Ok So In Response To This Poll That I Made Last Night, Why Is The Entire System At Fault For What One

Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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For me it’s not that I haven’t put in the work or tried to heal. I’ve healed a bit since then. I’ve learned and grown from that mistake personally. It’s just the fact that having to deal with my own actions hurting the others in my system sucks.

I’ve heard “system responsibility” thrown around sometimes. An ex-abuser of ours who was also a system threw it around too, but in more of an “all alters except the host are bad and should never be trusted or allowed to front” kind of way. Like…

Something happened, one of us got front locked (and like the bad kind when you’re the only one in the front) along with our host. And our host admitted to having trust issues with people due to how we as a system have been hurt in the past. This caused a massive fight with other alters who felt hurt by the extreme lack of trust, despite only a small handful of alters making the mistake of doing things that they now know to be wrong in social situations. Abuser took what they said and explained that “alters shouldn’t be trusted. It’s called system responsibility. You have to keep everyone in line. You can never leave the front because no one should be trusted in your system.”

So… could I also get a better definition on what system responsibility is as well?? Because obviously I’m extremely reluctant to accept that definition our abuser had given us of “no alter can be trusted and no one should ever be in the front alone.”

And if that is the definition after all then I am so sorry to Blue and Ghost…

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Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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Yeah. That helps a lot actually! Thank you so much! :)

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Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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Source: This

Ok… kinda tangent from this post I made a few minutes ago:

We got a tattoo recently. And… it’s helped me a lot all of a sudden. This tattoo. Right here.

A semicolon with a heart. Blue’s attempt to remind us all that we are loved, and that we should never give up. Gotten in an attempt to give our system inspiration to work through each day.

So… knowing that we’re all loved and can lean on each other in this system does help a bit…

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WAIT I GOT ANOTHER IDEA!

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This shot really has meme template potential