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Meghan Markle

Going in depth on her femininity and high level traits. I recently read a biography and did some research on our good sis. She is feminine icon. She’s well known for marring royalty, but I want to touch base on the key elements she had that helped her BEFORE she met the Prince. All of the things mentioned below were events and characteristics she had BEFORE him.

Private School - though her parents weren’t together (separated when she was young) or filthy rich they knew the importance of a good education. Unlike her other half siblings, she was put in private school all of her life. Why does this matter? A lot of high value individuals come from a private school backgrounds. The connections and social skills you gain at these type of schools are priceless and set you up for future success.

Empathetic - since she was a child, she’s been empathetic toward others (huge femine trait). A fellow classmate who was bullied recalls Meghan being sweet to her and always listening to her problems. At a young age, she would volunteer at soup kitchens, and talk to the homeless there, and learn their names. Even fans and celebrities who interacted with her recall her as being empathetic and putting other people’s needs before her own. This could explain why she got into Humanitarian work (which we will discuss later).

Alluring and well liked persona - from childhood peers, teachers, to old employees they all described Meghan as someone who was memorable and well liked. She wasn’t considered an “it girl” growing up but she was well liked because of her sweet and down to earth personality. She was even crowned “Homecoming Queen”. In college, the sorority she was in welcomed her in easily and greatly. Unlike most situations we hear about when girls have to work or get hazed to fit into sorieties and groups in college. This proves you don’t need to be an “IG baddie” or “it girl” to get ahead. Meghan had that “girl next door” vibe that everyone was intrigued with.

“She is really soft and gentle. She is friendly and very warm and engaging. It didn’t feel like I was speaking to someone from one of the biggest shows on TV. It was like talking to a regular girl.”

Leadership - she always took on leadership roles. She took on being President at clubs throughout high school. In college, was elected sorority’s recruitment chair. Some may say it’s masculine to take charge🙄. Even if that’s true, it’s necessary if you want to get ahead in life and in your career. There’s nothing wrong with stepping up and taking on a leadership role.

Personal brand - Meghan knew the importance or protecting her personal brand. People that knew her described her as poised, articulate, charismatic, and sophisticated. Seriously, I lost count of how many times she was referred to as “sophisticated”. It’s because she knew the importance of her appearance. She made slight adjustments to perfect her appearance by getting her gap closed. She also had a “vision” for her look once she became an adolescent. She was never heard to swear or talk down on other women. This isn’t to say she never done it, but she was careful who she did it around.

“looked every inch the Hollywood superstar—very slim, very leggy, very elegant, and impossibly glamorous.” Or as the landlord put it, “a stunner.”

“They were mesmerized by one another, Harry enthralled by her beauty, sophistication, and perceptiveness.”

Charity and Philanthropy Work - Just like Prince Harry’s mother, Meghan is big on humanitarian, charity and philanthropic work. When she was young, she volunteered at soup kitchens in LA. She actually spoke to the homeless, listened to their stories, and remembered their names. In college, she participated in one of the biggest student run charities in America. This could be because she’s so empathetic and likes to connect with people. Being so thoughtful and giving is a huge feminine trait. This is a trait we often hear in wealthy individuals but she had this well before she was one.

Family connections - her dad was a light and photography director in Hollywood. This not only exposed her to Hollywood at a young age but provided a few connections. She also had an uncle that worked for the CIA. She used his connections to land an internship abroad with the State Department. Many of us may not have access to well connected family members, but we can utilize whatever connections we have as a way to level up in life.

Well traveled - Her passport is stamped honey! From Jamaica, Buenos Aires, New Zealand, Marlborough, Vietnam, Spain, Italy, to Malta. Our girl was traveling well before she had a Dutchess in front of her name. This could be because her mother was a travel agent and tried to expose Meghan to vacations whenever she could. Meghan’s first husband, Trevor Engelson, help funded a few of her luxury trips abroad. He was a pretty successful film producer and the couple took trips together for weeks at a time. When trying to level up, even if you don’t have a fancy degree you can get ahead by being well traveled and cultured.

Risk Taker - After high school, she moved from LA to Chicago for college, where she doubled majored in theater and international politics. After that, she took an internship abroad to Buenos Aires on her own. She was very independent and took risks if it meant furthering her education and career. A lot of times we can be scared to move past our comfort zone. But, if we want to excel we need to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Work Ethic - weather it was her first job or her internship abroad at the State Department her managers and senior partners described her as a hard and good worker. Even while she was working as an inspiring actress, she worked her ass off. She attended numerous auditions and failed many times for eight years before getting her big role in Suits. She went from a struggling actress to staring in Suits, which was one of the highest rated shows in America. After her status of an actress grew, she built a popular lifestyle blog, Tig, which became a huge success. Her blog was even named “Best of the Web” in Elle Magazine and InStyle

“In between the glitz and the glamour her advocacy for UN Women continued, undertaking further meetings at the World Bank and the Clinton Foundation and learning more about the facts and figures of gender bias in the developing world and, for that matter, her own country.”

Picture Ready - even though she’s off social media now, it wasn’t always like that. In the past, she was a huge social media content creator. But not like the girls that post thirst traps or flat tummy tea all day. She was the type of girl that took photos abroad, sipping wine, or making her green juice. It was noted that while her peers and most women her age were taking silly, funny filtered photos she posed sweetly and if a drink was ever in her hand, it was champagne or wine.

Wellness - she‘s known for being a foodie. It’s true that she loves quality cuisine and trying new dishes, but her peers and husband know her for her healthy eating habits, green juices, jogging and yoga. Her amazing body and good skin isn’t by accident. It’s because she’s really intentional.

“which meant the actor was able to go jogging—mobile meditation, as she calls it—around the park or stroll on Kensington High Street to go shopping.”

“she dramatically changed the contents of his fridge. Meghan never leaves home unless she has hummus, carrots, green juice, almonds, and chia seed pudding in the fridge.”

Mystic - She’s the queen of mystery. We only know what she wants us to know or when her PR team sends out a statement. Even when she did have social media, she posted a lot but nothing too personal or revealing. No one even knew her and Harry were dating (except close friends) until they were months in their relationship. Years before that, she ran an anonymous actress related blog for a while. She knew how to be known, but not reveal too much about herself.

Leveled up her circle - This was MAJOR trait I noticed while reading about her. As she leveled up, so did her circle. As she grew, so did her level of friends. She began to associate herself with fashion stylists, wives of primes minister, politicians, high profile actresses, and Serena Williams. This was before she was married to Prince Harry by the way. Her friend, Serena Williams, is the reason she created her popular blog, Tig. Once her friends leveled up, so did her experiences. She started being invited to front row at Fashion Week, getting invited to speak at political forums, and major film awards. She even became the face of a well respected candadian fashion brand. Your network is your net worth!

“Not only would she be discussing global issues with young people, but she would be rubbing shoulders with humanitarian celebrities like Mary Robinson, Ireland’s first woman president; Sir Bob Geldof; Nobel Peace Prize winner Kofi Annan; and United Nations Goodwill Ambassador John Chau.”

“Not only was her face going to be on billboards and on TV all over Canada, she was going to influence how women dressed.”

Interesting Person - she wasn’t just a pretty face. She was an actress, fitness enthusiast, talented at calligraphy, a wine connoisseurs, enjoyed politics, well traveled, and could go deep on topics like gender equality and gun control. She could attract and KEEP high level men because she had depth and could hold a conversation. Even after her and Harry first started dating, he tried to schedule trips only to realize she had a busier schedule than him. Between filming, an award winning blog, a fashion brand collaboration, humanitarian work, and political speaking engagements she was a busy and an interesting women. It’s one thing to be attractive, but it’s another to be interesting!

“When they compared schedules before they parted, it was clear that if anything Meghan was the busier of the pair that fall, what with her TV filming commitments, promoting her new fashion collection on behalf of Reitmans, her blog, and humanitarian work. Even before Harry came into her life she was often up until the wee hours scouring the internet for inspiration for The Tig. Now she was going to be stretched even further.”

“As she sipped a dirty martini they chatted about Suits, her background, her days as a briefcase girl, gun control in America, her passion for calligraphy, women’s rights, and her one-time ambition to be a TV presenter”

How to activate your "happiness chemicals"...

DOPAMINE ~ the reward chemical

Complete a task

Doing self care acitivites

Eating some food

Celebrating your little wins.

OXYTOCIN ~ the love hormones

Playing with a dog

Playing with a baby

Holding hands

Hugging someone

Giving someone else a compliment

SEROTONIN ~ the mood stabiliser

Meditating

Running

Be in the sun

Walk in nature

Swimming

ENDORPHIN ~ the pain relief

Laughing exercises

Essential oils

Eating dark chocolate

Running

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4 Benefits of Working in Upscale Areas

“IF YOU WANT TO GO SOMEWHERE, IT IS BEST TO FIND SOMEONE WHO HAS ALREADY BEEN THERE.” — ROBERT KIYOSAKI

WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF REALLY ENJOYING ALL THAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER? FOR ME, I HAVE ALWAYS ENVISIONED MYSELF WELL ACCUSTOMED TO A LIFE OF LUXURY. AT A YOUNG AGE, I REALIZED THAT IN ORDER TO GET TO WHERE THE RICH WERE IN FINANCES, I HAD TO FIRST GO TO WHERE THE WEALTHY WERE PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY.

In December 2019, I was at a dinner party, speaking with a friend of mine about his first time coming to California. As he recounted his first memory of his first job, we both quickly realized that we had something in common. We had both attributed our success in entering the wealthy community to a single trip to Beverly Hills. As I began to tell him about my first time down Rodeo Drive, it occurred to me that we were both sharing stories in a billionaire’s home. It was one of those “full-circle” moments in my life.

This memory prompted me to think about what else I have done to inch my way closer to the wealthy. I started thinking about when I was in college, and how Starbucks was such a big social culture and I quickly remembered how much I hated it. Now, don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against Starbucks, but I was against sitting there for hours with a thousand other students trying to focus on work and being my best self. I decided that it was not worth my energy being there. I figured that finding a more suitable place to work would make me feel more satisfied, and began looking into places around me that fit the ambiance that I was looking for. This is how I found my love for tea rooms, and begin to understand how they became a symbol of independent women.

REASON #1: FOCUS + COMMITMENT.

Research has shown that working inside of a positive office interior, or even a positive outdoor environment, can improve morale in the workplace. I don’t know about you, but this is especially true for me. We all have our different work styles, but you can’t tell me that working in a high-rise with the view of the city doesn’t sound amazing. I remember spending time with my mentor, when I received a request for a last minute coaching session with a client. Little did I know that by taking this call, I would change my life in such an impactful way. During this call, not only Dif my client have an extraordinarily incredible breakthrough, but so did I. As I spoke with her, I was watching myself from another view and just admiring the woman that I had become. I chose to take this call on the balcony of one of his guest suites, and honey it sure felt like I belonged there. That was one of the first moments that I truly believed that I deserved to own a house as beautiful. I felt unstoppable, and I began working even harder. Working in tea rooms offers me the same feedback, just in a different way. I don’t work extremely hard in tea rooms. Instead, I remain focused on my writing and developing my vision.

REASON #2: KINDNESS.

Being around people that are unhurried, and in an environment that is calm and not penetrating, I found that people are more kind and open. Yes, I am sure that if I paid a compliment to a woman in a Starbucks, she would be thankful, but she would likely rush off to work. This doesn’t really happen in the tea rooms. The women that I speak with are likely on their lunch break that they designed, or they are not working that day because they decided not to. These were the women that I wanted to be like, and because I was there, I had the opportunity to learn from them and gain insight. It allowed me to put myself in a state of gratitude and contribution, which is extremely important with manifesting. It also opened those lines of communication.

REASON #3: CONNECTIONS.

I have made some great connections with women and men by frequenting more affluent areas when working, and I have met incredible people through them. I discovered that the more I did this, the more comfortable I became with making connections with everyone and just commanding attention naturally. Thanksgiving of 2018, I decided to check into a hotel to relax and get away. We were still experiencing the fires, and with all of the chaos going home no longer seemed ideal. As soon as I walked inside, an attendant named Richard approached me asking if I needed assistance with my bags. And though I only had one bag, I allowed him to assist me and said “Thank you Richard,” being sure to make eye contact and shared a brief smile of approval. “You know, I just love your shirt,” I said smiling, “where’d you get it?” Thankfully he understood my sense of humor, and he definitely knew I was being charming. He just laughed and followed me to the elevator. After escorting me to my room, he asked if I’d like anything else, and before I could say anything, he asked if I like Champagne. I insisted on having a glass of wine, to which he delivered a bottle and a bowl of strawberries complimentary. When I went downstairs to the bar, the bartender tried to offer me a free drink, to which I told him that Richard had me covered and so instead he offered me free food. Now, of course, it helps to be attractive and charming, but I do believe that it helped that in between I inquired about their lives and family (since it was a holiday). Never underestimate the power of talking to people. The more you do it, the better you become. I definitely had no idea that this vacation would save me hundreds of dollars by getting to know Richard.

REASON #4: CLEAR VISION.

The more I dine at five star restaurants, the more I become accustomed to it. It becomes my reality, and no longer simply a vision. Visualization is a powerful tool when it comes to manifesting, but it means nothing if you can’t associate your vision with the feelings and emotions of having achieved you vision. This is why luxurious atmospheres are a part of my rituals. Prior to COVID, I would be sure to go to a place that represents luxury at least once a week. It helps to paint the picture so clear, that it not only feels real, but it is now a part of my experience that I can use to help me associate with more.

Watch and Learn!

Learning how to thread your eyebrows.

Learning how to tint your eyebrows. 

Learning how to do at home lash extensions. 

Learning how to do your own gel nails.

Learning how to do your own acrylics.

Learning how to wax your body hair.

Learning how to do a full sew in with closure.

Learning how to install your own braids.

Learning how to install a closure wig.

Learning how to exfoliate your own skin.

Learning how to improve your posture.

Learning how to microneedle your skin.

Learning how to edit your Instagram photos. 

Learning how to build a capsule closet.

Learning how to dress snazzily.

Learning how to walk in high heels.

Learning how to choose a perfume. 

Learning how to choose lingerie. 

Learning to improve and work on your femininity.

Learn about interracial dating. 

Learning how to improve the way you speak. 

Learning another language.

Learning about real estate. 

Learning about investing.

Learning how to get a job as a flight attendant.

Learning how to improve your cursive writing.

Learning how to improve your handwriting.

Learning a new makeup style.

Learning a natural makeup look.

Learning to use a claw clip for hairstyles. 

Learning how to curl your hair.

Learning to do a sleek low bun. 

Learning how to straighten your hair.

Learning how to do a Dominican blowout.

Learning how to apply false eyelashes.

Learning how to apply self tanner.

Learning basic sewing.

Learning how to begin Iyengar Yoga.

Learning how to treadmill productively.

Learning to have toned ballet legs.

Learning how to work towards a toned body.

Learning how to make your bum bigger. 

Learning how to understand ballet.

Learning how to understand operatic film.

Learning how to follow a simple ballet.

Learning daily etiquette.

Learning dining etiquette.

Learning how to walk elegantly.

Learning how to emulate Miss Universe. 

Learning about plastic surgery.

Learning how to bartend.

Learning how to open a bottle of champagne.

Learning how to make a cucumber sandwich.

Learning how to make a fresh mimosa.

Learning how to serve tea.

Learning how to tight line your eyes.

Learning how to microblade (NOT AT HOME).

Learning how to choose a designer handbag. 

Learning how to choose designer jewelry.

Learning how to rush a sorority.

Learning about equestrianism.

Learning the basics of skiing. 

Learning how to sail a sailboat.

Learning how to golf.

Learning how to play tennis.

XOXO,

Renata.