To Your Most Recent Post, It Sucks To Say But I Think Ppl Think That The Whole System Is Accountable

to your most recent post, it sucks to say but i think ppl think that the whole system is accountable because non-systems think that systems aren’t actually multiple people :( i don’t think system members should have to be responsible for one person’s actions, but it would be extremely hard for singlets to understand that

That makes sense. It does suck though, especially since my headmates have 0 control over my own actions. It just boggles my mind.

Like… I can understand why someone would block the system for the actions of one alter, since it’s the only way to block that alter really, but to hold the entire system accountable for one person’s actions…

It’s something I really hate about being a system. Especially since if I were my own person outside this system they would say I alone was responsible and should be at fault for my actions.

It really sucks that some of the nicest people I know are marked by this and being held accountable for things they didn’t do…

Thank you for answering! It was really helpful!

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Ok. That makes sense.

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Ok so… in response to this poll that I made last night, why is the entire system at fault for what one alter did?

Because if everyone was their own separate person outside of the system, then the blame would be placed on that one person who fucked up.

You wouldn’t go around blaming their friends, family, and entire social group for what they did, right? Or would you?

Because last I checked, the only person responsible for someone’s actions is themself in the end. You can try to sway them, you can manipulate them, you can convince them, but ultimately they have a final say in their actions.

At least that’s what I’ve been taught.

So please enlighten me on why the entire system is at fault for the actions of one alter? I am just trying to learn why so I can try and better myself and keep all of my headmates from being at fault for my own stupid actions. /gen

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heyhey systems !!

doing a quick poll because as a questioning system i am curious about this..

what do yall think about alters dating eachother? (from the same system)

A collection of funny things involving our headmate (he’s a little don’t you dare harm him) Candy🍬

🍬: Grrr! I am a terror to this system! My source caused irreparable trauma 😈

🩶👻+🍓: Awww! You’re so cute!!

🍬: FEAR ME!!!

🍓: *headpats*

🍬: Thanks Mama 🥰

🩶👻: *minding his own business*

🩶👻: AAAAAH!! A BIRD!!!

🩶👻: Oh wait no it’s just Candy

🍬: :3

🩶👻, jokingly: Polly want a cracker?

🍬: I will end you… 🙂

🐶: Candy, no. You need to go to bed

🍬: FEAR ME MEER MORTAL!! I SHALL DESTROY YOU!!

🧸: Candy listen to Isa

🍬: Ok :3

🐶: How do you do it?

🧸: He crossed me once. He learned not to do it again

*flashback*

🍬: *biting the bird cage* LET ME OUT OF HERE!!

🧸: No.

🍬: WHY????

🧸: You bit me. Now you’re in baby jail

🍬: But I hate baby jail ☹️

🧸: Too bad

🍬: I wanna play gmod… ☹️

🍓: We can’t

🍬: Why?

🍓: We can’t all play together because we all share a body now

🍬: Oh… ☹️

🍓: That and our computer is broken…

🍬: ☹️

🍬: You’re eating it wrong!

🩶👻: Candy, you may be a bird but I can and will punt you

🍬: You’re still eating it wrong

🍬: Bee?

👑🐝: Hm?

🍬: Can I has candy?

👑🐝: Sure! Here you go cutie!

🍓: Please stop indulging him…

Blue I’m outing you to the internet-

Anyway, yeah. Red is complicated tho. Because Blue writes notes for their epiphanies they have in the middle of the night. We have lost so much sleep over those notes sometimes…

Also… the “boring bits” aren’t “boring” in actuality. It’s literally just Blue forgetting how to write and losing any and all motivation in that moment. Not boring. Because when the motivation comes back, the scene is written in a flash. It’s losing the motivation that makes it a “boring bit.”

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^ I found this in a video but don’t know who posted to Tumblr originally

Another poll kinda related to the earlier one that is less specific.

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Important edit:

See fault as who should be held most accountable for the action.

Also, the responses that this has gotten so far have really helped because a lot of this was extremely related to our system’s past trauma from being emotionally abused (being given a bullshit definition of system responsibility, being “held accountable” wasn’t to make amends but to be held at fault and shamed/blamed no matter how much you tried to change and get better, and those internalized beliefs affecting my own view of myself through feeling as if I should feel guilty despite trying everything I could to make amends for what I did)

Thank you to everyone who responded to this already. Your responses have been truly helpful! :)