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Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess

Lgbtq headcanons for the rest of the renegades cast?

*Takes a deep breath in*

Sketch's team

Nova: Bisexual, Demigirl (She/they)

Adrian: Omnisexual (Fem lean) (He/him)

Oscar: Bisexual (He/they)

Ruby: Transfemme (She/her)

Danna: Lesbian, Asexual (She/her)

Anarchists

Ingrid: Lesbian, Aromantic (She/her)

Honey: Straight ally (Ik this is suposed to be LGBT headcanons, but I can't see her any other way. I like the lesbian heacanon for her tho) (She/her)

Leroy: Transmasc, Asexual (He/they)

Phobia: Aroace, Agender (They/it)

Ace: Aroace (He/him)

Winston: Pansexual, Gender Fluid (Any pronouns, but prefers neopronouns)

Renegade council

Hugh: Gay (He/him)

Simon: Gay (He/they)

Tamaya: Lesbian (She/her)

Kasumi: Straight ally (She/her)

Evander: Pansexual (He/they)

Others

Stupid ice bitch: Demiromantic, Lesbian (She/her)

Callum: Transmasc, Pansexual (He/him)

Narcissa: Bisexual or Lesbian, Demisexual (She/her)

Gargoyle: Gay, Asexual (He/it)

Stingray: Bisexual (Strong masc lean), questioning demiboy (He/they)

If I missed any, it's not because I forgot about them, It's cuz either they are children, or I don't know them well enough to put a headcanon for

Put your headcanons in the tags! I will be happy to read them :)

i came out to my mom & she said i “invented” aromanticism and asexuality

so for all the aroaces out there you’re welcome 😔🙏

i’m out here doing gods work

I do that myself, lol.

However, that does not mean I personally, don't ship arospec characters. Reason being? I have a demi-ace OC whose identity is heavily based in my own who I ship with another OC of mine who is a token straight, lol.

This only goes for this, however, as aro-ace characters (canon or otherwise) I tend to hit with the "qpr beam" if there is a qpr ship take I am fond of.

And I know people can be aplatonic (even if i learned about it only a few days ago), but I don't know enough on aplatonic people to really have any aplatonic headcanons for characters and they don't get enough love or representation anywhere (which really sucks), nor have I ever met someone who was aplatonic in-person, so I don't know how that looks (and thus if I just looked it up it would probably be inaccurate for a lot of you), which is why I didn't say anything on them.

oops i accidentally queerplatonicafied your ship and aspeced your character again

I mean, if we’re not taking about the obvious ones like Yellow Rose by Ros Mo or It’s Only Sex by Car Seat Headrest or We’ll Never Have Sex by Leith Ross… In terms of songs,

Crush Culture by Conan Gray

Ep 5: Hating Stuff by Ian McConnell

Headphones On by Miranda Cosgrove

Recess by Melanie Martinez

Renegades by X Ambassadors

Sweet Bod by Lemon Demon

Highway to Hell by AC/DC

And in terms of lyrics, let me see….

“The child in the basement, face to the pavement, oh what a statement, love is embracement, love is a constant, love is embracement” from Enemy by Imagine Dragons

“I don’t really care about / if you love me, if you hate me” from What the Hell by Avril Lavigne

“He don’t love me but that’s okay / Cause I love myself anyway” from I’m a Mess by Bebe Rexha

“Alone at a table for two, and I just wanna be served” from Death of a Bachelor by P!ATD

“We’re happy, free, confused, and lonely in the best way” from 22 by Taylor Swift

Yea, that’s pretty much the gist of it. There’s more—I’ve curated my playlists to be more less romance-focused than mainstream by now— but I can’t go through and find them all right now, and I’ve already exposed myself enough with this list, so… happy to contribute!

Songs and lyrics that are very aro/ace-spec coded either in or out of context:

“Oh, my, love is a lie” - Hits Different by Taylor Swift

“I know that it might sound jaded, but I have to say; I think love is overrated, but I don’t like throwing it away” - Crash and Burn by Thomas Rhett

“Please, I've been on my knees; Change the prophecy; Don't want money, just someone who wants my company” - The Prophecy by Taylor Swift

The Bolter by Taylor Swift

Good Enough for Now by Weird Al

champagne problems by Taylor Swift

“Surreal, I'm damned if I do give a damn what people say; No deal, the 1950s shit they want from me” - Lavender Haze by Taylor Swift

It’s Nice to Have a Friend by Taylor Swift

You Give Love a Bad Name by Bon Jovi

One Way or Another by Blondie

Some of these I can give a concrete reason why it feels aspec coded. Some of them I can't.

Feel free to add!

I feel like when reading we get more of the emotional context, often from all involved parties. Visually, all we see is the physical/carnal parts and whatever tone can be communicated through environment and expressiveness, which is often left behind in favor of shock value / sex appeal anyways. In reading, a 1st person or 3rd omniscient experience can tell us what one or multiple involved parties are thinking during/before/about the encounter, prioritizing the emotional intimacy and deeper connective meaning of the moment over the tangible aspects.

Does that? Make sense? At all? Someone help.

Asexual people, does anybody else feel very uncomfortable watching sexual scenes (on tv series, movies etc) but reading them doesn't feel as bad?

Yes I feel like this too

No I don't feel like this

Not asexual/results button

Aroace culture is tryna figure out what my orientation is and thinking I’m probably polyamorous bc I don’t understand why someone wouldn’t be, and telling that to my mom and she goes “I just don’t understand. I could never.” And being like??? Why??

aro culture is being confused about the concept of cheating. oh she was dating someone else at the same time? simple decision; ask her second boyfriend on a date. +1 boyfriend. easy. my friends have stopped asking me for love advice

it's about honesty, trust, and boundaries. largely, most folks assume that when you agree to date, you are agreeing to a social contract in which you date one individual only at a time. It's a boundary.

And then if they don't tell you about another person, how are you supposed to trust them in an intimate relationship where the future expectation often involves marriage (legally, this often means joint finances, joint housing, joint bills, etc etc etc) and possibly children. Those are huge commitments to make with someone who isn't honest about their boundaries with you on a level where it's pretty obvious you're expected, in most major cultures, to disclose if you're looking into the idea even of polyamory.

Broadly, though, all relationship advice boils down to the same things: communicate or break up. If you cannot communicate, you cannot sustain a healthy relationship. If you cannot communicate, you cannot set healthy boundaries, you cannot make important decisions, and frankly, both you and the other individual(s) suffer for it. This usually means: "I feel xyz when you abc", both for positive and negative experiences. If you want more of it, say that - if you want less, say that. If this didn't change the behavior, you might need to move to setting up boundaries. These need to be actionable on your end and you must follow through, or you are not creating a boundary. A boundary is not "Stop doing this." A boundary is "If you continue to do this, I will respond like this." Ie, "If you spend a large amount of our money without first discussing with me, I will move to a separate financial account and you will not have access to it. I cannot be held responsible for your actions." And in turn - if you're asked to change your behaviors, you can get a lot further by communicating what you're doing.

Just some thoughts, basically.

Aroace positivity to outnumber the bots in our tags:

1. First of all, you are valid. Aroace, aroallo, and amatoace people are all inherently LGBTQ+ enough. It’s stupid to say otherwise. The queer community is (generally, and I’m v sorry if I miss anyone here,) for anyone who experiences attraction or gender differently from the current default social norm of cishet. Experiencing it not at all is plenty different enough.

2. This stuff is SO CONFUSING. It’s OKAY if you don’t understand your own feelings. Feelings are WEIRD. I’ve felt what I can only describe as strong queerplatonic attraction 3 times in my life, and in hindsight I can even identify my “type,” but I’m 20 so 3 isn’t very many and also I was equally happy dating them and not dating them.

2.5. (Story) I recently told my dad that my roomie and I are planning to still live together after college, and his response was “so you guys are officially a couple now?” ?????bro WHY would I do that? WHAT part of “living together” necessitates DATING?? That sounds STRESSFUL! Which brings me to,

3. AmatoAllos are going to struggle to understand. This is normal, fine, and not your fault. They can’t conceive of someone not experiencing sensations that are such a notable part of their lives. Be patient and don’t try to force them to get something they just don’t get, but also, that struggle is NOT an excuse to treat you poorly, NOT an excuse to try to push you into dating or copulating when you don’t want to, and NOT an excuse to not listen to you or to invalidate your experiences.

In summary: You’re not wrong, you’re not broken, you’re just different. Different is a neutral trait. If I could choose to stop being aroace right now? I genuinely don’t know what I’d do. Sure, sounds easier to fit into society, and I’d like to stop stressing about what my life will look like without that expected piece, but if I’m all distracted by crushes and wet dreams, how am I ever going to take over the world?! Also the ace and aro communities are some of the kindest and most accepting and more comforting I’ve ever seen, so I wouldn’t wanna give that up. I love myself exactly the way I am.

Love yourself the way you are. I know it can be hard sometimes, but we have to try. Eventually, you get used to loving yourself and it becomes second nature, or a habit at the very least.

I rambled a lot here and it ended up long and wacky, but I’m not sorry because ADHD is part of who I am and I love who I am so. Deal with it. But yea the point is no bots can get in the way of our powerful community and we’re going to eat cake and garlic bread and take over the world.

Y’all ever look at a really attractive person and get that Angled Aroace feeling of “I can’t tell if I want kiss/hug you or be you”?

No? Just me?

Okay.

been doing all sorts of contemplating about being ace recently. not entirely sure why. i know i am 100% ace. it's been really interesting to reflect and see that i'm probably somewhere on the arospec, too. idk where exactly, still figuring that out if i'm gonna bother with that at all but just. it's been an interesting month, that's for sure.

like my sister (the ace one) has offered her and her bf to go on double dates with me when i do start dating. and for some reason the idea of that is just terrifying. idk if it's just because i've never been on a date orrrrr if it's just my social anxiety or because i do want romance but i don't really feel like i could just go on a date with a random stranger. like what. complicated feelings and overthinking galore

but knowing im arospec does give some comfort. it helps me understand myself better. it'll help me navigate going back to college for the first time in 2 years more. just. more ranting, thanks for reading this if you did at all

Not me realizing my love of the friends to lovers trope is because I'm arospec ace

Today is a good day to headcanon Kix as aspec

struggling to accept myself so I drew myself with the cupioromantic colours with aegosexual and gay pins (with lineart)

feeling rlly low and unmotivated today, so here’s every doodle of Aider I did today during my lunch and spare

Last pic is another request

My take on the aspec flag!

[PT: My take on the aspec flag! /End PT]

[ID: A flag with 6 horizontal stripes, divided in four sections by a white compass rose in the middle of the flag. Each section has 3 stripes that form a gradient that gets darker towards the middle of the flag. Clockwise, the sections are in red, green, blue, and purple hues. /End ID]

The 'main' aspec flag only includes the ace and aro spectrums, and I didn't find any inclusive flag I liked, so I made my own. This flag focuses on the diversity of the a-spectrum.

Symbolism:

None of the colors have meaning on their own. The dark purple and dark green are taken from the most used flag, just a little fun fact.

The colors are separated in different sections because the a-spectrum is vast and individuals within it can have wildly different experiences while still being under the same umbrella.

But they're also grouped in gradients, because multiple different 'colors', or individuals, can still belong in the same space and have similar experiences!

The white compass rose is a tribute to the most used flag; it still represents how different individuals feel or don't feel attraction.

However, I also kept it white because for some, white is the absence of hue or saturation, representing a lack of attraction, and for others, it's what you get when you combine every color, representing wholeness even without 'traditional' colors.

Being an aroacespec polyamorous being is... strange

Especially since I'm an alter in an osdd-1b system

That's stranger

I'm stranger

Spreading because us too!!!!

Me who HCs Telemachus as Aro/Ace

ITS SO PRETTY