Setting Boundaries Is Hard. Not Letting What Others Say About You Affect You Can Be Even Harder.

Setting boundaries is hard. Not letting what others say about you affect you can be even harder.

“Feelings buried alive never die.”

Karol Truman

Seriously hot take as someone who’s probably old enough to be a parent of you, system hopping is and was and always has been for RAMCOA SYSTEMS

Sincerely a RAMCOA System dx before the internet existed and it was used back then. Take your fake ass Endo crap and stop talking about things you know nothing about!

Semi hot take but I really wish anti endos would stop taking terms made by the endo community and claiming they were originally ramcoa terms just as a gotcha. This has happened twice both with the terms system hopping and side systems both are endo created terms but are now being claimed that they were originally ramcoa terms probably to make the endo community look bad. Like I get the endo community has some problems with taking terms and shit but we can’t just start making stuff up now.

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You were not a bad child. You were not difficult. You were not a burden. You were not evil.

You were a child.

It was the people around you who had a problem

And it was the people around you who were selfish enough to take their problems out on a child who was too small and helpless to defend themself.

It was the people around you who raised you to hate yourself.

And it's hard to believe when that awful environment is all you've known

But there are people out there who would be horrified at the way you've suffered

And there are people out there who would think you're amazing

It's not your fault you grew up in an abusive household

They're the ones who chose to mistreat you

And they were the ones who convinced you to blame yourself

And you deserve better

I promise you, you deserve better

Erica

Tiring but worth it