Or Makes You 'less Aro' - Tumblr Posts
As someone who rlly wants a qpr, a life partner, and the life society ‘expects’ me to have, it’s irritating to know that I’m both the ‘wrong’ type of aro and the aro that our romance obsessed society is comfortable with. Like, both ways it sucks????? I’m not compensating for my aromanticism, I just want to hug and kiss someone and get tax benefits??? Like, I’m cupioromantic so I DO want the butterflies in my stomach romance, but also I understand that I just want a bestie for life that I can live with. It’s hard to explain, but, like, let people exist in peace??? Sexuality is a spectrum for a reason. Someone can be aro allo or allo ace, and both labels are valid?? So are homeromantic bisexuals but that’s another rant…
Point is, let partnering aromantics and non-partnering aros exist and peace unless you want to be friends
And DON’T insinuate aro allos are gross/ derogatory words for promiscuous that I’m not gonna use/ sex addicts
YOU ARE VALID NO MATTER WHAT
People really need to stop talking about aromantic people in such a way to suggest we need to, like, make up for our lack of romantic attraction? This ties into the whole "aromantic people can still date" and "aromantic people can have qprs" and "aromantic people still feel strong platonic love" pattern I keep seeing where it's as if people are trying to say "don't worry, they can still be mostly normal" and it is so frustrating to me as a non-partnering aromantic person and is likely even worse for aplatonic and loveless aros.
…sooo can u be, like, cupioromantic and alloplatonic at the same time
But as someone who feels this way, SAME!!!!
WE ARE NOT BETTER. WE ARE FORCING OURSELVES TO CONFORM TO SOCIETY. WE’RE JUST VERY PASSIONATE ABT OUR FRIENDS
Also as an aromantic who’s societally acceptable bc of my life dreams, it feels like my existence cheapens ppl who are aromantic but r apl n their experiences bc we use the same labels??? Just some posts by apl’s getting to me ig
aroace alloplatonic culture is trying really really hard to not give people the wrong idea about all aro people while coming out.
(very frustrating because I don't want people to think I'm 'better' than apl or allosexual aros, or that aro and ace are the same thing, but also I want to get across what my identity specifically is.)
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