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“Why do people like a character who’s committed war crimes but hate this other character just because they’re annoying” because it’s fiction Susan, and being annoying in fiction is a greater sin than being a supervillain, because it won’t make me want to read about them. It isn’t difficult to understand

THE MISCONCEPTION ABOUT COMMENTING ON FIC

I’ve read all kinds of posts both from writers and readers lamenting about comments on fic. Authors are upset when they don’t get any, readers don’t know what kinds of comments to leave, etc. And it finally clicked in my brain why I think a lot of people don’t bother writing comments. 

And this is what it boils down to:

Writers do not want praise.  We just want to talk about our story. 

I can’t speak for everyone obviously - but I think the majority of writers don’t care so much for the “omg you’re a brilliant writer!!” comments as much as we just want to hear your thoughts on the story. Even if it’s just your thoughts as you’re reading of “oooh x happened! I can’t believe y said this! What’s going to happen now that z has happened?!” We literally just want to talk about what we’ve written like you would with a friend about a tv show. We’re not out here demanding praise like some entitled narcissist. 

While praising our writing skills or writing style is appreciated, it doesn’t need to be said on every fic and every chapter that you read. If you regularly comment on someone’s work that’s telling enough that you like our technique. Readers shouldn’t feel pressured to have to praise a writer’s abilities every time they want to comment. 

In the grand scheme of things, talking about the fic/chapter is actually more helpful to us writers instead of spewing praise. It’s the same with artwork. As nice as it is that people tell me “wow your art is so pretty!” it’s a LOT more useful to me to get comments like “I love their expressions!” or “the lighting on this is gorgeous!” because then I know WHAT people are liking about it. If no one ever comments on my backgrounds, I now know what to improve. If most people comment on liking the expressions, I now know the strong points of my art and can use it to my advantage to make even better art in the future. 

The same goes for fic. If multiple people tell me they liked a certain part of the story I now know that things similar to that are a hit. It’s feedback I can use to improve the story and give my readers more of what they want. Without that I have no idea what they like about the fic.

Talking with a writer about their story also gives them inspiration!! Nothing gets us more in the mood to work on a fic than to have people wanting to talk about it. A lot of times just talking about one of my fics with someone will give me that push to continue working on it. Getting a comment that just says “great chapter” or “you’re a great writer” doesn’t do much to motivate us to continue that particular fic. But if you talk about the story and the characters it gives us motivation to continue working on it, may even give us ideas for future chapters. I would hope that those of you with “comment anxiety” find this approach so much easier than trying to praise the writer every time you read.

So that fic the author hasn’t updated in forever that you’re dying to read? Talk to them about the fic and the elements of the story! It will make the writer want to talk to you about it and will get their mind thinking about it, hopefully inspiring them to continue where they left off. Fics that are left in silence are more likely to be abandoned or even deleted because nothing feels worse than putting your heart into a story to have no one say anything about it. 

TLDR; Writers do not want praise, we just want to talk with our readers about the story itself, and these are the kinds of comments that inspire us to keep writing more. 

No author is entitled to comments, to interaction, to reblogs or likes or reviews or anything, but in a community where you’re essentially a bunch of indie writers, that’s the lifeblood that keeps people *posting*. Writing doesn’t necessarily stop, but when someone feels like no one gives a shit whether you’re sharing or not, you quit sharing.

I think it'd be fun if one of these days when the evil overlord type is like "I Need A Queen. To Rule With" one of the little henchmen is just like "um 😳 if I may, sir, I would like to volunteer 👉👈" and overlord is just like. Okay sure you're cute aha

I found the cutest picrew!! I figured I’d share it with you guys!❤️

HERE’S THE LINK

I’m tagging @n0wornever @cordeliascrown @alexpjoyner and @jaskiers-sweetkiss but anyone who wants to do it is welcome to!💖

low empathy in autism is often misunderstood. i want to explain it with some examples here to hopefully help you understand how it can affect people (this is how it affects me)

low empathy actually looks like: i don’t understand that what’s fun for me might not be fun for you. i might think i’m sharing Good Feelings with you by telling you about something i love or making you play my favorite game with me, and not realize that you’re not enjoying it because i have a hard time distinguishing that people interpret and enjoy things differently. i might be confused or upset when you don’t want to hear about something that makes me very happy, because it doesn’t make you as happy as it makes me and that’s hard for me to grasp. it is hard for me to put myself in your shoes and consider that other people might not get the same excitement and joy that i get out of these things. conversely, i might refuse to participate in something most people enjoy and come off as a “buzzkill” or self centered because i don’t understand that other people enjoy something that only makes me upset. i may be confused as to why everyone is engaging in something so upsetting or simply boring, like watching sports or listening to music that i don’t want to hear.

low empathy does NOT actually look like: i don’t understand that other people have feelings and therefore, i do things that i know are wrong because i don’t care about how my actions affect other people, or don’t understand THAT they affect other people. i am mean and rude because i don’t think it has any consequences (as opposed to being rude without realizing it, which is related to social skills, not empathy)

It's the Holiday Season!

Holidays in the time of COVID are going to be. . .interesting. Wear ya mask! Be careful when going places that are indoors because that's where spread could be the highest. If you plan to visit family, be careful. Set boundaries, make sure you stay safe and they do as well.

And on that note, let's talk about fun stuff! Music! My family's Catholic, I'm not. My parents agree with me that the church has done some AWFUL shit, but we are big fans of Pope Francis. He's awesome. I love listening to Christmas music, it's one of my favorite genres of music. The classics to the modern stuff, Bing Crosby to the Barenaked Ladies. The Barenaked Ladies actually brings me to my next point!

So. My absolute FAVORITE song on their holiday album is Hanukkah Blessings. It's beautifully done, gorgeously sung, and the lyrics in Yiddish only make it better. I know, I know, I'm not Jewish. None of my family is. I don't go around preaching teachings from the Torah or appropriating Jewish culture. I have an appreciation for it. Hanukkah Blessings is a song that I just happen to love. People can enjoy music from other cultures. To all those who say that's a bad no-no, it's not like we're profiting off of it. And to all those confused about why the Barenaked Ladies have three Hanukkah songs on their holiday album-one of their members is Jewish. They wanted to honor that member and celebrate his religious holiday.

So, wrapping this shit up, be kind! Be understanding. Don't use another's culture and parade it as your own. Go ahead and play that Hanukkah song if you're Christian and enjoy it. Just don't try and profit off of it. The holiday season is a time for understanding, joy, and kindness. It's my favorite time of year. Christmas is my favorite holiday. Enjoy your holidays! Whether it's Kwanza, Hanukkah, Christmas, or some other winter holiday I'm forgetting.

i think that… approximately 100% of the time, parents, teachers, etc… have this misconception that neurodivergent kids & teens don’t know anything about how to handle their neurodivergence.

for years, i suffered through people making suggestions of things that were things i had done, and either weren’t worth the effort or they actually made things worse. i told them this, and if i was still having any issues with the same problem they’d say something about “well if you’re not gonna listen to any suggestions…” when I did. they’re the one who didn’t listen when i told them that doesn’t work for me. They assume that because I didn’t try it in front of them (which is often impossible), I never tried it. I tried doing my homework as soon as I got home. I tried doing my homework at the table, I tried working where I was comfortable. I tried listening to music, I tried working in silence. I tried using a planner, I tried setting reminders on my phone, I tried. I tell people that I have executive functioning issues and they say that I have to work on it like I haven’t been doing that as long as I’ve had to do things and it’s so much better than it was before. I’m as able as I am now because I’ve spent 18 years working on it.

One of my friends has ADHD, and at one point when her grades dropped her parents took her phone, despite her telling them that the only way she can focus on her homework is to listen to music, for which she needs her phone.

I was in a study hall with another friend, who also has ADHD. Sometimes, they would be able to focus and do their work. Others, they would end up being entirely unable to and would do other stuff. The “instructional support” person would start bothering them about it, insist that they try. As if they hadn’t already done so.

I am tired of watching people assume that neurodivergent people aren’t trying, or we haven’t tried. We’re always trying.

I have to make a meme for my sociological theory class. Please enjoy.

Me on a date: So how do you feel about the idea that poor people are stuck in a rut and can't escape?

My date: I think it's bullshit.

Me, stuffing breadsticks into my purse: I have to go.

My date: I think Karl Marx was right and they'll rise up against the bourgeoisie.

Me, slowly pulling breadsticks out of my purse: Go on.

Giraffes. . .are very scary. I was on the safari ride at Animal Kingdom(that's right, at DISNEY WORLD) when the car got too close to this family on giraffes that were RIGHT next to the tracks. Dad giraffe did not like this. So he ran up and down the side of the car and moved his head up and down like he was about to flip us. My poor brother was one of the people closest to the giraffe. We had to wait for like five-ten minutes for the giraffe to back off before we could move again.

A few years before that, my dad and I were on the same ride. A black rhino got REAL close to the car and we had to stop because black rhinos are more aggressive than white rhinos. That one got close to running into the side of the car.

Herbivores do NOT fuck around

why’re giraffes so violent

most big herbivores are, frankly. if you have a pretty steady supply of food and don’t have to worry about missing a hunt and starving to death, you can afford to throw your weight around more and generally be more aggressive!

that’s why the most dangerous big animals in the world are almost all herbivores.

Shoto Todoroki here. School's been very busy, but I'm here and ready for questions, comments, or concerns. Please don't hesitate to message me or send me an ask.

This is why I hang all my clothes up! I forget about half of my shirts and never wear them if they're in a drawer, plus it helps me stay organized anyways

ADHD life hacks #41,279: Vegetable Management

source tweet: X

My mom always underclasses her pain because she thinks of the scale as "10 is the worst" she's ever experienced and that, for her, is labor. It is for a lot of women. That doesn't mean your pain is less real than anyone else's and look at this scale for reference if you can!

My mom taught me to exaggerate my pain so that doctors would take me seriously and all I'm saying is that it hasn't failed me yet

What’s so bad about periods

Humans Are Weird

So there has been a bit of “what if humans were the weird ones?” going around tumblr at the moment and Earth Day got me thinking. Earth is a wonky place, the axis tilts, the orbit wobbles, and the ground spews molten rock for goodness sakes. What if what makes humans weird is just our capacity to survive? What if all the other life bearing planets are these mild, Mediterranean climates with no seasons, no tectonic plates, and no intense weather? 

What if several species (including humans) land on a world and the humans are all “SCORE! Earth like world! Let’s get exploring before we get out competed!” And the planet starts offing the other aliens right and left, electric storms, hypothermia, tornadoes and the humans are just … there… counting seconds between flashes, having snowball fights, and just surviving. 

If you want a good documentary series that goes over the atrocities committed by the United States during Vietnam, check out the Ken Burns documentary series on the Vietnam War. Ken Burns documentaries are about as unbiased as a history documentary as you can get. You'll learn so much about the war and its surrounding events on both sides.

Kent State University

ok but if bruce wayne somehow came upon zuko fresh out of banishment he would lose his mind.

black hair? check. bad parent(s)? check. trauma? double check.

bruce: how’d you get your scar?

zuko: my dad got mad at me for saying that killing people is wrong so he lit my face on fire and banished me.

bruce, vibrating with excitement, already pulling adoption papers from his utilility: that’s terrible. how do you feel about capes.

@neil-gaiman needs to hear about this!

I had the most bizzare dream last night. I was in a hotel/convention center of some sort, wandering around with some people. Probably characters from different shows, but I don’t remember who, just that at least one was very OOC…. 

We found a door that lead to a section that hadn’t been there before. The rooms were decorated more like someone’s apartment so we left. When we asked the staff said in an offhand manner, that it was a haunted area. So of course we went back and summoned the ghost. 

She was a very sweet old lady who hadn’t quite realized she was dead. Her whole reason for hanging around was that she was waiting for the next book in one of @neil-gaiman‘s series to come out. None of us had heard of it so we went to find him and ask about it. 

He looked very sad and said he had no intention of completing that series. It had been difficult to write and the motivation had left him a long time ago. He went with us to talk to the ghost since he felt so bad that she was hanging around for an impossibility. Once we got there, she looked so thrilled to be meet him. They had a long talk and he came up with a summary of what was going to happen. She gave him a hug and looked so peaceful as she disappeared.

This was a strong reminder to me as a fanfic writer that you never know how much your stories affect people or who may be waiting for an update. It always makes me sad when I go back to read a story and it’s been deleted. 

Also from what I have heard of Mr. Gaiman, this would absolutely be something he would do in heartbeat. I hope this isn’t upsetting to him. I know there are works I’m super behind on and at least I one I may not finish. @one-time-i-dreamt not a submission but something that I thought you might like?

@one-time-i-dreamt So my parents got me my own "tiny fucking pan" and I used it to make grilled cheese!

Anyway adults saying “I don’t know isn’t an answer” is part of the reason I learned to lie and bluff so well.

the 2 Ds in ADHD stand for Deranged and Delicious

I wish you would write a fic where...

Send me an anymous (or not) summary of the fic you wish I would write. (maybe I will write a tidbit)

My Hero Incorrect Quotes based off of shit me and my friends said:

Yaoyorozu: Do you want to break your other arm?

Midoriya: Yes.