler
An intense relationship, especially sexual
Their relationship gave her the family she wanted
See Diego's points
Second Love: Five
A romantic relationship
A collaborative partnership
Controversy: the killing of her family (who later live again)
Concept: enemies to lovers
See Five's points
It is very interesting from my point of view that their relationships often have common points. Usually the first loves carry a trace of a certain toxicity and only the second love is the real one (though this point is slightly moot with Diego, as his healthier relationship was definitely with Eudora and Ben wasn't entirely lucky in that regard either).
Also, they all found their loves based on the time jump and also lost them based on another time event. Death is also a very common part of the story.
I also find it interesting that most, for the sake of their relationships, opposed their family (in various forms) no matter what it brought - everyone would be very selfish for their happiness.
What do you think about this?
Just do the maths and listen to reason (and above all the heart, please).
I just realized that Lila and Diego only knew each other for like 20 days before they got married because of her getting pregnant. Add in the after S3 timeskip and the subway stuff, Lila has technically spent more time with Five than Diego in canon considering she was with him 24/7 during the subway adventures.
I'm not sure how long Lila was in the asylum with Diego (I think in the show they say he's been there for over seventy days). But otherwise, definitely yes. They had known each other for a very short time when she became pregnant. Although she has been with him for over six years, the question is how much time they were really together.
But she was with Five for literally seven years in a row, not much can compare to that. Five knew her absolutely differently and more deeply than her husband. There is also the question of how much Diego really knew her. Because I feel like he never really understood her...
Just a few observations about the scenes with Diego and Lila…
Lila opens up to Diego and tells him about her family, he kisses her right after and Lila slaps him. Lila then looks really hurt that he did it in her weak moment, but then she kisses him. I get the feeling from that scene that she was afraid she had compromised her mission by her reaction and wanted to make amends.
And honestly? In the scene where she's in bed with Diego, I don't find her expression happy.
At Luther and Sloane's wedding, Lila watches them and smiles.
"That used to be us." "We were never like that. Gross."
Lila looks hurt again and slaps him and he likes it more. My feeling again? Lila actually longed for romance. And even when they have their little moment, Lila doesn't look happy, she doesn't smile.
After the wedding, Lila smiles when she sees how drunk Five is.
Another slap after Diego locked her up to protect her. And another apologetic kiss from her? Why do I get the feeling she was afraid that if she did something that really showed just how angry she was, she'd be afraid Diego would leave her to it all alone with the baby?
I know, maybe I'm overthinking this… but honestly… show me one scene where Lila is actually happy just being in Diego's company and not enjoying the situation, the action, the humor of Five or anyone else, and there's no s e x involved?
Okay, maybe a dance scene…