I Remember Some Motivational Speaker I Watched Said Something To The Tune Of "If You Feel Like Quitting,

I remember some motivational speaker I watched said something to the tune of "If you feel like quitting, remember what you started for."

And I thought about it a bit, and I think that's good for deciding if you should quit, even if that's not what the dude intended originally.

When you feel like giving up, think back to why you started.

If the reason you started something still aligns with your values today, if the end goal is healthy and would make you happy and fulfilled, don't give up. Take breaks if you need them, but don't throw it all away. Remember that you get better at what you practice, and pushing through difficult patches in a goal or a project will only make you better at pushing through difficult patches.

If the reason you started something no longer aligns with your values today, if the end goal isn't healthy and wouldn't make you happy, if the outcome is not worth the time and effort, then quit. Pursue something else that would make you more fulfilled.

I'm... kinda shocked at how many people are agreeing with this post so easily. It reminds me of the person with with post talking about how they felt a lot better because Tumblr would reassure them of stuff like "it's ok if you didnt brush your teeth today! ❤" without saying "but do it now, don't keep skipping out on it!" and they wound up with a big fat dental bill because they were comforted for making mistakes but not pushed to improve afterwards.

It's a difficult balancing act between pushing yourself to improve and still being forgiving and kind to yourself and taking breaks when you need them, but it's balancing act we must always perform in order to keep growing and creating without overdoing mental stress.

PREACH!

I used to hold myself up even for listening to non-pop music. It's such a strange phenomenon that we've created that to like what is mainstream means you fit in but also means you're not Unique TM in any way

i think people forget that its ok to like some bad music. everyone likes bad music. and not all shallow music is bad. yeah sure maybe this song about partying is just about partying but so what. people at parties probably want good party songs. like if your top song on spotify is one of the latest pop hits theres literally nothing wrong with that. its messed up that people get all high and mighty about listening to weevil and the heebiejeebies or whatever while shitting on some other person for liking mainstream artists.

idk who needs to hear this today, but don't go lurking on ex friends and partners. nothing you see or read will make you feel better there. all you're doing is hurting your own feelings. leave them in the past and do your best to move on with your own life, to make what you have now happier rather than dwelling on things that used to be (:

Not all trans people know they are trans from a young age. This counts for trans men, women, and non-binary people.

Not all trans people have always known, and not all trans people show ‘signs’ of it as a kid, and that’s okay.

You’re not less trans if you did things that were stereotypically associated with your assigned gender. You’re not less trans if you only claimed the label as an adult. You’re not less trans for not/barely experiencing dysphoria, or only experiencing it later in life.

Y'all valid.