I Used To Hold Myself Up Even For Listening To Non-pop Music. It's Such A Strange Phenomenon That We've

I used to hold myself up even for listening to non-pop music. It's such a strange phenomenon that we've created that to like what is mainstream means you fit in but also means you're not Unique TM in any way

i think people forget that its ok to like some bad music. everyone likes bad music. and not all shallow music is bad. yeah sure maybe this song about partying is just about partying but so what. people at parties probably want good party songs. like if your top song on spotify is one of the latest pop hits theres literally nothing wrong with that. its messed up that people get all high and mighty about listening to weevil and the heebiejeebies or whatever while shitting on some other person for liking mainstream artists.

Choose what feels good and practice that until you own it,

until you ARE it, and every subject must rise to meet you

there - every single one.

🌷

learning from your mistakes...

... isn't easy at all. it takes courage, grit and even some luck to ensure you don't repeat the same mistake again.

remember to forgive yourself, if you're making the same mistake again. have a clear conscience and know that you want to improve. sometimes that improvement may happen instantly while other times it may take a few tries.

do not give up. do not be harsh on yourself. you've got this. you'll learn, albeit a little slowly. that's okay.

learn at your pace. learn to forgive yourself ✨

I remember some motivational speaker I watched said something to the tune of "If you feel like quitting, remember what you started for."

And I thought about it a bit, and I think that's good for deciding if you should quit, even if that's not what the dude intended originally.

When you feel like giving up, think back to why you started.

If the reason you started something still aligns with your values today, if the end goal is healthy and would make you happy and fulfilled, don't give up. Take breaks if you need them, but don't throw it all away. Remember that you get better at what you practice, and pushing through difficult patches in a goal or a project will only make you better at pushing through difficult patches.

If the reason you started something no longer aligns with your values today, if the end goal isn't healthy and wouldn't make you happy, if the outcome is not worth the time and effort, then quit. Pursue something else that would make you more fulfilled.

I'm... kinda shocked at how many people are agreeing with this post so easily. It reminds me of the person with with post talking about how they felt a lot better because Tumblr would reassure them of stuff like "it's ok if you didnt brush your teeth today! ❤" without saying "but do it now, don't keep skipping out on it!" and they wound up with a big fat dental bill because they were comforted for making mistakes but not pushed to improve afterwards.

It's a difficult balancing act between pushing yourself to improve and still being forgiving and kind to yourself and taking breaks when you need them, but it's balancing act we must always perform in order to keep growing and creating without overdoing mental stress.

PREACH!

Affirmations for trauma/difficult past

I have been through hell and back

I am alive and that's a damn good start

My past affects me heavily, but it does not define me

I am compassionate

I am patient

I am kind to myself, even when I don't meet my own expectations

I would never judge somebody for asking for help, because I know what it's like to be helpless

I would never judge myself for asking for help

Support from others helps me to grow and heal

I am strong for seeking support instead of suffering in silence

I am honest and I am smart

I know my own limitations and I can set boundaries for myself

I can tell people "no" when things are getting to be too much for me

I don't owe people my time or my compliance

I follow the road to recovery, even when it's difficult

I follow the road to recovery even when it's uncomfortable

I keep my head up when I walk, because I am strong

I am safe

I love who I am becoming

I love myself in this present moment