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PSA:

You cannot put everyone on. You will drown trying to rescue the people who were never taught to swim.

the universe keeps testing me and i keep telling it to fuck off.

I looked at my cat sleeping on my pillow, laid my head right next to his looking straight at his catnapping state and cried.

He isn’t sick or something worrying, i just looked at him. Sleeping soundly, his little belly rising and falling with each breath, at peace - a contrast to his usual hopping around like he’s a toddler on sugar rush.

And i thought to myself.. wow, this little creature, this tiny little thing i once picked up from my friend, trusts me. It trusts me enough to sleep on my pillows - chooses to sleep on my pillows. It feels safe with me, it feels good with me… !!!

I think thats funny, something most would disregard with a hollow “its nothing” brought me to tears, humans are funny, existence is odd, being is unique.

Finding Freedom in No: Embracing the Power of Boundaries Shaina Tranquilino May 3, 2024

In a world that glorifies the concept of saying "yes" and constantly encourages us to be agreeable, finding the courage to say "no" can seem daunting. We often associate saying no with negativity, conflict, and rejection. However, what if I told you that saying no can actually be a powerful act of self-care and empowerment?

For many of us, saying yes has become a reflexive response, driven by a fear of disappointing others or being perceived as rude or selfish. We say yes to invitations, requests for our time, and tasks at work, even when we're already stretched thin. The result? We end up overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful.

But what if we flipped the script and embraced the freedom that comes with saying no?

Saying no is not about being unkind or selfish; it's about setting boundaries and prioritizing our own well-being. It's about recognizing that our time, energy, and resources are limited and deserve to be allocated thoughtfully.

Here are a few reasons why saying no can lead to greater freedom and empowerment:

Honouring Your Priorities: When we say no, we're actively choosing to prioritize what matters most to us. Whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing our passions, or simply taking care of ourselves, saying no allows us to align our actions with our values.

Preserving Your Energy: Every time we say yes to something, we're committing our time and energy to that task or obligation. By saying no to things that don't serve us, we free up space for activities and relationships that energize and fulfill us.

Fostering Authentic Connections: Saying yes when we really mean no can lead to resentment and strained relationships. On the other hand, being honest about our boundaries can deepen our connections with others, as it fosters authenticity and trust.

Empowering Yourself: Saying no is an assertion of our autonomy and self-worth. It's a declaration that we have the right to prioritize our needs and desires, even if it means disappointing others. In doing so, we reclaim our power and agency.

Of course, learning to say no isn't always easy, especially if we've spent years ingrained in the habit of saying yes. It requires self-awareness, assertiveness, and a willingness to prioritize our own needs.

Here are a few tips for cultivating the courage to say no:

Practice Self-Reflection: Take the time to identify your priorities and boundaries. What are the things that truly matter to you? What drains your energy or causes you stress? Understanding your limits will make it easier to say no when necessary.

Set Clear Boundaries: Communicate your boundaries assertively and respectfully. Remember that it's okay to say no without offering a lengthy explanation or apology. Keep your response simple and direct.

Be Firm but Kind: Saying no doesn't mean being rude or dismissive. Express your gratitude for the opportunity or invitation, but kindly decline if it doesn't align with your priorities or values.

Practice Self-Compassion: Recognize that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being. Let go of any guilt or fear of judgment, and instead, focus on taking care of yourself.

Saying no is not a sign of weakness; it's a courageous act of self-care and empowerment. By setting boundaries and honouring our priorities, we free ourselves from the burden of obligation and create space for greater fulfillment and authenticity in our lives. So, the next time you're faced with a request that doesn't resonate with you, remember that saying no is not only okay – it's liberating.

Shielding Ourselves: A Guide to Avoiding Negative Vibrations Shaina Tranquilino May 4, 2024

In the whirlwind of life, we encounter a spectrum of energies, from the uplifting and positive to the draining and negative. It's inevitable that we'll come across situations or people that emit vibes that aren't conducive to our well-being. However, it's within our power to shield ourselves from these negative vibrations and maintain our inner balance. Shielding isn't about building walls around ourselves but rather cultivating practices that help us filter out negativity while fostering a positive mindset. Here's a guide on how to shield ourselves from negative energies:

1. Awareness is Key

The first step in shielding ourselves from negative vibrations is awareness. Pay attention to how you feel in different situations and around different people. Notice any shifts in your mood or energy levels. Awareness empowers you to recognize when you're encountering negativity so you can take proactive steps to protect yourself.

2. Set Boundaries

Establishing healthy boundaries is essential for shielding yourself from negative energy. Learn to say no to activities, relationships, or situations that drain your energy or compromise your well-being. Respect your own limits and prioritize your needs. Setting boundaries is not selfish; it's an act of self-care and self-preservation.

3. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for shielding ourselves from negative vibrations. By staying present in the moment, we can observe our thoughts and emotions without being swept away by them. Mindfulness practices such as meditation, deep breathing, or yoga can help us cultivate inner peace and resilience in the face of negativity.

4. Surround Yourself with Positivity

One of the most effective ways to shield yourself from negative vibrations is to surround yourself with positivity. Seek out uplifting experiences, spend time with supportive friends and family, and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Positive energy is contagious, and by immersing yourself in it, you can create a protective barrier against negativity.

5. Visualize a Protective Shield

Visualization is a powerful technique for shielding yourself from negative energy. Close your eyes and imagine a bright, protective shield surrounding you, deflecting any negativity that comes your way. Visualize this shield as impenetrable and resilient, keeping you safe and secure in your own positive energy.

6. Practice Self-Care

Self-care is essential for maintaining a strong shield against negative vibrations. Take time to nurture your body, mind, and spirit through activities that replenish your energy and uplift your mood. Whether it's indulging in a relaxing bath, spending time in nature, or pursuing a hobby you love, prioritize self-care as a daily practice.

7. Release Negative Attachments

Letting go of negative attachments is crucial for shielding yourself from negative vibrations. Release any resentments, grudges, or past hurts that weigh you down and keep you tethered to negativity. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for freeing yourself from the grip of negative energy and reclaiming your inner peace.

8. Trust Your Intuition

Your intuition is a powerful guide for navigating the energies around you. Trust your gut instincts and listen to the subtle signals your body sends you. If something feels off or draining, honor that feeling and take steps to protect yourself. Your intuition is your inner compass, guiding you towards environments and relationships that nourish your soul.

9. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a potent antidote to negativity. Cultivate a daily practice of gratitude by reflecting on the blessings in your life and expressing appreciation for the positive experiences and relationships you have. Gratitude shifts your focus from what's lacking to what's abundant, fostering a mindset of positivity and abundance.

10. Stay Grounded

Finally, staying grounded is essential for shielding yourself from negative vibrations. Connect with the earth by spending time outdoors, walking barefoot, or practicing grounding exercises. Grounding anchors you in the present moment and helps you maintain a sense of stability and balance amidst the turbulence of life.

Shielding ourselves from negative vibrations is a proactive practice that requires awareness, intention, and self-care. By setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, surrounding ourselves with positivity, visualizing protective shields, practicing self-care, releasing negative attachments, trusting our intuition, cultivating gratitude, and staying grounded, we can create a strong barrier against negativity and maintain our inner peace and well-being. Remember, you have the power to choose the energy you allow into your life—choose wisely.

Healing Empath Fatigue: Embracing Your Sensitivity Mindfully Shaina Tranquilino July 8, 2024

Empaths possess a unique gift—the ability to deeply feel and understand the emotions of others. This sensitivity, however, can come at a cost: empath fatigue. Constantly absorbing and processing the energies around them can leave empaths feeling drained, overwhelmed, and even disconnected from themselves. Yet, there is a way to navigate this terrain without sacrificing one's well-being: through mindful and energetic self-care.

Understanding Empath Fatigue

Empath fatigue isn't just about physical tiredness; it's a holistic exhaustion that affects the mind, body, and spirit. When empaths absorb the emotions and energies of others without proper boundaries or self-care practices, it can lead to burnout and emotional imbalance. The challenge lies in maintaining empathy without allowing it to overwhelm and deplete one's own energy reserves.

The Importance of Cleansing and Protecting Your Energy

One of the fundamental practices for empaths is learning how to cleanse and protect their energy field. This involves clearing out energies that aren't theirs and establishing boundaries to prevent energetic overwhelm. Here are some effective techniques:

Visualization: Imagine a protective shield of light surrounding you, filtering out negative energies while allowing positive ones to pass through.

Salt Baths: Soaking in a bath with Epsom salts or sea salt can help draw out negative energies absorbed throughout the day.

Nature Connection: Spending time in nature, such as walking barefoot on grass or near water, can naturally cleanse and recharge your energy.

Mindful Practices for Renewal

In addition to cleansing, empaths benefit greatly from regular renewal practices that nurture their own energy and well-being:

Self-Compassion: Practice kindness and understanding towards yourself. Embrace your sensitivity as a gift rather than a burden.

Setting Boundaries: Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs without guilt.

Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices can help empaths stay grounded, centered, and aware of their own emotions versus those they pick up from others.

Embracing Your Empathic Nature

Healing empath fatigue isn't just about protection and renewal—it's also about embracing your empathic nature with confidence and purpose. Recognize that your ability to feel deeply is a strength that can bring immense compassion and understanding to your relationships and communities.

Empath fatigue is a real challenge, but with mindful practices and self-care, empaths can navigate their sensitivity without losing themselves in the emotions of others. By learning to cleanse, protect, and renew their energy, empaths can not only survive but thrive in a world that needs their empathy now more than ever. Embrace your sensitivity, honour your boundaries, and prioritize your own well-being—you deserve it.

Be proud of me, I set a fucking boundary!!!!

actually you either need to set clear boundaries with people or not get mad when people “overstep” something that doesnt even exist to them. its stupid as hell to assume everyone owns the standardized handbook of social interaction and get mad when someone may do something you dont like without even realizing it. its even worse when people act like its a toxic relationship when the literal only problem is no established boundaries lmfao

anons that are weird to my mutuals beware that i’m mean and insane

do people not realize the anon button is there so you can spread LOVE and JOY and WHIMSY and let people know how TALENTED and COOL they are when you’re too shy to show everyone who you are, not to be a LITTLE BITCH who can catch these hands????

YEP YEP EXACTLY !!!!!!!!! like SORRY if you turn on anon to be a fucking weirdo then you’re a LOSER !!!! that’s loser behavior !!!!!!

SHUT UP ANON ‼️

idk why you think your some kind of celebrity with your 300 followers and when you cant write for shit, update any of your mediocre series once every blue moon, and use your "mental health" as an excuse to be a lazy piece of shit 😹😹

okay u lowkey ate me up..

♪ WELCOME

- wyr / 20 / she/they - about me / rules/byf

♪ BLOGS

- @afyrian (haikyuu fic blog) - @kaiage (secondary haikyuu blog) - @astyrial (marvel fic blog) - @kiyaestra (side blog)

♪ rules / byf

- i don’t really follow anyone under 16 !! - don’t private message me if you’re a minor/ageless, i will not answer - any age can comment/reblog, but you are not owed a response - basic dni (bigots, zionists, etc.) - if you’re being weird/disrespectful (to me or my mutuals) i will block you - if you’re going to be rude on anon, just go somewhere else - i will discuss multifandom stuff here, usually haikyuu though - i’m chill if you’re chill

respect writer’s boundaries challenge, go

Hi. Would be nice if you read this.

Let me be honest. Instagram, where I'm usually active, is getting kinda uncomfortable for me to use. Some people there are really mean about me drawing what i want (shippy art for example). I remember i posted Brinky doodles on my alt account and someone commented "good. Now draw them fucking" i know it wasn't meant to be serious but i was so uncomfortably caught off guard so i deleted that post and lost motivation to draw at all. i just want to remind i am A REALLY young minor, and i don't want anyone to make weird jokes about me or my art, please be respectful to me and other people in general. Also sometimes i take jokes way too seriously so be careful with your words 💀

Tho last time i posted shippy art on insta no one really said it was cursed. Quite the opposite. But I'm still not sure.. I'll be more active here for a while anyway.

what kind of shit will cas post?

ᡣ𐭩 horror-related media, this could include ; blood, gore, and potentially disturbing content

ᡣ𐭩 essays about random things

ᡣ𐭩 headcanons and stuff like that

ᡣ𐭩 silly posts

boundaries

ᡣ𐭩 no mentions of alcoholism, please. that’s.. literally all i ask

ᡣ𐭩 other than that, no boundaries. js dont be weird

info

ᡣ𐭩 i am a minor, 16, to be exact, but idm nsfw. that is my primary form of humour

ᡣ𐭩 DO NOT be like 18+ n be sexual with me, though. that is.. weird

ᡣ𐭩 im czech

ᡣ𐭩 im emo lol

ᡣ𐭩 i cosplay

ᡣ𐭩 they / it prns only, please

ᡣ𐭩 !! i am socially awk, it will take me a while to open up

Chappell Roan not playing about her boundaries and personal safety and putting her foot down and yelling "shut the fuck up" at rude paparazzi during the VMAs red carpet is healing something in me truly. That is a lesbian woman refusing to act all grateful and bashful at being allowed space, she is owning the space for which she has worked over a decade and assertively setting her boundaries and giving zero fucks about whose ego she bruises on the way because only people who take advantage of you take offense when you set boundaries and I am enjoying every second of it

The Mosquito's Sting: A Tale of Boundaries Challenged

Once upon a time, in an enchanted kingdom, there was a mosquito that carried West Nile fever. This mosquito bit a wealthy man and a poor one, a Jew and an Arab, a white person and a black person, women and men, heterosexual cisgender and LGBTQ+ individuals. The story tells how people created protective barriers and divisions between themselves, but nature, in the form of the mosquito, pierced through these barriers and showed how easily something from each of them could seep into the other, revealing how arbitrary and temporary all these defenses and boundaries truly were.

The king of the kingdom ordered the mosquito to be locked in a golden cage and asked the wisest person in the kingdom, a little girl who understood the language of all animals, to talk to the mosquito. The girl listened to the mosquito's story and told the king the moral lesson that the mosquito had taught. Instead of punishing the mosquito, they made it an important minister in the kingdom. The royal physician healed the mosquito, and the kingdom's scientists transformed it into a beautiful prince.

The prince married the girl when she became old enough. She was the only one who saw the wisdom in the simple mosquito that had only come to sting. To everyone's surprise, as they did not know enough about science, it turned out that the mosquito was actually female. So, the wise girl ended up marrying a mosquito princess who loved to wear princes' clothes. The two of them lived happily ever after, a bit distanced from all other humans who were unwilling to give up the barriers and divisions that separated them.

When the people discovered that the mosquito was female and had married a woman, they wanted to punish her. However, the girl, who was once a wise child, ran away with the mosquito princess to the mountains. There, they lived happily, far from people's eyes and the fears that drove society. They listened to animals, studied life principles with them, trying to deeply understand their languages. Over the years, they published scientific papers that were meant to bring human society closer to their compassionate worldview, which looked broadly at life as one intertwined woven fabric.