Pls Help Dear Ao3 Readers, Im Searching For A Fic! If U Remember The Name Or Author, Please Write Me

Pls help dear Ao3 readers, im searching for a fic! If u remember the name or author, please write me or reblog ;-;

What I can remember:

pairing: Patrochilles

prob. University AU

(Pat joins a new university? and gets introduced to the girls & Achilles, they pine, drama happens, Achilles flirts awkwardly, its cute)

also:

-asexual and/or aromantic Helen as side chara

-Achilles on a boat rowing team (??!?)

-patroclus being his awkward adorable self

-best wingwoman briseis

I dont remember the word count or even if it was finished, but im missing it so much and can't find it anywhere for some reason,

so please help out if u got any idea!!

Many Thanxxx 😭🫶

here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit

some sort of love poem

I just think it's crazy that we argue over who get's to claim which label, basically trying to categorize other peoples (mostly some strangers!) emotions & feelings and asking if they are reeeeaaaalllyyyy shure weather they belong into that specific box or not.

Like. Having not heterosexual feelings and/or not heteroromantoc feelings and/or not feeling cis. is Enough! to be queer and queer = valid. Every kind.

Strangers don't have to accept that for it to be true. Peoples feelings are more complicated and individual than labels.

If a man who calls himself gay has slept with women before, and woudn't mind doing it again, why are we fighting over maybe calling him pan or bi.

Like, we don't know what being gay means for him. Mostly Sexual & Romantic Attraction, maybe. But some people can in fact sleep with people they are not attracted to (sex positive / neutral asexuals ase best example. They can still enjoy sex.)

History has records of man presumed to be gay having children! -.- Not all of them have been bi or pan, some sure but not all.

Some people in Queer Platonic Releationships Sleep with each other.

Some friends do so to.

There are many reasons to have sex. Not all are Sexual attraction.

(Please remember, Sexual Attraction is not equal to one persons willingniss to participate in such actions)

(This also doesn't mean that anyone has to sleep with a person they don't want to sleep with. Ever.)

(Not every person may not mind sleeping with a person not of their prefered gender. (Sex negative asexuals, as example.

But please, internet, consider people being people who are full of history, emotions and values, and their reasons for doing what they do are diverse and most importantly NONE OF OUR BUISNESS, no matter how entiteled to their whole life's story we feel becourse they share the same rainbow flag in their bio.

So please, shut the fuck up, queer label police.

If anything in this post seems hurtful or confusing, please don't hesitate to ask/make me aware of it.

More favourite tropes:

“Unfortunately, [thing that would ordinarily be described in much stronger terms than ‘unfortunate’].”  

“Fortunately, [thing that is in no way fortunate].”  

“Unfortunately, [thing that would be fortunate in nearly any circumstance except the particular circumstance at hand].“  

“Fortunately, [very minor benefit that absolutely does not offset the considerable drawbacks of whatever just happened].“  

“Unfortunately, [the exact, word-for-word thing that somebody just expressed that they hope won’t happen].“  

“Fortunately, [complete non sequitur].”

Guess who just got into the 'Epic' musical series without any prior knowledge about it two days before a new part droppend. I swear ( i dont, actually) i am favoured by someone out there.