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I remember reading a study once that asked people in their 90s to rank the best to worst decades of their life, and the overwhelming majority were like “my 70s were the best” and ranked their teens and twenties as near the worst, and I think about that a lot when people act like if they’re not living their best life at 25 they’ve lost their chance. like nah, the longer you’ve had to learn about yourself, the more you can love yourself. there’s no expiration date on joy until you’re dead
As hard as it is, you need to work on being a person that your loved ones feel safe to enforce boundaries with and tell you when you’ve hurt them.
It’s normal for people to make mistakes, and sometimes we overstep in relationships.
If you’re someone who goes on a guilt spiral every time someone tries to set a boundary or explains that you’ve hurt them to the point where they end up comforting you, then you’re not a person people will feel safe communicating with.
A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life. Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.
keep on talking about jonghyun, please. always include him in any way that you can. continue to share his music, his words, videos of him, pictures of him, facts about him. introduce him to new fans of shinee with the same enthusiasm (if not more) than you would have done in the past. keep on loving him in the way that you always have (and even more). give back to him everything that he gave to us (and then some). the world and industry is so fast moving, we can let him get lost in the bustle of it all or left in the past or, even worse, treated like a taboo topic. don’t let him become someone that needs to be tip-toed around talking about or brought up only when it “makes sense to”. celebrate his life and accomplishments and just everything about him. never ever ever forget him.
beautiful, special, gentle, kind, soft, bold, brave, loving, understanding, open-minded, loyal, cute, lovely, comforting, multifaceted, inspiring. the reason for countless changed lives, someone who left an impact on everyone he crossed paths with. i miss him.