I Mean, If Were Not Taking About The Obvious Ones Like Yellow Rose By Ros Mo Or Its Only Sex By Car Seat

I mean, if we’re not taking about the obvious ones like Yellow Rose by Ros Mo or It’s Only Sex by Car Seat Headrest or We’ll Never Have Sex by Leith Ross… In terms of songs,

Crush Culture by Conan Gray

Ep 5: Hating Stuff by Ian McConnell

Headphones On by Miranda Cosgrove

Recess by Melanie Martinez

Renegades by X Ambassadors

Sweet Bod by Lemon Demon

Highway to Hell by AC/DC

And in terms of lyrics, let me see….

“The child in the basement, face to the pavement, oh what a statement, love is embracement, love is a constant, love is embracement” from Enemy by Imagine Dragons

“I don’t really care about / if you love me, if you hate me” from What the Hell by Avril Lavigne

“He don’t love me but that’s okay / Cause I love myself anyway” from I’m a Mess by Bebe Rexha

“Alone at a table for two, and I just wanna be served” from Death of a Bachelor by P!ATD

“We’re happy, free, confused, and lonely in the best way” from 22 by Taylor Swift

Yea, that’s pretty much the gist of it. There’s more—I’ve curated my playlists to be more less romance-focused than mainstream by now— but I can’t go through and find them all right now, and I’ve already exposed myself enough with this list, so… happy to contribute!

Songs and lyrics that are very aro/ace-spec coded either in or out of context:

“Oh, my, love is a lie” - Hits Different by Taylor Swift

“I know that it might sound jaded, but I have to say; I think love is overrated, but I don’t like throwing it away” - Crash and Burn by Thomas Rhett

“Please, I've been on my knees; Change the prophecy; Don't want money, just someone who wants my company” - The Prophecy by Taylor Swift

The Bolter by Taylor Swift

Good Enough for Now by Weird Al

champagne problems by Taylor Swift

“Surreal, I'm damned if I do give a damn what people say; No deal, the 1950s shit they want from me” - Lavender Haze by Taylor Swift

It’s Nice to Have a Friend by Taylor Swift

You Give Love a Bad Name by Bon Jovi

One Way or Another by Blondie

Some of these I can give a concrete reason why it feels aspec coded. Some of them I can't.

Feel free to add!

its why he's called that it's because hes always thinking 😔

Okay it's official. I'm aroace. I still want to date and have sex but not romantically or sexually. If that makes sense. I want to be in love but not in love love if that makes sense. I want to make love but not make love love if that makes sense.

I hate it when you’re reading smut and you can’t figure out what position they’re in.

that comment about how you should not borrow grief from the future has saved me multiple times from spiraling into an inescapable state of anxiety. like every time i find myself thinking about how something in the future could go wrong i remember that comment and i think to myself: well i never know, it might get better. it might not even happen the way i think it will and if it does happen and it is sad and bad ill be sad about it then, when it happens. and it’s somehow soo freeing

I feel like when reading we get more of the emotional context, often from all involved parties. Visually, all we see is the physical/carnal parts and whatever tone can be communicated through environment and expressiveness, which is often left behind in favor of shock value / sex appeal anyways. In reading, a 1st person or 3rd omniscient experience can tell us what one or multiple involved parties are thinking during/before/about the encounter, prioritizing the emotional intimacy and deeper connective meaning of the moment over the tangible aspects.

Does that? Make sense? At all? Someone help.

Asexual people, does anybody else feel very uncomfortable watching sexual scenes (on tv series, movies etc) but reading them doesn't feel as bad?

Yes I feel like this too

No I don't feel like this

Not asexual/results button