Heyyy, Reblogging With A Note: Pls Be Aware That 16personalities.com Is Based On The Big 5/OCEAN Model,

heyyy, reblogging with a note: pls be aware that 16personalities.com is based on the big 5/OCEAN model, rather than what MBTI was originally - based on Jungian personality typing. Enneagram may be helpful to you too as it's more about nurture (rather than nature, which MBTI is attempting to dissesct) and ways we respond to fears, and how we can grow as individuals

Personality typing like MBTI, OCEAN and enneagram is pseudo-science, but can still be helpful :)

I had to look up what infj-a was, but when I read it, I felt seen. It’s kind of scary the way it picks apart my personality and how much injustice really makes me upset. I’m an academic as well, and an artist, so a lot of that makes sense.

I'm glad you felt seen! Welcome to the rarest of personality groups. It's a bit of a blessing and a curse, imho.

For most of my life, I've wondered, "Am I the only one who feels/sees/experiences/thinks this way?" As I've gotten older and have interacted with more people, I realize that most people don't quite experience or think about things the way I do. I feel intensely and think deeply, and I wish I could turn it all off some days.....but I can't. I JUST FEEL SO DAMN MUCH. At times, it consumes me and it's something I am constantly working on.

So the next best thing has been for me to explore behaviors, personality traits, psychosocial influences, etc. to better understand what shapes us. And that's where the INFJ-A typing kicked in and resonated with me. I'm well aware that there have been raging debates about the scientific validity of MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator), but anecdotally, I've found the personality typing to be personally helpful. They are more like theories of personalities to me...things you can use to guide and help you structure your thinking.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me! I really enjoy hearing about these things from others!

"I love you , I'm glad we're friends"

Alright there's some things I need to say to some of you all.

If you are questioning whether or not you have DID/OSDD1, please take a breath and sit down for a second.

I see a lot of you post about how you're worried that you're wrong, that you're faking, that you're making it all up. I understand your fear. But it is absolutely not healthy to completely attach yourself to a disorder when you don't actually know if you have it or not.

You have to be prepared to be wrong.

And, it's okay to be wrong.

Honestly, it's a good thing if it's not DID.

But I understand that you think you know, and I'm not saying that you're wrong. What I'm saying is that you need to be okay with being wrong.

If the idea of being told you don't have DID scares you, I want you to think about why it scares you.

Does it scare you because you don't want to be told you're wrong, or that you maybe don't know as much about your brain as you thought you did?

Does it scare you because you don't know what else could be causing your distress?

Does it scare you to be back to the drawing board in terms of your symptoms?

Or does it scare you because you've attached yourself to this community, to this disorder, to this label?

Please, focus on what you are feeling. Your symptoms, your distress, your trauma if you can. Focus on how to heal.

Don't focus on the diagnostic label. The label is not as important as your healing is. And when you do get to talk to a therapist or psychiatrist, tell them the truth. Tell them about your symptoms and your history. They can help you figure these things out. That's what they are there for.

And if it will be a while before you can, take care of yourself. Honestly, I'd recommend limiting online interactions with the DID community for a variety of reasons. But if you do continue to be active in it: think critically, be open to discussion, and be open to being wrong.

No one should hate you for realizing you are wrong.

Understanding that feelings aren't facts and respecting your own, and others feelings can and should coexist :')

Reblogging our own post with The Thoughts that Amber didn't add!

My response: NOOO!!!! Sorry y'all I literally hate system spaces: it's nice to be treated as an individual ... And there are some spaces that are safe but not..all of them..

but here are some things I've noticed

Misinformation. IN SPADES. Or where the information is correct it's presented in such a way that makes parts feel sad or invalid (look, my old therapist did that enough, I don't need it from safe spaces too!?)

How we're expected to always be happy... I get it we wanna be positive but I literally got kicked out of a system server for saying I was feeling sick because I was "being negative".. sorry lol, as a disabled system... I'd hate to show you my actual day to day experiences and memories, sorryyyy! Or... We're expected to be depressed all the time or we're not believed

Adding to ^; all or nothing views: servers remaining 0 negativity or being full on vent servers where people are giving full on descriptions of their trauma.. same thing with syscourse, you have to be black or white and having s more complicated view gets u hate

how so many systems disrespect people who choose to integrate having no idea their history or how their system functions :(

expectatioms around system experiences: have to be textbook perfect to be respected ;-; or more accurately: community perfect (especially around introjects and high alter counts)

The expectation to give your systems information out...and then when you do, get shat on for things you can't control. I don't appear like a normal human in our inner world and various people said I was just roleplaying because I have puppy ears.. I'm sorry my brain always gives non human traits to represent our experiences, personalities and trauma!!??!! that's just??! A thing?? I can't? Get rid of them? They're in my sense of self?? Sorry???? That's just??? How my brain deals??? ;-; this was after we stated we had formally recognised DID too ;-;

fakeclaiming .. and on the other hand, having self diagnosed systems who have done.. like, one google search and decided it would be cool to have DID but don't do any further research

the constant threat of anything you say being posted to r/systemscringe, they don't give a flying shout whether you're traumatised, diagnosed, faking it etc, no one's safe from that reddit and i genuinely hate it sm

how little people seem to care about non introjected alters...i know heaps of us who are sitting here like 'im not your favourite character but im cool too, promise!!! pls talk to me, im lonely'

homophobia, racism, ableism etc

tw // how often grooming, and SA occurs.. systems are vulnerable people and.. unfortunately.. I've had one too many system spaces end with someone pushing me beyond my safe points and I know I'm not alone in that

Trauma Olympics; need I say more?

How it always has to be about your experience as a system? Can't I just be hanging out with a bunch of systems but be talking abt anything but the disorder that ruined our lives?

death threats and disrespect 👍

syscourse (sorry)

The lack of adult only spaces.. yeah, sorry. don't like being in system spaces with under 18s v much bc of various reasons.. mostly my ocd goes insane and I can't interact without having a panic attack ;-;

Still feeling like we need to put a singlet mask on even when we're talking to systems..yeah.. that's an us issue

anyway I... could go on for hours.. um.. gonna leave it here. but yea..system spaces aren't perfect by any stretch ;-;

these are just my observations pls don't send anyone in my system hate, we're rly fatigued and sick and im not thinking too well, it's been a long few months 😭😭😭

[fully stealing this off @okiimii with permission bc I'm curious about my demographics response]

Reblog for reach if you wish :)